- My Forums
- Tiger Rant
- LSU Recruiting
- SEC Rant
- Saints Talk
- Pelicans Talk
- More Sports Board
- Coaching Changes
- Fantasy Sports
- Golf Board
- Soccer Board
- O-T Lounge
- Tech Board
- Home/Garden Board
- Outdoor Board
- Health/Fitness Board
- Movie/TV Board
- Book Board
- Music Board
- Political Talk
- Money Talk
- Fark Board
- Gaming Board
- Travel Board
- Food/Drink Board
- Ticket Exchange
- TD Help Board
Customize My Forums- View All Forums
- Show Left Links
- Topic Sort Options
- Trending Topics
- Recent Topics
- Active Topics
Started By
Message
re: Married couples renewing vows, does it just mean someone cheated?
Posted on 7/12/24 at 11:30 am to Jeb Busch Lite
Posted on 7/12/24 at 11:30 am to Jeb Busch Lite
Last year the wife, daughter and I went to Asia to celebrate our 20th anniversary. I got out 14 year old daughter "ordained" online and wrote vows for me and my wife and asked my daughter to write "the ceremony".
The day of our renewal (which the wife didn't know about) I bought a $2 dashiki to pair with a pair of linen pants I bought in the airport in Singapore to dress it up a bit and at sunset, we went for a walk on the beach in Boracay, Pi.
I proposed to my wife the first time at sunset on a beach so figured it was only fitting to re-proposed in the same manner. An emerald is considered an appropriate 20th gift but I explained to the wife that two weeks in Asia was her gift when I was on a knee I offered her up an emerald color trinket bracelet sized to fit a small child instead.
We walked back to our resort where to my wifes surprise, my daughter was waiting with two people she found video the event and she re-marred us right there on the beach in the Phillippines.
Nothing more than a sign, a recommitment and a resounding affirmation of my commitment to her, our love, our family and our future together.
The day of our renewal (which the wife didn't know about) I bought a $2 dashiki to pair with a pair of linen pants I bought in the airport in Singapore to dress it up a bit and at sunset, we went for a walk on the beach in Boracay, Pi.
I proposed to my wife the first time at sunset on a beach so figured it was only fitting to re-proposed in the same manner. An emerald is considered an appropriate 20th gift but I explained to the wife that two weeks in Asia was her gift when I was on a knee I offered her up an emerald color trinket bracelet sized to fit a small child instead.
We walked back to our resort where to my wifes surprise, my daughter was waiting with two people she found video the event and she re-marred us right there on the beach in the Phillippines.
Nothing more than a sign, a recommitment and a resounding affirmation of my commitment to her, our love, our family and our future together.
1
Posted on 7/12/24 at 11:34 am to Jeb Busch Lite
Was their wedding a big one or small? Were there life circumstances then that prevented them from celebrating they way they had hoped?
My aunt and uncle renewed their vows because he was dying of cancer. So maybe temper being a dick about it until you know the whole story.
But, I hate going to FIRST weddings, let alone renewals. I would probably only go if it fun and casual and they had beer and music after.
My aunt and uncle renewed their vows because he was dying of cancer. So maybe temper being a dick about it until you know the whole story.
But, I hate going to FIRST weddings, let alone renewals. I would probably only go if it fun and casual and they had beer and music after.
Posted on 7/12/24 at 11:34 am to LSUfan4444
this is the way its done 
cynical OP but yes, a reminder of who you were when you were married, the journey you've been on, who you are now, and what you plan for the future can all be consumated in this one act.
i'm all for it; we are at 13 years here but when we hit 20 i'm going to do something similar.
cynical OP but yes, a reminder of who you were when you were married, the journey you've been on, who you are now, and what you plan for the future can all be consumated in this one act.
i'm all for it; we are at 13 years here but when we hit 20 i'm going to do something similar.
Posted on 7/12/24 at 11:35 am to Jeb Busch Lite
3 years? Yeah maybe, or had a very rough patch, received counseling and want to recommit
Posted on 7/12/24 at 11:36 am to Jeb Busch Lite
My godmother and her husband did at 25 years.
3 does seem odd FWIW...
3 does seem odd FWIW...
Posted on 7/12/24 at 11:37 am to nvasil1
quote:
I've also heard of couples who eloped and decided to renew vows later, just as an excuse to have a proper celebration with loved ones.
If they had a traditional wedding and reception though, three years is ridiculous to renew vows for.
Inside of 10-15 years this is what I've seen that made sense. Eloping / courthouse marriage along with the whole Covid shutdown thing causing very small formal weddings, in prison marriage, and Vegas drive thru weddings.
If its 5-7 years after marriage and not one of the above, someone cheated or complete attention driven most likely. Traditionally it should be for the 25, 35, 50 year anniversary type things as part of entering a new chapter in their joined together lives as both probably have changed a lot by then.
