re: Majority of single women are having trouble finding a partner who fits their standard

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you bothered that 40 ish (what age am I exactly?) losers who have...zero... experience with women are giving dating advice?


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im so sorry that you are bothered Mingo. Please forgive me

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The point is not to make the girl actually think you are a gigilo to the elderly....she clearly knows you are joking. Its to stimulate fun conversation. If dudes are bummed that every first date is a "job interview" then dont let it be a job interview.

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You don't have the option on whether its a job interview bro, It is a job interview.

Stimulating a conversation is different from honestly telling someone what you do for work or fun.

You are essentially saying that these girls care more about getting stimulated than actually getting to know you. Which is why its a problem.

As a man who wants a long term relationship, getting to know that girl is stimulating. And her being actually interested in my life is also stimulating.

Being a fake person so that they like you is exhausting and a self esteem killer.

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witty banter, confidence, eye contact, don't talk too much about yourself You will do fine

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I met 4 girls walking to grab some dinner in Gdansk. They asked where I was from...I made them guess. We ended up all going to get drinks at a nearby bar. They were there because their friend was singing in a concert and were out to see the city. They asked me what I did...I was a professional assassin. The next 30 minutes was us all bullshitting, them guessing what I did...and me giving ridiculous answers. We literally just bullshitted in the bar for an hour until I called it short because I felt bad for the friend who they were there for and I was hungry. I make the "hot" comment because that was a running joke(they were all hot though). Paulina, the one I liked the most, gave me her #.

Yes, my personality is a bit not serious...but that doesnt mean im always like that. I wasnt faking anything, im sure some of yall would have said the conversation was "cringy" but they literally were hanging off my every word.

And yes Mingo, this is all photoshop, never happened. Save your fingers

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witty banter, confidence, eye contact, don't talk too much about yourself

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Agreed. They want a balance of mysterious but available.

The issue many of the 80% have is struggling to be that "mysterious" person. This is mainly because those same guys have been walked on and fricked over so much that they simply want to lay out who they are and want to know straight up if you are interested so they don't waste time and energy.

Its another problem with modern dating. Women actually see it as a turn off if guys are open about their life or ask too many questions about the woman.

On the other end guys know they have limited chances at second dates now so they try to push as much info about them and gain as much info on the girl in the hopes that they take an interest.

Its a losing battle. I have a better chance of dating a girl by knowing less about her and telling her less about myself?

Men have also already been rejected by girls for personalities, hobbies, etcc so they would rather know asap if that's gonna happen again or if they will actually be allowed to have a personality.

You have guys that get rejected for being too mysterious and then will get rejected by the next girl for opening up too much. And "being ourselves" is never even an option most of the time.

Also many women are dull as frick now and its actually difficult to have a straight up conversation.

Even girls on dating sites say "Don't tell me hey or that I'm pretty, I already know and won't respond, send me a good catchphrase".

Its all for entertainment purposes. We are seen as entertainment for them and not as mutual partners looking to grow together.

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being too mysterious

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Hot women sleep with loser douchebags every day. Do you think its because the guys stoicly talked about how he smokes weed all day and parties 5 nights a week

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Its because they are attracted to them even if that guy has 0 substance or gives a frick about that girl.

You are proving my point. I don't want to date those girls or compete with that loser.

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Yall are confusing what you think women should be attracted to...and what they actually are attracted to

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You are confusing "interest" and "attraction". Men see these (2) as going hand in hand. Women do not.

Men will have interest and develop an attraction. Women have attraction and will develop interest. Unless you are seen as immediately attractive then the odds are already against you to gain interest.

Interest rarely leads to attraction anymore because women primarily don't gain interest unless they are already attracted. Because of the amount of options they have.

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You're kind of making my point for me here. If you didn't find him attractive, you probably wouldn’t have went.

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My point is that he ASKED, so I had an opportunity to say yes. If he had waited on me to make a first pass at him, we wouldn’t be married with 3 kids.

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Agreed. They want a balance of mysterious but available.

The issue many of the 80% have is struggling to be that "mysterious" person. This is mainly because those same guys have been walked on and fricked over so much that they simply want to lay out who they are and want to know straight up if you are interested so they don't waste time and energy.

Its another problem with modern dating. Women actually see it as a turn off if guys are open about their life or ask too many questions about the woman.

On the other end guys know they have limited chances at second dates now so they try to push as much info about them and gain as much info on the girl in the hopes that they take an interest.

Its a losing battle. I have a better chance of dating a girl by knowing less about her and telling her less about myself?

Men have also already been rejected by girls for personalities, hobbies, etcc so they would rather know asap if that's gonna happen again or if they will actually be allowed to have a personality.

You have guys that get rejected for being too mysterious and then will get rejected by the next girl for opening up too much. And "being ourselves" is never even an option most of the time.

Also many women are dull as frick now and its actually difficult to have a straight up conversation.

Even girls on dating sites say "Don't tell me hey or that I'm pretty, I already know and won't respond, send me a good catchphrase".

Its all for entertainment purposes. We are seen as entertainment for them and not as mutual partners looking to grow together.

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Good grief. If anything happens to Mrs. Cricket, I doubt i'll date. This all just sounds absurdly exhausting.

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This all just sounds absurdly exhausting.

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Why do you think some of us went foreign? These games aren't necessary for the most part.

That's been my experience as well, bless their hearts....

Now, swallowing ?

That's another story...