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Kids addressing adults by first name

Posted on 8/4/17 at 6:14 pm
Posted by tigertrueAU
Canyon Lake Texas
Member since Oct 2009
1306 posts
Posted on 8/4/17 at 6:14 pm
I'm starting to notice a lot of kids/children addressing adults by their first name only.
Seems so strange to me and disrespectful. As a kid I never would have been allowed to address one of my dads friends without using a "Mr." first.
I don't allow my kids to do it and I'm not sure what to think about adults that allow it to happen to them.
Posted by Ed Osteen
Member since Oct 2007
59347 posts
Posted on 8/4/17 at 6:15 pm to
I'm almost 30 and still feel weird calling my girlfriends family by their first names
Posted by burdman
Louisiana
Member since Aug 2007
22814 posts
Posted on 8/4/17 at 6:17 pm to
I'm 30 and still call people who I've known since I was younger Mr and Mrs. Feels weird to just drop it all of the sudden.

Pisses my Father in Law off that I have a hard time dropping the Mr before his name
Posted by Teddy Ruxpin
Member since Oct 2006
40997 posts
Posted on 8/4/17 at 6:18 pm to
quote:


I'm almost 30 and still feel weird calling my girlfriends family by their first names


My brother in law (wife's sister's husband) calls our father-in-law by his first name and it weirds me out.

I keep it Mr. Last name. Would have gone Mr. First Name in the southern tradition but he's a Navy man from Virginia. Seemed borderline
This post was edited on 8/4/17 at 6:19 pm
Posted by pwejr88
Red Stick
Member since Apr 2007
37963 posts
Posted on 8/4/17 at 6:19 pm to
You use the generation rule.

If it's the generation above you:
Mr. (last name) until told otherwise.
Posted by jdeval1
Member since Dec 2009
7525 posts
Posted on 8/4/17 at 6:19 pm to
quote:

I'm 30 and still call people who I've known since I was younger Mr and Mrs. Feels weird to just drop it all of the sudden. 

Pisses my Father in Law off that I have a hard time dropping the Mr before his name 

I'm 41 and call my in laws Mr and Mrs. It's a Southern thing baw.
This post was edited on 8/4/17 at 6:20 pm
Posted by fr33manator
Baton Rouge
Member since Oct 2010
135035 posts
Posted on 8/4/17 at 6:20 pm to
If they had half a sack they'd tell the little crumbsnatchers to address them with respect.

Although I'm sure plenty of them don't deserve respect. Like pussy arse boyfriends that don't work
Posted by Spankum
The Sip
Member since Jan 2007
63299 posts
Posted on 8/4/17 at 6:21 pm to
agree completely...I would have never considered doing it and if I had kids, they wouldn't do it either.
Posted by Flashback
reading the chicken bones
Member since Apr 2008
8479 posts
Posted on 8/4/17 at 6:29 pm to
If a little kid calls me by my first name, I don't give 2 shits either way.
Posted by brewhan davey
Audubon Place
Member since Sep 2010
33408 posts
Posted on 8/4/17 at 6:35 pm to
quote:

I'm almost 30 and still feel weird calling my girlfriends family by their first names


I'm 28 and I still call my gf's family "Mr." and "Ms." They are from New York, so they get a kick out of that.
Posted by PublixSubs
Maine
Member since Sep 2015
908 posts
Posted on 8/4/17 at 6:35 pm to
I believe some of this is location based, as in, where you were raised. I grew up in NJ, through middle school. All of my friends' parents, we addressed by their first names unless we had never met one of them.

I attended HS in Virginia. Everyone, and to this day still do, address my VA friends' parents by Mr. and Mrs. Last Name.

Both are fitting. I see no fault as long as the adults are respected and are comfortable being called by either their first or last name. Sometimes it's more of the adults preference than the child's manners.
Posted by LSUJML
Central
Member since May 2008
56850 posts
Posted on 8/4/17 at 6:36 pm to
A friend of mine calls his parents by their first names
He was an only child & his parents never referred to themselves as Mom & Dad
Instead of "Go show your Mom" it was "Go show Mary"

It was odd
Posted by LSUfan0420
Lake Chuck
Member since Jan 2007
1295 posts
Posted on 8/4/17 at 6:37 pm to
I have certainly always done Mr or Mrs first name , never last name. All my friends parents or my parents friends I always just addressed like that.

My 12 year old son doesn't do this to others, But his friends come to my house and call me by first name without the Mr. It is really weird to me. I am 37 and there is a twelve year old kid saying "hey Bobby, can I have more pizza?"

That's Mr Bobby you little frick! And yes you can have more pizza!!
Posted by northshorebamaman
Mackinac Island
Member since Jul 2009
38577 posts
Posted on 8/4/17 at 6:40 pm to
It doesn't really bother me because I don't really feel like I've earned a title by not dying yet. But I know it's a cultural thing and it would probably bother me if I grew up with it as the norm.
Posted by kywildcatfanone
Wildcat Country!
Member since Oct 2012
141199 posts
Posted on 8/4/17 at 6:40 pm to
My dad would beat me if I showed that kind of disrespect to an adult. I still call my FIL Mister. He never told me I couldn't so I don't.
Posted by PurpleandGold Motown
Waltzing Between the Raindrops
Member since Oct 2007
24864 posts
Posted on 8/4/17 at 7:03 pm to
I call my parents by their first names in professional situations or if I'm discussing them with another person.
Posted by SuperSaint
Sorting Out OT BS Since '2007'
Member since Sep 2007
151577 posts
Posted on 8/4/17 at 7:43 pm to
quote:

saying "hey Bobby, c
is your name really 'Bobby' or Robert?
Posted by Paul Allen
Montauk, NY
Member since Nov 2007
78688 posts
Posted on 8/4/17 at 7:54 pm to
Kevin McHale
Posted by biglego
San Francisco
Member since Nov 2007
85550 posts
Posted on 8/4/17 at 7:56 pm to
I'm 37 and it annoys me when my neighbors little kids call me by my first name. That's why I've told them to stay off my lawn.
Posted by soccerfüt
Location: A Series of Tubes
Member since May 2013
76173 posts
Posted on 8/4/17 at 7:58 pm to
quote:

I grew up in NJ, through middle school.
Prayers sent.

PS: You call that growing up?

OP: Every family is different, but in my opinion until someone is old enough to vote they should defer to older folks.
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