My aunt and her husband have been separated for like 15 years and are both living with other people. They haven't seen each other for like 8 years. But getting divorced is expensive so they haven't.

They're odd.

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Posted by Evil Little Thing

Member since Jul 2013

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Posted on 7/13/17 at 4:30 pm to dpd901

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The other issue is that there is no "legal separation" in Louisiana (at least there wasn't 15 years ago when I went through it); therefore your spouse can technically sue for adultery and be awarded alimony as a result if it's found out you were banging the new SO before the divorce was final. It's also retroactive, so if it comes out after it's finalized, they could take you back to court.

This is not really accurate. At all.

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Posted by LSUGrad9295

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Member since May 2007

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Posted on 7/13/17 at 4:32 pm to Paul Allen

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The very last thing on someone's mind while separated should be getting into a new relationship

Agreed...BUT a lot of people don't plan it, it just happens. I mentioned in a post earlier about a girl I met who was 2 months or so into her separation and dated for a little while. We just hit it off. If we had met in a different time or place, she was definitely long-term relationship material and I think she would say the same thing about me.

When I came along, I made her feel good about herself again and she repeatedly thanked me for that. She had been cheated on by her husband and that made her self-esteem crumble and she felt undesirable. She cut off our relationship before it got too far because she was afraid of hurting me and because she didn't know what the hell she wanted. It sucked but I understood

So I ended up being her buffer back into the world of dating. She started seeing a guy a few months later and now they are married...about 5 years now I think. I am happy that she figured out what she wanted after some time went by and that she is doing really well.

This post was edited on 7/13/17 at 4:34 pm

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Posted by I am GLORIOUS

On Tanden's Pond

Member since Oct 2016

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Posted on 7/13/17 at 4:43 pm to SuperSaint

Many people are codependent. I went through a period of that -- jumped from one relationship to another to another. It was a mixture of a fear of being alone, and needing a woman with me, both for sexual gratification and companionship.

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Posted by 20MuleTeam

West Hartford

Member since Sep 2012

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Posted on 7/13/17 at 4:53 pm to RedRifle

Don't blame society because you're too much of a goober to get a date while your soon to be ex is getting railed on the reg

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Posted by Crawdaddy

Slidell. The jewel of Louisiana

Member since Sep 2006

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Posted on 7/13/17 at 6:16 pm to RedRifle

It's a bad move. At least the ones posting online all the dates and such. Last thing you want to do during separation is to poss off the other spouse even more. Play it cool and hope you keep your shite. Piss the other off and say good by out of spite.

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Posted by stelly1025

Lafayette

Member since May 2012

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Posted on 7/13/17 at 6:20 pm to RedRifle

Odds are they were dating before they separated.

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Posted by Mung

NorCal

Member since Aug 2007

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Posted on 7/13/17 at 6:21 pm to RedRifle

before divorce petition is filed, adultery. After filing, free and clear.

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Posted by pickle311

Liberty Hill TX

Member since Sep 2008

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Posted on 7/13/17 at 6:32 pm to RedRifle

I went out and pulled some strange the day after we decided to separate. I got up that morning and went apartment hunting. Signed the papers on the apartment, got the keys, then went to get some drinks. Me me a cougar at the bar and brought her back to show her my completely empty new apartment. She liked it a lot and came to visit me a few more times.

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