re: Inoperable, incurable, metastasis

Hate to hear this. It seems that the good hearted people get the worst struggles in life. Be strong for her. Show her the man you have become.

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The scan showed the tumors had grown and she's scared. So am I. So is dad.

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I don’t have anything for you my friend other than this. Do not ever fail to speak with your momma everyday. Do not ever fail to tell her you love her when you can. Do not ever fail to squeeze her neck with a hug. Let her know you’re with her throughout all of this.

We’ve all only got just a moment on this rock we all share, make ‘em count. And pray my friend. Offer your troubles up to God, if it is inoperable and incurable like you say, then turn to the Lord to put His hands on her and ease her pain.

No man knows his hour, the best we can do is make ‘em count.

My dad sent me this verse when I was going through troubled times in my own life, I read it and harken back to it whenever I feel like wavering:

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Romans 8:37-39 (KJV)
37 Nay, in all these things we are more than conquerors through him that loved us.

38 For I am persuaded, that neither death, nor life, nor angels, nor principalities, nor powers, nor things present, nor things to come,

39 Nor height, nor depth, nor any other creature, shall be able to separate us from the love of God, which is in Christ Jesus our Lord.

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I don’t know if you’re a Christian at all my friend, but I hope what this one anonymous internet peon has said to you will assuage you, and your family should you share it with them, any ounce of heartache you are experiencing at this time.

Be strong for your mother, shower her in love.

Prayers sent

Hardest part for me to try and figure out what the right thing to do is... I live 2,500 miles away. I need to be there everyday but my little girl also lives out here...so I need to be here everyday for her too. living in two places at once in every part of my mind. Love them both more than anything.

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Hardest part is I live 2,500 miles away. I wish I were there everyday but my little girl also lives out here. Torn up and down, living in two places at once in every part of my mind. Love them both more than any other.

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I’m not going to act like I know what the hell in talking about because for most every subject, I do not, and I do not know your family structure. But if I were you, and if my mother and my children had a relationship, and my grandchildren were old enough, I’d have them speaking with each other as often as possible.

My dad’s dad died when I was five, and him and I were best buds. So close that I can still remember what we did together when I was sick and couldn’t go to school right before he died, he took care of me and I swear to you that is a top 3 day in my entire life looking back on it.

If I were you, I’d get them as much time if not together in person them at least talking with each other as much as possible.

What I would give to have just a few more hours with Pop. Don’t take a moment for granted.

2,500 miles away

I managed to get home to Virginia every other weekend. Worked it out with my company president that I'd take early leave on Friday late back on Monday. The alternate weekends I'd work all day Saturday (and Sunday if my project needed it).

I got to know cheapest flights, which redeyes I could expect to stretch out and sleep, which rental cars were cheap and had fast moving lines.

Sometimes you have to be the adult for your parents.

My Dad had lung cancer, I still can't stand to have any tight clothes around my neck, 35 years later.

Your choice is to do your best. It's all you can do.

Prayers go with you.

God bless you and your family.

Sorry buddy. Enjoy the time you have left. I miss my mom every day.

I would love to get a really clean look at the 2 shite stains that downvoted the OP

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