re: Im 40 and losing interest in alot of things

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Bought a bunch of gear to start fishing, never even went yet.

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you need a bud that likes to fish to kick you in the butt and get out on the water....

it will replenish your soul...

as soon as you can get them kids out there as well...

Went thru something similar around that age (57 now). I went from playing a lot of golf, long afternoons that turned into late nights, and larger parties to concentrating on work more. At the time, it seemed like a bigger deal than it actually was. Life slowed down more, two kids were now self sufficient, wife and myself were both concentrating more on career as we moved up in income, and we started having dinner with close friends as opposed to larger gatherings.

I did the same thing with fishing as you are doing. It took a few months, but I eventually got heavy into mornings/evenings on the water by myself or with my Dad as opposed to 6 hour golf rounds/gambling/drinking at the club with a dozen guys. At the end of the day, I was just maturing but it took me about a year of feeling out of sorts about the change in lifestyle.

Best advice I can give you, do NOT become sedentary. I put more weight on in my 40's than I ever thought possible. I'm still battling it and its a bitch in your mid 50's when every joint and shred of cartilage in your body is telling you to go to hell. If you rely on running, find another means of cardio as I found its hard as hell to keep it up.

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And if you think your 30's flew by, you are going to wake up tomorrow at 48 and wonder what the hell happened. Looking back, it was some great years, I just wished I had lived in the moment more.

mid life crisis, very common

Go on carnivore or carnivore adjacent diet. Quit processed foods. If you do eat fruits and veggies, get organic. If you can’t do that, at least look up the dirty dozen and avoid that produce.

Also quit the seed oils. They cause inflammation and cognitive issues. Our bodies didn’t evolve to eat industrial oils. Didn’t even exist until a few decades ago.

Should be a good start

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Male syndrome. You hit a career wall and want to give it up but can’t because people rely on you and don’t want to be a failure so you go into default robot mode

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Damn

Enjoy it while you can

I'm 53 and see the cardiologist every three months

Same happened to me, but it started at 38. I have found, if I eat shite foods and don't move my body (sweating through cardio, lifting weights) I feel like crap. I force myself to do it. If I even take a week off, I can feel myself slipping into that same feeling, don't want to do shite, don't feel good, etc. You have to keep going with it.

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I’m 38 and don’t watch any NBA outside of my team. The sport I loved most was CFB, but I’m just not too excited about watching a popularity contest played by mercenaries that make way more playing a game than I will sniff in my lifetime. MLB resembles what I loved as a kid, but again…seeing pampered $750 mil athletes play like shite in the field isn’t really how I wanna spend my free time. I’m old and cranky.

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Thanks for typing up my reply to the OP for me.

How old are your kids. That’s pretty typical when they’re young and you’re still highly involved in raising them. Once they start driving and hanging out with their friends more than you, you’ll find you have more time for your hobbies. At least that’s how it’s been for me.

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Just curious, do you have an identity as something other than what you do for work?

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Great point. I say that as someone who lacks an identity. I could be erased from the world, and my parents and 9-month old will miss me. Can’t think of many others.