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re: Moving before daughter's senior year of high school
Posted on 9/13/17 at 12:44 pm to northshorebamaman
Posted on 9/13/17 at 12:44 pm to northshorebamaman
gotta agree with you here. I have been lurking in this thread b/c I don't have kids so I have nothing to offer other than my opinion. But I can't understand some of the posts here. Shes the child, she should do what she is told. You aren't putting her up for adoption, your moving to a new city. She isn't an immature pre-teen. She should be able to handle this. If she can't, she will be able to after this is all over. I cannot even begin to understand how this is such a big deal or how anyone could be so conflicted about this.
You are parents. Act like it and lead. Do whats best for the family. Where Suzy goes to high school her senior year shouldn't even be a topic of conversation till you move to the new town and have to choose a new school.
You are parents. Act like it and lead. Do whats best for the family. Where Suzy goes to high school her senior year shouldn't even be a topic of conversation till you move to the new town and have to choose a new school.
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Posted on 9/13/17 at 12:46 pm to ShermanTxTiger
Yes, I have. My family moved during the summer of my Jr. year. I had no desire to start over again at a new school, so I worked it out with friends and teachers and I stayed behind for the next school year to finish. I lived with my friend from church and relied on teachers and coaches for rides to and from school. My grandpa sent me a monthly stipend of $80 and I made it work (it was the 90's). I graduated with all A's and perfect attendance that year.
Posted on 9/13/17 at 1:04 pm to tigerinthebueche
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You are parents. Act like it and lead. Do whats best for the family.
Exactly. And the same people love to bitch about how entitled kids are these days. Of course they're entitled when they've grown up wielding veto power over their parents.
And these people are calling him a shitty parent without even knowing anything about his daughter. There are plenty of legitimate reasons a parent could be uncomfortable with leaving their teenage daughter behind.
Posted on 9/13/17 at 1:07 pm to northshorebamaman
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People move schools all the time and you guys are acting like he's ruining her life.
I was an Army Brat. I saw all that moving mess up kids. Some handled it well, some did not.
Depending on the type of daughter he has and only he knows this, it could be the single worse thing to happen in her short life. On the flip side, she might be fine with it.
Senior year is a pretty fun time and the close to a chapter in your life.
Posted on 9/13/17 at 1:09 pm to ShermanTxTiger
If you're okay with your daughter hating and resenting you for a long time, by all means make the move.
Posted on 9/13/17 at 1:10 pm to DarthRebel
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it could be the single worse thing to happen in her short life.
Then he's doing a bang up job and she will bounce back quickly.
Posted on 9/13/17 at 1:13 pm to ShermanTxTiger
I went through a similar situation when I was in high school, only I was a junior and I have an older brother who was 2 years older than me. My dad got a job before my sophomore year and my brother's senior year, so my dad moved by himself for a year to let my brother graduate. It was tough on my dad being by himself for a year, but like others have said, you make sacrifices. If it's that big of a deal to her I would try to work out something to where you could stay and let her finish.
For me, I had two years to adjust and make friends. It was rough at first, me being an introverted person, but I eventually got used to it and still kept in touch with my friends back home. And I eventually moved back home to go to LSU.
Take it from me, when you're a teenager and you have to move away from your friends, it can be heartbreaking. Senior year means everything to you when you're a kid, even though later in life it won't. So I would just have a discussion with her and if it can't be worked out that she can stay for a year, just be as sympathetic as possible.
Good luck
For me, I had two years to adjust and make friends. It was rough at first, me being an introverted person, but I eventually got used to it and still kept in touch with my friends back home. And I eventually moved back home to go to LSU.
Take it from me, when you're a teenager and you have to move away from your friends, it can be heartbreaking. Senior year means everything to you when you're a kid, even though later in life it won't. So I would just have a discussion with her and if it can't be worked out that she can stay for a year, just be as sympathetic as possible.
Good luck
Posted on 9/13/17 at 1:21 pm to DarthRebel
I'm also not saying it's ideal to move her. But life happens and my job as a father is to weigh everyone in the family's concerns and decide the best course to move forward as a family. Her senor prom and such will be taken under consideration but it will not have an outsized influence on the future and direction of every other person in the household.
Posted on 9/13/17 at 1:22 pm to StealthCalais11
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If you're okay with your daughter hating and resenting you for a long time, by all means make the move.
No offense to LA but if she transferred to a top high school in Chandler/Gilbert/Scottsdale she will probably have more fun her senior year and more options for college and her future. And there is 10x more cool shite to do in AZ than LA for young people.
She needs to be attractive and very confident to pull this off, other wise she will hate mom and dad for ruining her life.
Posted on 9/13/17 at 1:31 pm to ShermanTxTiger
It sucks for her, but that's life. Sometimes things just don't go the way we want them to go.
Posted on 9/13/17 at 2:01 pm to ShermanTxTiger
I moved about 1,000 miles a few weeks before my senior year of high school. Wasn't a problem at all, took maybe a month to adjust. Have no idea what my life would be like now if I never moved. That was 9 years ago.
Posted on 9/13/17 at 2:07 pm to ShermanTxTiger
That's fricked up to that to your daughter....tell your wife to quit being a count
Posted on 9/13/17 at 2:13 pm to ShermanTxTiger
Yep.. I got laid off of my oil and gas company in DFW and landed a job with Conoco in Houston. Son was finishing his junior year of HS. I got an apartment in Houston and commuted back on weekends for 14 months until he graduated. It sucked for me but I was not going to pull him out of school his senior year.
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