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Posted on 12/30/19 at 9:30 pm to lsunurse
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Even though I've dedicated 17 years of my life caring for children (pediatrics will always be my true nursing passion) and have been through absolute hell the past 5 years trying to become a mom myself.
That makes you a good nurse...not necessarily a good mother.
Meanwhile, you called a woman deciding to be a stay at home mom selfish. The lack of recognition of the sacrifice it takes in insulting...but more importantly, it shows your lack of understanding of the value a stay at home mother brings to her child. Deciding to work is tough on a lot of mothers because they are good mothers. Deciding to stay home and give up personal accomplishment is tough on a lot of mothers but they do it because they are good mothers.
Calling stay at home moms selfish shows a fundamental gap in understanding a mother/child relationship. That's where you currently sit.
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when a female poster disagrees...she is seen as bitter and angry
Yeah, play the victim card. It has nothing to do with your judgmental attitude and your very clear jaded point of view on all things motherhood.
Posted on 12/30/19 at 9:35 pm to moneyg
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Meanwhile, you called a woman deciding to be a stay at home mom selfish.
I called it being selfish because she is a highly trained specialized surgeon that could use her knowledge and training to literally save the lives of so many people...all with her hands.
She has a very unique gift....and could use that gift to help others. And could still be a mother.
Eta: unless she is a horribly incompetent surgeon, then yeah...stay at home then
This post was edited on 12/30/19 at 9:37 pm
Posted on 12/30/19 at 9:37 pm to moneyg
quote:you're like the FB hero with the comment.... You'd be a star on plentyo'fish
the sacrifice it takes in insulting...but more importantly, it shows your lack of understanding of the value a stay at home mother
Posted on 12/30/19 at 9:48 pm to SuperSaint
I love how a man....who is not a mother....is lecturing me on not understanding what it is like to be a mother
And I can grasp that it is a very demanding job being a mother. And understand why some want to be SAHM. Personally....I could never do that myself if I was a mother....but others want that.
My comments were about the specific situation. How 15 years of education are just thrown away. Seems like she didn’t even try as well. Only a year practicing? Guessing she just wasn’t strong enough of a person to do both.
And I can grasp that it is a very demanding job being a mother. And understand why some want to be SAHM. Personally....I could never do that myself if I was a mother....but others want that.
My comments were about the specific situation. How 15 years of education are just thrown away. Seems like she didn’t even try as well. Only a year practicing? Guessing she just wasn’t strong enough of a person to do both.
Posted on 12/30/19 at 10:05 pm to Benne Wafer
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is HARD to leave a 12 week old in the care of other people (if you are lucky, a lot of people can only take six weeks).
That is 3 months you are getting paid and not working for the company. That’s a lot of productivity lost. You want to see companies stop hiring birthing age women? This is one way
Posted on 12/30/19 at 10:07 pm to Benne Wafer
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How does the majority of the working world who gives more generous maternity leaves keep on going?
By not being as productive as the USA
Posted on 12/30/19 at 10:08 pm to Benne Wafer
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And not talking about paid leave either or companies having anyone in the position, just the opportunity to come back at a similar position.
This is completely different than what you initially proposed in your first 2 responses and is very reasonable.
Posted on 12/30/19 at 10:09 pm to Cosmo
You are a med student? Holy frick. I don't want you to be my doctorr.
Posted on 12/30/19 at 10:14 pm to lsunurse
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My comments were about the specific situation. How 15 years of education are just thrown away. Seems like she didn’t even try as well. Only a year practicing? Guessing she just wasn’t strong enough of a person to do both.
I can only imagine the chuckle this neurosurgeon mother would have at hearing this opinion from a barren nurse. I'm sure she wouldn't discard your opinion at all.
Posted on 12/30/19 at 10:16 pm to moneyg
quote:all the edges, mucho edgy
moneyg
Posted on 12/30/19 at 10:18 pm to moneyg
Bro
Posted on 12/30/19 at 10:19 pm to Cosmo
Subtle “I’m a physician” brag.
Posted on 12/30/19 at 10:21 pm to Cosmo
Sounds like a few of you are trapped in the rat race mentality. I see it as more selfless than selfish. It's putting your personal pride and career on hold for your family.
My wife is an attorney who decided to quit after 5 years to start having kids. I pay what's left of her loans, but for me it's a small price to pay for her and the kids' happiness.
In the end it's only money, and I trust they'll appreciate it one day when they look back.
My wife is an attorney who decided to quit after 5 years to start having kids. I pay what's left of her loans, but for me it's a small price to pay for her and the kids' happiness.
In the end it's only money, and I trust they'll appreciate it one day when they look back.
This post was edited on 12/30/19 at 10:28 pm
Posted on 12/30/19 at 10:27 pm to LSUdc
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My wife is an attorney who decided to quit after 5 years to start having kids. I pay what's left of her loans, but for me it's a small price to pay for her and the kids' happiness.
It's completely selfless. It's a great example of putting your kids in front of yourself. Suggesting it's selfish shows a fundamental non-understanding of what makes good parenting.
Posted on 12/30/19 at 10:27 pm to moneyg
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I can only imagine the chuckle this neurosurgeon mother would have at hearing this opinion from a barren nurse. I'm sure she wouldn't discard your opinion at all.
No need to say that man. That’s just fricked up. Nothing she’s said has been that wrong
Posted on 12/30/19 at 10:32 pm to OldmanBeasley
Oh hear we go
Posted on 12/30/19 at 10:38 pm to moneyg
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I'm sure she wouldn't discard your opinion at all.
You mean the same opinion that the OP, a former classmate of hers and a physician has?
He also thinks it is selfish. In that she wasted away a spot someone else that actually wanted it could have used to help save the lives of others with.
Posted on 12/30/19 at 10:42 pm to lsunurse
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How 15 years of education are just thrown away.
Because people from the age of 20-35 change a lot. There's no rules that say we have to commit to a career our entire lives.
This post was edited on 12/30/19 at 10:43 pm
Posted on 12/30/19 at 10:43 pm to lsunurse
I could understand going part time. Plenty of locums jobs out there where you take call for 1 week a month, off the rest. But quit completely? Nope.
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