Posted on 7/12/24 at 11:43 am to SteelerBravesDawg
For a 25 or 50 I’m all for it. Essentially a more formal anniversary celebration for a major milestone and I think a tip of the cap to much has changed but still wanting the relationship forever. No shame in that type of ceremony
3 years? No way
3 years? No way
Posted on 7/12/24 at 11:44 am to Jeb Busch Lite
I get a feeling that they were having the terrible 2s (happens with marriage) where the new wears off and you actually get to know each other. Renewing could just be seen as recommitting after a bad run. It could be part of their process. Don't like it, don't attend.
Posted on 7/12/24 at 11:44 am to Jeb Busch Lite
quote:
And it’s not even their anniversary. They got married New Year’s Eve of 2021. I had to go to that too
I generally don't like going to weddings, but I actually wouldn't mind a NYE one and think its a great time for one.
NYE kind of sucks, but you feel like you need to do something, so wedding with open bar and potentially in bed not long after mid-night (if not before) doesn't seem too bad.
That said -- I guess if this is to fix their marriage, better this than a marriage fixer baby
Posted on 7/12/24 at 11:44 am to CAD703X
quote:
cynical OP but yes, a reminder of who you were when you were married, the journey you've been on, who you are now, and what you plan for the future can all be consumated in this one act.
My wife was half crying and half laughing at the vows I wrote for her to say. Of course, they were all over the top disillusioned compliments to how awesome I was.
Everyone is different but to me, it's all about keeping true to who you are and what the dynamic of your relationship is.
The wife and I decided years ago we wanted to invest in travel and experience, not things. We would forgo over the top expensive clothes, watches, cars, jewelry, etc in favor of memories and experiences. It doesnt mean we fill our lives with cheap crap but we budget tightly so we can travel and try to do with laughs, tears, mistakes, accomplishments and most importantly doing things together while leaving room to constantly make fun of each other and ourselves. Life's too short to take everything so damn serious.
Posted on 7/12/24 at 11:45 am to Jeb Busch Lite
We did it at 10 years mainly because we wanted our kids to be a part of our celebration of marriage.
Posted on 7/12/24 at 11:45 am to Old Sarge
quote:
3 years? Yeah maybe, or had a very rough patch, received counseling and want to recommit
Even that I’d be hard pressed to invite tons of people. Immediate family and the closest support through that process perhaps. But more than like 10 invites would be wild to me in that scenario.
Posted on 7/12/24 at 11:48 am to Jeb Busch Lite
quote:
The couple has been married for just over 3 years.
is it a renewal or is it like a blessing type thing?
I know a young couple that was married by a Justice of the Peace with just immediate family in attendance.
they were buying heir first house and a couple other things, so they didn't want to "waste" money on a big wedding.
a couple years later once they were more financially stable, they did the wedding in a church for everyone to attend and had a reception afterwards.
the big wedding was always in the plans.
the small was just there to make it official legally for tax purposes, their names being as a married couple for the house, etc.
so wasn't really a "renewal", it was just the big ceremony in the fancy church and the white dress that all women want.
Posted on 7/12/24 at 12:08 pm to Jeb Busch Lite
If either of us lives to see 25 years then yes I'd love to do it with family. At that point makes more sense because our kids would be grown and likely have grandkids.
Posted on 7/12/24 at 12:11 pm to Jeb Busch Lite
quote:
Married couples renewing vows, does it just mean someone cheated?
It means one or more people are desperate for another "my day" and all the attention for him or herself once again.
Posted on 7/12/24 at 12:12 pm to LSUfan4444
quote:
We would forgo over the top expensive clothes, watches, cars, jewelry, etc
i noticed you didn't mention time trial bikes in that list
Posted on 7/12/24 at 12:12 pm to NoSaint
Maybe their first wedding was a Justice of the peace or just them at the courthouse?
Posted on 7/12/24 at 12:19 pm to CAD703X
Good catch..I used to justify that because technically it was an experience. Now just a roadie, high socks and all.
Posted on 7/12/24 at 12:20 pm to Jeb Busch Lite
Maybe she's been complaining to him for three years that their wedding didn't meet her "dream wedding biggest day of my life" expectations and he's just trying to shut her up with a redo. Problem is this won't solve the problem.
Posted on 7/12/24 at 12:37 pm to Jeb Busch Lite
Most couples I know that have renewed their vows did it for the following reasons
1. The marriage went through rough times
2. There was no formal wedding ceremony the first time around e.g elopement, marriage was officiated by the judge at the courthouse, or perhaps by the slot machine attendant at the casino, etc, etc.
1. The marriage went through rough times
2. There was no formal wedding ceremony the first time around e.g elopement, marriage was officiated by the judge at the courthouse, or perhaps by the slot machine attendant at the casino, etc, etc.
Page 4 of 6
Popular
Back to top
Follow TigerDroppings for LSU Football News