re: My fiancee cheated on me.

Yes you will get called a beta. ....but I hear you loud and clear for your love of a kid who is not even yours!!! Wow this really fricks up the situation with respect to custody and shite.....like literally wow!!

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I know my daughter isn't biologically mine. She was just pregnant when I met her. But my daughter is my daughter. She's my world and nothing will ever change that.

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A court order would.

Unless you’ve legally adopted this child, then the eyes of the law will see things differently.

You need a lawyer immediately - if not for your shite, then to establish your ability to keep your child. It's just before 6 am here, you should be calling law offices at 8 am.

Had this happen to me, feel your pain.

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And I told her I forgave her, but I'm not sure why. Part of me just wanted her to feel better. Why do I still love her and care about her? Why am I the one who is left here alone?

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I did this with my wife as well, in part because I absolutely loved her, and wanted to work through it, but ultimately I was alone and hurting and she was the one who cheated.

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In what world is this fair?

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It's not

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But how can a person be so cruel?

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There are many selfish people out there.

Sorry for what you are dealing with.

you still need legal counsel to see if she can take your name off and name the real father at any time...

Man, i’ve Ridden this ride,
Got the t-shirt and the scars,
Protect your daughter and yourself.

You can let this be a millstone around your neck and have it drown you,
Or cast it into the sea and sail on to a port you can call home.

ETA: wait the girl isn’t actually your daughter?

Maybe this makes me an arse but cut bait. Cut bait and run. I know she’s roped you in and made you love this little girl but someone else’s offspring isn’t worth being roped into a lifetime with a cheating whore.

Actually, i think you are a really good man for being a daddy to that baby girl. That takes more maturity and compassion than most people have.

Do this old woman a favor though and think about both you and the baby for a minute. Picture you and that stellar woman who gave birth to that child, about five years in the future.

You get home work, kid in tow, and she's not home. You start supper and she finally walks in. You are already thinking the obvious, but she says she got stuck on the basin bridge in traffic. But it royally pisses her off that you have the nerve to suspect...but you're right. You two are in a screaming match, and your daughter is crying in her room.

That is how your life will be if you do forgive her and get married. I promise. She has ruined the possibility of trust from you forever. You will never know if she is telling the truth.

If she has one baby by another man, is engaged to you, and sleeps with still ANOTHER man, this little slut will never be faithful throughout a lifetime of marriage.

Do you really want to live like that, and put that sweet baby through that?? Don't do something that you'll look back 40 years from now and wish you knew then what you know now.

I know...tldr. DON'T DO IT!

Learn About Father's Rights - Family Law
LINK

I've seen a judge before tell my buddy "You put your name on the birth certificate, you're the father." No test ordered

Sadly I'm well aware of Father's rights, I went through hell and back and won custody of my son. This situation is looking more amicable on that front, due to her being held back from her dad by her mom when she was a child.