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Posted on 8/31/22 at 8:22 pm to stelly1025
I have 4 kids. One has ODD. It’s real and it sucks. Your child can have the sweetest disposition for the majority of the time. However, when they disagree they are all in. The child doesn’t understand what they are doing. They just dig their heals in and refuse to be agreeable to anything. They would literally rather take the lick than listen. It destroys your patience and you do your best to work with it and not let it affect the other kids. But man…when it’s rough it’s rough.
And it’s not soft parenting. My wife and I run a tight ship. With this, it’s just something between their ears that sets them off.
And if you feel obliged to offer a downvote…god bless ya.
And it’s not soft parenting. My wife and I run a tight ship. With this, it’s just something between their ears that sets them off.
And if you feel obliged to offer a downvote…god bless ya.
This post was edited on 8/31/22 at 9:02 pm
Posted on 8/31/22 at 8:27 pm to SavageOrangeJug
My wife and I discuss this all the time. We do our best, and absolutely hate our imperfections in the parenting department.
This truly is a chemical and wiring issue in the brain. They're just different. When I discipline my daughter, it's like she understands, not my boy though... it's like he goes into a shell and just lashes out. Over small things. I guarantee that whipping my boy is not going to help in my situation to a degree, I've tried. It only makes it worse. And I don't want to cross the line into abuse, or even get close to it.
This truly is a chemical and wiring issue in the brain. They're just different. When I discipline my daughter, it's like she understands, not my boy though... it's like he goes into a shell and just lashes out. Over small things. I guarantee that whipping my boy is not going to help in my situation to a degree, I've tried. It only makes it worse. And I don't want to cross the line into abuse, or even get close to it.
Posted on 8/31/22 at 8:31 pm to lakeviewtiger
Exactly this! It's lovely most of the time til it's not, then it's miserable.
After he has an episode, he will start crying because he's sorry. He becomes another person when he had these episodes.
After he has an episode, he will start crying because he's sorry. He becomes another person when he had these episodes.
Posted on 8/31/22 at 9:10 pm to Skervix
Mine is six. We sometimes we just want to quit and find the nearest doc that will write a script. We are working with her teachers, working on what keeps her busy and happy and trying to minimize the episodes.
I feel what you are going through because it’s not easy to be so angry with a little person you love unconditionally.
We are going through how we approach this and trying to be more on her level when we suspect an episode is coming on and abate it with more direct and “goofy” with the approach. She is responding to that better.
Hoping as she gets older and Less frustrated with little tasks and school, that we can get closer to being on a more even keel.
Keep up the good work. It’s okay to feel what you’re feeling. Just wake up and do your best each day.
And once again…the OT never ceases to amaze me with the support you can find.
I feel what you are going through because it’s not easy to be so angry with a little person you love unconditionally.
We are going through how we approach this and trying to be more on her level when we suspect an episode is coming on and abate it with more direct and “goofy” with the approach. She is responding to that better.
Hoping as she gets older and Less frustrated with little tasks and school, that we can get closer to being on a more even keel.
Keep up the good work. It’s okay to feel what you’re feeling. Just wake up and do your best each day.
And once again…the OT never ceases to amaze me with the support you can find.
Posted on 8/31/22 at 9:29 pm to Skervix
ODD is tough to deal with and I’m sorry you’re going through that. Definitely seek a out a pediatric psychiatrist. There are some at Tulane and childrens hospital in Nola if you can’t find one in BR.
Posted on 8/31/22 at 10:13 pm to Skervix
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He was just diagnosed with ADHD and ODD.
ODD is problematic
ADHD is sometimes used by schools because the teacher doesnt have the experience or tools necessary to deal with kids who arent going to meet those test score benchmarks. Some kids just never kick in.
But do not put him on meds for ADHD. Its not a solution, its just a means to an end
LINK
Posted on 8/31/22 at 10:18 pm to adamau
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There are legitimately some of the worst responses I've ever read to this person in this thread. Children that have ADHD and some other issues that are related, have brains that work in a different manner. The processing zone that helps "normal" people understand what the emotions of others are and regulate our own, create our standard human reward system and more is delayed and doesn't give that CHILD, who is already struggling to figure those things out the ability to deal well at all with their emotions etc. It is very real for some children and some of you pieces of shite are telling this parent that's trying to help his child that he's worthless and his kid is just a piece of shite too. frick Off. Is it over diagnosed absolutely, over medicated absolutely, but 1000% real for some people and it certainly effects thier lives MASSIVELY in those cases, and many of those kids are made to feel like they are awful people as kids and teenagers because they were never helped to develop the simple skills to cope with those things that others do naturally and either languish or hurt themselves and others because of it.
