re: Infidelity in a marriage

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just don't put themselves in those kinds of situations. Its really not that difficult.

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That's life in general, my friend.

Nothing good happens after midnight. Drunk drivers, robberies, cheaters sleazing off to bangity-bang.

Cheated a year after we were married. Split up for about a year. Don’t know why she came back, I probably wouldn’t have if it would have been the other way around. Been together for over 25 years. Worst mistake I made in my life so far, think about it all the time. She probably does too, but here we are killing it together. Closer than we were when we first got married. Not the normal outcome, but it is what it is.

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I said “congratulations, who’s the father”? She got all indignant and said “what does that mean”? I said “you haven’t fricked me in over a year so it damn sure isn’t mine”.

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Did she really think you couldn't do the math? (Or was she too stupid to do the math?)

She was fricking so much she forgot to frick me….lol It’s okay. I’m retiring end of year. She’s on her 3rd husband.

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I can’t answer for that. I’ve reared my daughter (only child) as a single father, until recently I got married. Was never married to my child’s mother but we have done our best to communicate through the 12 years we have had a kid together. We established a parenting plan and boundaries for romantic involvement in her life from the very beginning. It’s kept things clean and professional, on the same page pretty much with our romantic dealings as they pertain to our daughter. It’s been a “step in time saves nine” approach. Hear me on this though… if I ever at any point felt like there was frickery of any violent sort in any way related to my child, I would have 100% swiftly and efficiently nipped it in the bud. I can only speak for my life. Maybe my original comment about the dude being a pussy was harsh, he could be a cauliflower ear smooth brain that fights walls for all I know. But pussy was the first word that came to mind when I considered any scenario of violence with my kids with no blowback from the father. All in all it sucks the baw had to deal with that and I’m empathetic enough to put myself in his shoes… it’s a shite sandwich.

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Teaching the dude a lesson would have been 100% the worst option possible as it would have eliminated me from the kids lives. The guy was a homeless alcoholic and had absolutely nothing to lose. I had everything. My ex was also a pharma/med device rep before kids. She’s very good at manipulating doctors and such.

At least in my state, I learned women get a massive benefit of the doubt from the courts in high conflict cases. Their complaints are always heard and investigated. Men, not so much.

Early on, my attorney told me they are going for the easy win and goad me into a PFA / minor DV incident. Then, it would be every other weekend or supervised visitation with the kids. Every interaction for 10 years with my ex I had a body cam going. Here’s the stats:

- ex filed 7 PFA’s against me, all dismissed after a hearing, all almost always filed in the weeks before custody hearings
- 1 arrest, DA dropped the case after my attorney sent him the bodycam video showing I was sitting in my car not saying a word while my ex screamed at me 10 minutes because I committed the appalling sin of refusing to co-sign on an apartment lease with her after we were divorced.
- 3 CPS investigations for molesting the kids. All dismissed with no evidence found. It got to the point where CPS was told by our judge that any complaints must go to his desk first
-Dude arrested 3x’s for beating her, always dismissed as she never cooperated
- dude arrested 1x for beating my son, finally convicted as the DA refused to dismiss

Even after the multiple CPS investigation results, it never stopped my ex for using as a way to cover up the crap going on at her house.

When my son was in 8th grade, he was admitted to inpatient mental health facility. The big thing was he was acting out against his mom and little sister. She had moved across the border to another state. At intake, she told them I had sexually abused him. So, I was not allowed to see him, or even talk to them about his treatment. They wouldn’t accept my CPS letters. At the time, I had several police reports of the dude beating my ex wish the kids present which I had planned to discuss with them.

I was finally able to get the facility to at least correct the medical record AFTER they made a formal complaint (before they talked to my son), sent it to their state’s CPS, they in turn sent it to my state’s CPS, and they told them it was BS. By then my son was out.

That's an evil bitch right there. Have you pursued suing her for defamation or harrassment?

Just hang the pineapple upside down outside the house

Same.

I'd be out either way.

I wouldn't want to stand in someone's way of "happiness" and if I'm not meeting her needs, by all means, go for it.

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BRgetthenet

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She lied to you.