re: My Body Has Defeated Me. It's Over.

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Palpitations?

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Palpitations with occasional PVC’s were diagnosed 8 years ago and never had issues after. Tried to increase my life insurance recently and got declined due to the insurance company’s findings on a new ekg. Of course I want to figure out wtf is going on.

who gives a frick what you were dealt


stop being a bitch and act like a man

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I'm not a good person.

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Fix this first.

Identify some traits of good people that you can mimic. It could be volunteer work, career coaching, monetary donations, whatever. That could be the first step in building your sense of self worth, and would be a step in the right direction.

Holy frick, I laughed so hard at this

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I see other people who talk about being an Asthmatic like it defines their life. That's all I am now, a disease? A disease that defines my life?

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No. It's only a part of your life. You're only 36; it doesn't have to define you.

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But no one, not my regular doctor or a Pulmonologist I saw, seems to care.

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Then go find another doctor or pulmonologist. There are all sorts of help out there and plenty of medical professionals who will care.

Also you need to speak to a mental health professional (like a therapist). There should be plenty of people to choose from near you and if all else fails, there is 1-800-273-8255.

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Do you have parents? Siblings? Cousins? Coworkers? Friends?

You matter to them, you matter to the lives of those you could change by volunteering, to your future spouse, your future kids

I really hope you take the advice of finding a professional to talk to, I think you will benefit from it & life will look much brighter once you can open up to everything that’s waiting for you

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Yes I have my parents and yes both my parents (my mom especially, she's had struggles in her life and considers my sister and I to have made it all worth it) would be devastated if I ended my life. I have one sister who yes would be devastated. My brother in law had to deal with an adopted brother who was gay who killed himself, I'm sure it would bring back terrible memories for him.

Not close to my cousins at all, they would care less. Not that close to my nieces, they would probably be sad but would get over it pretty quickly. Not a lot of close friends though there are a few and I know they would be sad but would probably get over it pretty quickly.

I'm 36, it's probably too late to have a future spouse or future kids. I've always been on the fence about kids anyway, never really wanted to have any of my own so I could probably be persuaded to have one. I don't make a ton of money so I wouldn't want a kid of mine to have to suffer from not having the same level of childhood I did. Plus why would I want to pass along my faulty genes to an offspring?

Part of me dreams sometimes about what it would be like if I did die and could see my own memorial. Would many people show up? What would they say?

You just have to keep breathing..
You never know what the tide will bring tomorrow. Good luck

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I understand what you're trying to say but how am I supposed to feel? The next time I get on an airplane I could end up dying and no stupid doctor seems to care. They all think its mental, it's not mental. Yet if you take travel away from me I'm completely dead inside anyway. Travel is the one thing that has brought me joy in the last 5 years or so and now I'm losing it.

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Are they saying you're having panic attacks? I have anxiety and had a killer panic attack a couple of times, one of which lasted about 3 days. Felt like I couldn't breathe, but cardiovascular was working fine. I was basically hyperventilating trying to catch a breath perpetually.

Anxiety is not logical. That took me a long time to accept and understand. One of the things the docs did was measured my O2 saturation in my blood. If your blood is properly oxygenated, you are medically fine and you're having a panic attack. I don't and didn't have stressors in my life in particular. I learned some things that set it off. Caffeine sets it off and certain food groups do it. Flying does it and so does being in confined places that I can't control and being on a cruise ship does it too. Depression and anxiety are common to experience with each other.

I'm not dismissing the asthma aspect of it, but it is possible you're experiencing panic attacks and not able to differentiate between asthma and a panic attack. I won't pretend to know the asthmatic side of it, but I really thought I was going to die the times I had a panic attack. Even blacked out at one point because I was hyperventilating but didn't understand that is what was going on.

From my end, anxiety is a bitch. I am able to manage my anxiety without taking meds, but it's mentally defeating some days to where all I want to do is lay around but you can't do that.

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Really? Care to tell me how I'm going to drive or take a boat to Europe? Or Australia? Or Japan? China? Brazil? How exactly is that going to work again?

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Cruise ships. Like the Titanic, only they don’t sink. There are ships that will literally take you anywhere in the world.

I understand you’re depressed and upset. Don’t let that get in the way of being reasonable.

Sounds like your attitude is making your pain feel far worse.


Try seeing a counselor or psychologist. Get around and be social, be around people as much as possible.