ADHD is another term for lazy. ODD isn’t a thing.
Posted on 8/31/22 at 10:26 pm to Fox McCloud
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ADHD is another term for lazy. ODD isn’t a thing.
Hooks to shiny
Posted on 8/31/22 at 10:30 pm to Skervix
Coach. It’s real.
Ask your pediatrician for a referral. There are options
Ask your pediatrician for a referral. There are options
This post was edited on 9/1/22 at 6:38 am
Posted on 8/31/22 at 11:20 pm to Skervix
My 10 year old grandson sees a counselor at school and also has skype calls with a therapist. No meds. I don’t know that he’s actually been diagnosed with ADHD, but he’s had behavioral issues at home and at school. No issue with his grades. He’s limited in extracurricular activities and sports because he spends weekends with his mom about 30 miles away, so we started getting him involved with horses. He loves it and so far this school year, he hasn’t gotten into any trouble. Lessons are only $35 an hour, every other week.
Posted on 8/31/22 at 11:43 pm to rantfan
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Well I will tell you this smart arse , the current way of medicating these boys with pharmaceutical meth isn't the answer. Also, you judgemental douche nozzle my daughter suffers from mental disorders, depression acting out by cutting so EABOD
Translation: a-hole dad fricked his daughter up. The way you rage here puts all of this into perspective. Poor kid
Posted on 8/31/22 at 11:53 pm to Skervix
I should have had one
Posted on 9/1/22 at 12:26 am to Skervix
This book is available for kids and teens. It's awesome and especially awesome for parents of misbehaving kids. Even if you made parenting mistakes and he's gotten in trouble, it is not too late to change your parenting and his behavior. I too needed the Cliff notes to being a good parent.
My son has also been diagnosed with ADHD and I am convinced that us using the parenting skills in this book has made a difference for good in his life trajectory.
The book addresses a lot of common parenting styles and mistakes that can worsen behaviors. When I see parents counting to three at their toddlers or bribing their spoiled little crumbsnatchers to be good, I chuckle, because I remember what it was like when I was doing the same thing.
This post was edited on 9/1/22 at 12:45 am
Posted on 9/1/22 at 12:32 am to rantfan
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ADHD isn't really a thing. Teachers can't handle kids these days. Hey teach, let the the boys that are very energetic play outside a little longer.
Ok pal - what neurology degree did you get?
Posted on 9/1/22 at 5:30 am to Skervix
Ashley Albarado, psychiatrist in Lafayette for the meds. She used to be in Baton Rouge but moved to Lafayette.
Marcia Cox, psychologist in Baton Rouge for the therapy/counseling.
Good luck and avoid adderal until the final last resort. It's a horrible drug that can take control of a person but unfortunately sometimes is needed, just don't go straight for it. Last resort!!!
Marcia Cox is beyond awesome. Good luck with your child and marriage. It will take a toll.
Marcia Cox, psychologist in Baton Rouge for the therapy/counseling.
Good luck and avoid adderal until the final last resort. It's a horrible drug that can take control of a person but unfortunately sometimes is needed, just don't go straight for it. Last resort!!!
Marcia Cox is beyond awesome. Good luck with your child and marriage. It will take a toll.
Posted on 9/1/22 at 8:13 am to Prominentwon
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There are cases where it’s pretty legit. Next thing you know, you’re going to be here telling us all that mental health isn’t real and all the buttercups should just suck it up.
Didn't the person who founded/confounded the term ADHD admit on his deathbed he made it all up?
Posted on 9/1/22 at 8:17 am to Fox McCloud
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ADHD is another term for lazy.
ADHD is divided up into three different types: Predominantly hyperactive, predominantly inattentive, and mixed.
So your comment makes absolutely no sense.
And ODD absolutely exists.
Posted on 9/1/22 at 9:07 am to BluegrassBelle
ADHD is not the kids are lazy but it really means the parents are lazy and looking for the easy way out. I was having issues with my son as well with him lashing out and losing his shite at school. He can also get into that ODD temperament but we can usually correct him pretty quickly. We had him see a psychologist and advised him right off the bat that prescription meds were out of the question. He actually advised against ADHD medicines until kids reach around 10. Son was diagnosed with some learning issues as well so he gets a little extra time with test and sees a counselor. He is not perfect but no way I'm giving my boy drugs just so that he will be easier for me and my wife to deal with.
Posted on 9/1/22 at 9:15 am to boogedy
School Shooting Thread Consensus: We need to acknowledge and provide more support for mental health in this country.
ADHD/ODD Thread Consensus: frick them lazy kids and deadbeat parents.
ADHD/ODD Thread Consensus: frick them lazy kids and deadbeat parents.
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