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Posted on 6/22/15 at 9:24 pm to 70739tigah
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My wife and i are both 35. We have been married 8 years with no kids. Life is great. Dont need them.
Why on earth would you ever get married then?
Posted on 6/22/15 at 9:26 pm to CougarBait
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Why on earth would you ever get married then?
So you only married to have kids? Your wife wouldn't be worth sharing the rest or your life with if kids were not part of the package?
Posted on 6/22/15 at 9:26 pm to BamaHater
70s will not even be midlife when considering my high level of income and advances in modern science. I mean it's like crazy to think I won't live to be 245 maybe 300.
Posted on 6/22/15 at 9:46 pm to BamaHater
The older I get the more I see the benefits of waiting. I'm in the gray half of my 20s and honestly can't imagine being a father until I'm 30 at least. And that would be if I start psyching up for it now/getting married/etc. Not ready or willing to do any of that now.
I want to be more than stable financially and have my selfish ambitions out of the way or under control.
Something seems so wasteful about starting having your kids within a few years of being on your own. My parents put a lot into raising me and taking care of me, giving me a great life - shouldn't I live MY life for some time before resetting the cycle? If your sole mission in life is to start your own family (nothing bad about that) then i can understand getting started. As for, I believe there's much more to life than that.
I am only beginning to appreciate the value of free time. I can't imagine giving it all to kids/family when I am able to admit I still desire unrestricted freedom to plan my days/months/years on my own.
I want to be more than stable financially and have my selfish ambitions out of the way or under control.
Something seems so wasteful about starting having your kids within a few years of being on your own. My parents put a lot into raising me and taking care of me, giving me a great life - shouldn't I live MY life for some time before resetting the cycle? If your sole mission in life is to start your own family (nothing bad about that) then i can understand getting started. As for, I believe there's much more to life than that.
I am only beginning to appreciate the value of free time. I can't imagine giving it all to kids/family when I am able to admit I still desire unrestricted freedom to plan my days/months/years on my own.
Posted on 6/22/15 at 9:48 pm to HurricaneDunc
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Kids are for young adults. I couldn't imagine having any that late in life.
NO SHITTTTT!!!!!!
I don't think I could go through that again at my age. I sure as hell would not want to go through adolescence with a daughter again. Ever! Damned near killed us the first time.
This post was edited on 6/22/15 at 9:50 pm
Posted on 6/22/15 at 9:57 pm to BamaHater
Either have em early or late. My youngest turns 18 when I'm 44. It'll be my peak earning years along with my wife. Should be a lot of fun.
Posted on 6/22/15 at 10:08 pm to BamaHater
My wife's parents were 46 when they had her. I will say the kids are usually set to get a leg up in life due to inheritance, I know we are (not looking forward to them dying or anything, they're great people). I know money isn't everything, but in this day and age if the kid has a good head on their shoulders, it'd be comforting for me knowing they are starting younger with a nice nest egg when I die. We'll inherit over 500 acres of land and a nice house.
With that said, my wife and I will probably wait until 35 or so.
With that said, my wife and I will probably wait until 35 or so.
This post was edited on 6/22/15 at 10:10 pm
Posted on 6/22/15 at 10:10 pm to BamaHater
Personally I think it's unfair to the kid to be a young teenager and have parents in their 60's. Not fair to the kid IMO.
Posted on 6/22/15 at 10:13 pm to kywildcatfanone
Why is it unfair? Some of the best people I've met had older parents. There are pros and cons to either decision, but ultimately, in my experience, kids with older parents are usually more responsible and wiser. Older parents have a lot of time to accumulate knowledge on what not to do.
Posted on 6/22/15 at 10:23 pm to Cool Hand Luke
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I definitely agree. I had my daughter at 46 and my son at 50.I was enjoying the single life through my 20's and 30's. Having kids when I did was perfect for me. Sure, I worry about leaving them behind if something happens. But I would worry about that at any age.
I'm the same as above but if something happens mine will do very well. Not to mention the couple of aunts that have no kids and have a ton of money and treat mine as theirs.
My youngest is 13 and has a classmate with a dad that is 82. That old man was fricking my friend.
Posted on 6/22/15 at 10:24 pm to AUbagman
My parents were mid 30's when they had me, and my father was a truck driver and worked long hours. Never felt like pitching ball with me, or doing lots of activities on the weekend, and I would consider that a good age for having your last kids.
Having kids in the mid 40's to me seems to possibly deprive the kids of active parents at a time when they are young.
I'm not saying there aren't advantages to it too, just think the cons outweigh the pros.
Having kids in the mid 40's to me seems to possibly deprive the kids of active parents at a time when they are young.
I'm not saying there aren't advantages to it too, just think the cons outweigh the pros.
Posted on 6/23/15 at 8:46 am to kywildcatfanone
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My parents were mid 30's when they had me, and my father was a truck driver and worked long hours. Never felt like pitching ball with me, or doing lots of activities on the weekend, and I would consider that a good age for having your last kids. Having kids in the mid 40's to me seems to possibly deprive the kids of active parents at a time when they are young. I'm not saying there aren't advantages to it too, just think the cons outweigh the pros.
This is a good point. My wife and I were 35 when our son was born. I'm not in bad shape but I can definitely feel the physical drop-off trying to keep up with him now versus keeping up with my nephews and nieces when I was in my mid-20s.
My son is four and like most four-year-olds, he's a mile a minute. I push through as best I can but with an arthritic hip and a knee, I feel like a withered grandpa when he wants me to get on the floor and play hotwheels or something.
I don't regret waiting but I definitely feel like my son's not getting as many activities with me as he wants and it bums me out when I can't keep up.
Posted on 6/23/15 at 8:51 am to cleeveclever
I had one at 28. She's 14. I'm remarried. Wife is 10 years younger than me. Never married or had kids. We are due in October for our little boy. Couldnt be more excited.
Posted on 6/23/15 at 8:51 am to Futures Bleak
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'm 19 and plan on not having kids until 40. Whether that plan works out, well idk
I hope you plan on getting with a younger woman when you are 40 because women start having issues with getting pregnant and childbirth in their mid 30's. That's not to say women can't have kids after that, but you run into lots more issues.
Posted on 6/23/15 at 9:09 am to 70739tigah
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My wife and i are both 35. We have been married 8 years with no kids. Life is great. Dont need them.
That's cool. Just make sure you die within a reasonable time. I don't feel like paying for someone to wipe your arse and give you sponge baths because you don't have any offspring to do it.
Posted on 6/23/15 at 9:15 am to CougarBait
Some people actually love each other. Would you leave your wife if she was infertile?
Posted on 6/23/15 at 9:34 am to BamaHater
Assuming you are a good parent; why wouldn't you want as much time as possible to enjoy each other and then meet your grandkids?
Why not be 45 with no minors and enjoy life with your spouse and your kids in their adult lives?
Idk. I see parents at 45 dropping their kids off in kindergarten and I think "that sucks".
Why not be 45 with no minors and enjoy life with your spouse and your kids in their adult lives?
Idk. I see parents at 45 dropping their kids off in kindergarten and I think "that sucks".
Posted on 6/23/15 at 10:04 am to BamaHater
Had my son at 40 and it was a perfect time. It was pretty much when I stopped being a kid!
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