re: My Mom is Slipping.

Praying for you and momma.

Man I'm really sorry to hear this. I just went through dementia with my dad, lost him in April but he battled 8 years.

Prayers to you, your mom and family.

Going through it too. It is a diabolical disease. I'd recommend crossword puzzles and daily exercise. If she's beyond that point or unable to exercise, socializing with different people as much as possible can help.

Hope that she doesn't have to have any kind of surgery that requires general anesthesia. Postoperative Delirium can make things worse literally overnight and changes can be lasting, if not permanent. I've experienced moments of darkness I can't even describe with my mom in that situation. Neurologists are not easy to see so make a list of questions beforehand and keep adding to it.

Some patients can push on with this for many years, but it depends on the stage, type, options of care, and the individual. You're making the right strides for her, and I pray things will work out well and progression can be hampered.

I live in Pearland, southeast Houston area, and am in the beginning stage of that myself - I cannot remember stuff that happened recently - names have always been difficult for me, but now are just a shot in the dark and I don't even try - just ask for the name. I can understand a lot more than I can verbalize. But some procedural crap that depends on the way modern digital communications function are a mystery to me - I cannot grasp the new command structures that are required.

All I can tell you is that an understanding family is the most important thing in the world at this time. I am fortunate enough to have that. They monitor me quite well.

Fortunately, although my wife is older than I am, her memory is fantastic - I used to joke about her being able to remember things that didn't even happen, but now I rely on it almost exclusively. And she has her own very serious problems. Macular degeneration has destroyed her eyesight, can barely distinguish images - would not recognize me if not for my voice and mannerisms. Plus advanced diabetes and failing back. Yet, she tries to pamper me.

Give your mom all the love she deserves and all the attention she needs. If she seems unaware of her forgetfulness, try to not confront her with it, but monitor its severeness. Find a good doctor to make sure any medical treatments are being administered.

Love and companionship is most important.

Good luck to you all.

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From what you described, I wish she had a UTI. But most likely, she has dementia. What form of it really doesn't matter (in the grand scheme of things).

My mom has it. Vascular.

There are many good support groups. I recommend purchasing a book called "Meet Me Where I Am" by Mary Ann Drummond.

Realize that each day is going to look much different as the days, weeks, and years progress. It can be very hard on your family to see and endure. For her, not so much. And that is the actual blessing.

It just Happens. My Mom does the same thing. I use to bring it but it would upset her. I just try to enjoy the time we have. Unfortunate lesson I learned when my Dad passed.

We just put my mom in a memory care unit. My step father kept her at home with sitters, but her disease has just progressed too far.

My mother had vascular onset in her 60s. It goes surprisingly fast.

I’ll pray for your family.

It’s tough, man. Sorry.

My mom was diagnosed with Alzheimer’s about 3 months ago. She showed some seemingly age-related cognitive decline for a few years but it didn’t seem to progress massively until she retired and then almost immediately after, the Covid lockdowns cut her off from any social interaction she had in her city.

Now she’s to a point where she still has long term memory but her short term memory is almost non-existent. So now my older brother and I are trying to relocate her and figure out the financials.

If you haven’t already, do all of the power of attorney and medical POA stuff before there is any official diagnosis as it complicates things massively to do any of that once an Alzheimer’s diagnosis is in place.

Also, if I could go back in time, I’d have started a long term care policy for my mom before her symptoms advanced. We are looking at some massive expenses because she doesn’t have the kind of coverage that will keep her out of state-run facilities when she finally needs full-time care - which isn’t far off, sadly.


Hang in there and get as much personal connection as you can with the time she has left. It goes fast and is heartbreaking the whole way.

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You sound really smart.

I am so sorry this is happening.

My MIL has been diagnosed with Alzheimer’s and it’s strange how it is so different for each person. She won’t ask us about someone who died 10 years ago but she will absolutely not be able to tell you if she ate breakfast this morning or remember going to get her haircut just a few hours ago. There is zero short term memory anymore. She still does pretty well with the older stuff, the older the memory the more intact it is.