re: Just found out expecting twins - freaking out

Brother has twins. First year sucks but after they get potty trained it's more fun.

Congrats! I have twin 7 year old boys. Best thing that has ever happened to me...being their Mommy.

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Sounds like we are in the same boat. My wife is pregnant with twins as well and is "officially" due in late December but twins come early so realistically early December. We struggled with infertility for about 2 years before trying IVF and then boom. I am becoming a google expert learning all about Mono/Mono, Mono/Di (we are Mono/Di), etc.

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This is a late bump, but we just found out at week 18 that they are both girls

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Congrats! How exciting


What fertility treatments did yall do, if you don't mind answering?

Congrats to the OP.


Twins is the way to go. Two quick ones and done.

That's awesome you guys were able to get pregnant that way. You always hear of people taking a break from infertility treatments and then BAM...they are pregnant.

I found out a few months ago that I have pcos(never had any idea cause I've always been on the pill). We have been trying for less than a year before I saw a specialist(at my age...38, they actually say to see one after 6 months of trying). I did one cycle of clomid with an IUI; last cycle was femara with an IUI. I'm taking a break the next month or so due to some trips both of us have planned. IVF isn't an option we wish to pursue so I guess we will do a few more medicated IUIs before we stop with the fertility treatments. We are full aware of the chance of multiples as well. At this point though...while it would terrify me from a health standpoint(multiples at my age can put a lot of strain on my body), I can't help but think they would be an amazing, miraculous blessing as well.


Bless your wife for doing so many cycles of clomid. I know many women do NOT tolerate that med so well. Has soooo many unwanted side effects(made me VERY moody....I cussed out an old lady that was blocking me on a bike path while on that med ).



I hope your wife continues to have a healthy pregnancy. This has to be a whirlwind of all kinds of emotions for you guys. Enjoy that excitement and anticipation, before you know it those gorgeous babies will be in your arms.

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Just found out expecting twins - freaking out

Kind of overwhelmed with the idea of double the costs of everything, double the furniture and equipment, etc.

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Ahhh, I remember that day very well.


My best advice is to make sure it's 2 boys, whatever you gotta do, just make it happen!!!

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And, congratulations. Sounds like a lot of fun.

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It's pretty much the coolest thing ever, especially since I have 2 boys.

Congrats!

Hopefully these are your first children b/c as the expression goes "ignorance is bliss!" My wife and I had twin girls several years ago. I'll give you the key essentials as we experienced raising them.

1. Find out what they are as soon as you can and prepare your house, nursery, etc ahead of time. Some folks like to be surprised by the sex of their kids, but with twins you'll have your hands full after the birth so get that stuff taken care of now. Set up your nursery, buy their clothes, get childproof locks on your lower cabinets and drawers and covers for your electrical sockets now.

2. OLOL offers a class called "marvelous multiples", take it as early as you can during the pregnancy. Lots of good information.

3. Get your kids on a parent-directed schedule! Time is precious and with twins even moreso, make them do the same things at the same time. If one wakes up hungry then wake the other one up and feed them at the same time, otherwise you'll be working non-stop on accommodating them (child-directed schedule).

4. Obviously double stroller, child seats etc wil be needed. Register for that stuff for your baby shower.

5. Help your wife. Don't be the sorry arse dad that puts it all on the missus, your wife will be stressed and working her arse off all week with these kids. Let her go to bed early and you take the last feeding of the night. Get oatmeal cereal in their milk as soon as possible (this will help them gain weight and sleep through the night), usually 4-5 weeks old. Use Dr. Brown's bottles, they'll minimize the "gas" the kids might get.

6. Bath them before bed and become a master swaddler. Clean and snug will help them sleep. Don't let them nap during the afternoon. Sleep is your friend and he will elude you for several weeks... Work in tandem with your wife so both of you get some amount of sleep early on.

7. Grandma... You'll want your moms/aunts/etc coming over and helping you for the first couple weeks - take the help! Your wife will likely have a c-section and that's a major surgery, she'll need time to recouperate. Help her.

8. Find "it". "It" is that one thing that will settle your kids down no matter how bad they're crying. "It" could be a drive in the car or a video. My kids could be throwing the biggest fit ever and as soon as we popped in the Baby Einsten video it was completely silent. Have "it" on standby.

9. Prepare to give up your weekends for the first few years, particularly if your wife is home with them all day. She will relish having an adult conversation. Give it to her. As tired as you are and as bad as your day at work may have been it wasn't as difficult as staying home raising two infants. Your wife will be elevated to sainthood status and you will consider going to work on Monday to be your downtime.

10. Give them original names. They may be twins but if they are different people and have completely different personalities, likes and dislikes. Give them original non-rhyming names.

Congrats man, it can be a little scary early on but it's just because it's different. You'll do fine. God doesn't give us more than we can handle, though it may seem like it at times. We love our twins and they're growing up to be great little girls. I wouldn't change any of it for the world.

One good thing is if you have other kids after the twins it's piece of cake!

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Say goodbye to sleep

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For a few months at least, no doubt.

Wife and I would sleep 4 hours per night uninterrupted, taking turns for the 1st few months, not fun.