re: Just told a chick her husband cheated on her

You went too far.

I once told a roommate I'd rather he not bring a mutual friend's wife to our apartment. The friend had called wanting to know if she was there when she was. I told him "No" then, but told my roommate I wasn't going to keep lying to him.

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If I didn't know the innocent party personally, I wouldn't say a word. If I knew the cheater personally, I would counsel that person to tell the soon to be spouse, but I'm not telling. If I didn't know either of them, I would say nothing. It's not my place to get involved with people's lives in that manner who I do know personally. Since I don't know them, how would I even know whether the cheater told the soon to be spouse? I wouldn't.

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You dont feel she deserves to know everything before getting married? Just because you dont know her? Do you not believe in a good samaritan? Are you the type of person that doesn't believe people can do good things for strangers just because they want to make the world a better place? Are you really that cynical?

You sound like a coward because you know something is wrong, but you refuse to stand up for it. Please stay cowering in your hole of anonymity because its "safe" and simple. I would gladly take all the shite in the world if it meant someone would avoid years of a lie, and what if they had kids soon after marriage? Its interesting how you're cynical towards the outsider, yet give the cheater (the only one who is actually breaking their promises) the benefit of the doubt by saying "well maybe they told them and you just dont know". If they are cheating...there is clearly a lack of sound judgment on their part, thus, they're more PRONE to making continued errors further (fear of what might happen, jeopardizing a possible business relationship, etc.). So in fact, why you dont assume the opposite is incredibly odd to me.

You even had a poor sap in here who said he'd never tell his wife, which seems to display the possibility that there are easily many who would never tell their wives or SO. Thats sad to me, because their wives/SO DESERVE to know if they aren't faithful because thats what they want is a FAITHFUL SO. If you arent, then you dont deserve to have a SO that thinks you are. Any bastard who would cheat, and refuse to tell their wife, is just that, a bastard, and a coward, and a liar.

You also have to take into consideration that while marriage is an emotional bond, it has many many business/financial aspects to it. So if you would notify a business that someone was robbing them and stealing money from them, then I'd hope you're telling a husband or wife they're being robbed by someone who is stealing half their marital union which carries half the weight in a marriage financially.

She did not believe him because it was a dick pic with a cock ring. She never saw that cock ring before. It was a gift from OPs GF.

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no, you're a bitch cause their relationship was NONE of your fricking business. You had no right to interject into their relationship at all. It's cool tho. The guy is probably out looking to beat your arse as we speak. Watch your back homeboy

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No, I'd rather know.

Don't cheat, simple concept

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No, I'd rather know.

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Men and women sometimes see things differently.

The OT detectives need to find his facebook. Would love to read some comments other than on the OT

Has anyone else surmised this from the OP?

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The OT detectives need to find his facebook. Would love to read some comments other than on the OT

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Do we know the OP is a "he'', for sure? Because it sounds like "he" may just be the girl who the boyfriend was cheating with. Would explain a lottttttt.

Because the OP doesn't have any posts in this thread saying anything like "as a man"...etc.....and that answer regarding having a picture from the girl's phone, that the bf is cheating with, was cryptic at best.

Would also explain:

A) why the OP's perspective is so different from all of the men in this thread. Most women think you should butt-in to other people's relationships and tattle. They really do.

B) The OP isn't scared of the BF beating the crap out of "him".

C) There are a several other things this would explain.

Of course, the OP could have just been around TD long enough(high-ish post count is obvious) that regulars know he is a male.

Edit: The OP's handle is Rouge, only one thing that could mean in my mind. I thought it was Rogue this whole time. I'm fairly certain OP is a chick.

I'm hoping this was already the consensus reached somewhere in this giant thread, because I am.not hunting through to find it.

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Didn't even know her, but I felt so bad for the girl. Doing the right thing isn't always the popular decision. I even sent her a picture of him (selfie) taken from the chick he cheated with's phone. The girl pretty much called me a liar, lashed out on me, and told me to leave her alone. Then random people found me and started threatening me on Facebook

At least I feel better now getting it out, and definitely don't feel bad for her anymore.

If you see this post, sorry--you should have been nice to me. Now I'm sharing it with the world

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All I got out of this was that you're a loser that can't mind his own business and act like a passive agressive titty baby when you get called out.

Either a bitch or a beta bitch