re: People who cut off their family, what did they do to you?

Won't associate with my mom's side of the family. They didn't show to my sibling's funeral because COVID. Not an acceptable excuse.

Not really going out of my way not to see them, but unless they try to touch base with me I probably won't see them again until their funerals.

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We have some friends that had a son. He got married to a real life satan bitch. She convinced him to have nothing to do with his parents and even have a baby that the wife won’t let his parents even have contact with. Pretty sad. Plus my 1st daughter has a child that I have never seen. Haven’t talked to daughter in over 8 years. The grand daughter live like 15 miles from me… not sure how to handle this.she is like 17 now.

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This kind of thing makes no sense to me. Why do people teach their kids that it's ok not to let their children meet their grandparents? Don't they realize they will also be grandparents one day?

Mind your own business

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Daughter. She's an ungrateful, disrespectful shithead.

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add self-centered,has made enough bad decisions to get from disappointing to embarrassing, has zero structure. All while dragging 3 kids with her.

My BIL stole money from us and we no longer talk to him.

My mom has chased my two brothers and their families away. I'm the only one left sticking around the area.
My dad, although a nice person, hides from her.
He retired around 8 years ago and bought a motor home to travel the country with my mom.
It was his dream.
They were on the road less than 6 months before coming home, selling the camper and my dad going back to work.
My mom has never worked, she wanted to be a stay at home parent. (She was strongly opposed to the womens rights movement during her college years).
She's never done anything, leaving my brothers and I to take care of ourselves/each other growing up.
Our mom goes from doctor to doctor to get the prescriptions she prefers, drinks heavily and watches cnn all day.

A few years ago, she screamed at me for not being vaccinated. She called me every name in the book and demanded I leave her home and could only return when I showed my vax card.

I tried to explain that I was the only son left that she had not ran off, my brothers and their families had moved hundreds of miles away because of her (their words).
She gave up on the vax requirements right before Christmas after no one came home for Thanksgiving.
I feel bad for her, she has no friends anymore but tries to start fights/divide the family every chance she gets. She attempted to get a f*** trump/not my president chant going with her grandkids around 2018, promptly ending that get together.
Our family gatherings used to be huge, with all our families getting together frequently. (Between my brothers, our wives and our children theirs 12 of us) our mom has ripped it all apart.
My dad apologizes to us for her behavior, but tells me she won't change.
My mom has single handedly destroyed our core family because of cable news and politics.

I never used to care about politics,
My brothers and I don't even vote...

I just have an idiot sister in law who refuses to work, cook, clean and has an opinion on everything. But I blame my brother for that since he's an idiot who lets her get away with such behavior. Never considered cutting them out over it though. Hell, he's paying the penalty for it every day that he has to get up fix the kids their stuff, get them to school, go to work all day, come home fix dinner and clean the house. If that's the life he prefers, then it's HIS prison. Luckily they live over 12 hrs away from me. No telling how much money they 'borrowed' from our parents, but know at least $50k, but that's on my parents. I'm pretty much able to get along with anyone as long as I'm not drinking whiskey.

Our sister, who lived in NY, and only would reach out or visit our mother during birthdays or holidays, came to our mother’s to day during Covid.

Mother has early onset dementia and she was essentially groomed and coerced by our sister. She took our mother to an attorney’s office to change her will and power of attorney.The original will left everything to all 4 kids, equally.

The new will that my mother, thankfully, refused to sign, left everything to our sister. The power of attorney also would have appointed solely our sister as agent for my mother’s finances and accounts.

Some other siblings keep in touch with her, at arm’s length, but the relationship has been severed.

Man… reading some of these lets me know how lucky I’ve been with family.

We have the Hector Salamanca theory on family, La familia lo es todo.

I’ve never cut anyone off.. but I have sort of lost touch with some cousins due to life and stuff. But if they called and said they were in town and were wanting to have dinner to catch up, I’d be at the restaurant tonight.