re: Question for the middle age folks on this board..

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I know my motivation should be to take care of and provide for my family, but leaning on that just isn't working for me anymore

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To each their own. I'm in my mid 30s so I don't think I'm quite in the age range you're asking this question to, but I have been working since I was a teen and worked full time while simultaneously going to college full time so I wouldn't have to take out loans after losing my TOPS for being a dumbass. I had a shitty, lazy dad that I didn't even meet until I was 8 and he put my mom in a bind by being broke and absent. So I aim to be a better provider and presence for my newborn kid and wife and actually be there for them, and any that come for me in the future. I can't predict my future but my goal is for that drive to continue until my kids can take care of themselves at the very least.

I have good coworkers and good bosses so that makes it easier too.

Turned 60 this year and I can't stand it anymore.

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That and I’ve gone as high up as I want to.

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Same. I'm not really meant for upper management and I know I'd hate it. I'm about as far as I'll ever go in my career and totally fine with that

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I'm not really meant for upper management and I know I'd hate it. I'm about as far as I'll ever go in my career and totally fine with that

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Unless you are at a big company and can really get the perks then the marginal benefits that come with it in smaller company’s just isn’t worth it to me. I’d rather be able to screw off if I truly don’t feel like working, leave at 3:00 to pick my kids up from school etc etc. Not into the sun up to sun down bullshite that comes with all of that exec level bs.

It’s called ‘the grind’ and the ‘rat race’ for a reason.

I’m lucky enough to be approaching retirement soon. At times several years ago I felt somewhat like you do.

I’ve started an internal countdown to keep me motivated more than I otherwise would be.

Working with good people in a relatively low stress job helps.

Hang in there. You will look back one day and not believe how fast it all passed by.

Go get your levels checked. Having my testosterone boosted back to 20 something levels has helped me be motivated in everything again. For me I’m
5 years from retiring so now my motivation is to finish the race strong.

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I'd retire tomorrow if I was able to

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I had thought this way forever. Retired in January of 2020 at 56 and then Hurricane Sally smoked us in September of 2020. I don't know I just can't help myself with all the easy money had to be made.

I’m with you.

My personal work situation is multi-faceted:

1). I love what I do, and I feel that God has truly called me to my profession, that I might help those in need (both physically and spiritually).

2). I love my co-workers. We all truly get along and have as fun a time as can be had given the situation; we’ve been through so much, and have really grown into a solid team.

3). Hospital/Administration is a pretty big negative.

Hospital absolutely hemorrhaged money during Covid with lack of elective surgeries, etc, but they are beginning to push unsafe patient ratios with an (IMO) concerning lack of ancillary support staff(resource, aides, etc).

I absolutely appreciate that we need to claw our way back financially as an organization, but this is the epitome of penny-wise pound-foolish, and it has - and will continue to - lead to regrettable outcomes.

I used to be very excited to go to work, and the hospital had a very positive morale, but now I(and most others I speak with) just want to help the patients to the best of our ability, and then get home to spend time with family. I’m content in my current role for now, and have lost any desire to advance up the ladder; I used to want to, but I now understand that I belong at the bedside for now.

Every morning on the way into work I pray to God for his forgiveness; and I pray for He and his Son to guide me; and to help me demonstrate competence, compassion, and love for everyone who He places in my path.

Even if I were to win Mega Million's tomorrow, I’d still go to work because there are people there whose lives I can make a positive difference in. I’d definitely pay for some extra nurses aides, though.

Here’s a little advice from someone who has worked for a family owned company for 39 years and made them millions. They don’t give a frick about you. It’s about how much they can stuff in their pockets for their family.

Oh, and my sister died last year and my brother is dying from stage 4 cancer. You want to know what they care about? When am I getting that millions of work load off my desk. But “I’m like family”…got a $30 Walmart card for Christmas though.