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re: I think I need an affair to save my marriage
Posted on 2/21/23 at 10:57 am to WhereIsMyBestLife
Posted on 2/21/23 at 10:57 am to WhereIsMyBestLife
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It wasn't always like this. In our early years she was all over me. We have since had kids and developed hella more responsibilities so some slowdown is not unexpected. But her major excuse for her complete disinterest is that we don't do the same things as when it was just us, so she doesn't feel the same feels. No shite, woman! That hasn't dampened my desire! And the wonderful mother you've evolved into only adds to my fire. But I guess its the opposite for her. She apparently wants to have me around as husband and father and provider, but frick my 24 year old self.
Read this paragraph over and over until you see how much of a part you play in her lack of desire. She sees someone who just wants to frick her (one more thing she has to do in her day) instead of someone who gives a shite about helping her out and cares about how she feels about things.
You have that affair. Say goodbye to your marriage.
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Posted on 2/21/23 at 10:58 am to BluegrassBelle
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Well, OP says he’s been married 12 years and he’s 24
OP is in his mid 30s.
When he says his 24 year old self he is referring to before they weremarried.
Statistically OP is almost certainly obese. His wife probably is too so she’s not into the thought of two fats fricking.
This post was edited on 2/21/23 at 10:59 am
Posted on 2/21/23 at 10:59 am to WhereIsMyBestLife
In.
That would be a horrible thing to do on multiple levels. If discovered, it would cause the divorce that you say you want to avoid, it would make the divorce even worse for your family, and would be used against you in a divorce.
Plus, it’s just a crappy thing to do to someone. Morally wrong.
That would be a horrible thing to do on multiple levels. If discovered, it would cause the divorce that you say you want to avoid, it would make the divorce even worse for your family, and would be used against you in a divorce.
Plus, it’s just a crappy thing to do to someone. Morally wrong.
Posted on 2/21/23 at 10:59 am to WhereIsMyBestLife
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I am still on the fence here
Don’t do it.
Start dating your wife again.
Posted on 2/21/23 at 11:01 am to WhereIsMyBestLife
throughout history men have gotten action on the side. Now men have become cucks and women have become empowered and side action is frowned upon. If people were more accepting of side action many marriages would likely be saved.
Posted on 2/21/23 at 11:01 am to WhereIsMyBestLife
Stop watching porn, start working out and reading books.
There’s still time to save yourself.
There’s still time to save yourself.
Posted on 2/21/23 at 11:04 am to WhereIsMyBestLife
Tough spot baw. Many have been in the same shoes.
Maybe try a Jamaican Vacation in Negril, Jamaica? Hedonism II - Negril. Ask for Eldon.
Other than that...
Yes, if you feel that badly, and can't work it out with counseling, divorce is the answer. Hurts now, but a lifetime of misery hurts worse. Young kids can bounce back from that if both parents continue to love them and be their parents. Unwavering.
No to affair. You got kids. Few moments of pleasure compared to a life time of secrecy or guilt wouldn't be worth it.
Trust me, the guilt route doesn't work either.
I'd say also it's a two way street. You stay in shape? Dress nice? Bath and smell good? I've found the "little things" taking kids to school, cleaning the house, giving her some down time is much appreciated and "sexy" when a man shows that kind of caring.
Set a play date. Every Wednesday or whenever is date night. No kids if possible. No TV. No phones. Cook a nice dinner and clean up, take her out etc. Give her time to decompress and reconnect with her husband.
Maybe try a Jamaican Vacation in Negril, Jamaica? Hedonism II - Negril. Ask for Eldon.
Other than that...
Yes, if you feel that badly, and can't work it out with counseling, divorce is the answer. Hurts now, but a lifetime of misery hurts worse. Young kids can bounce back from that if both parents continue to love them and be their parents. Unwavering.
No to affair. You got kids. Few moments of pleasure compared to a life time of secrecy or guilt wouldn't be worth it.
Trust me, the guilt route doesn't work either.
I'd say also it's a two way street. You stay in shape? Dress nice? Bath and smell good? I've found the "little things" taking kids to school, cleaning the house, giving her some down time is much appreciated and "sexy" when a man shows that kind of caring.
Set a play date. Every Wednesday or whenever is date night. No kids if possible. No TV. No phones. Cook a nice dinner and clean up, take her out etc. Give her time to decompress and reconnect with her husband.
Posted on 2/21/23 at 11:05 am to WhereIsMyBestLife
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wonderful wife
Wonderful wives have sex with their husbands
She’s already getting it somewhere else
Posted on 2/21/23 at 11:06 am to WhereIsMyBestLife
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I have to scratch this itch without them knowing.
An opportunity has presented itself. A couple I know just divorced. The wife made a pass at me a few years ago. At the time I played dumb. But since then rumors have swirled that she is a freak and they were members of the pineapple gang (makes sense looking back). Now she says she is job hunting in another city so she won't be around long. I think if I am clear upfront that this will just be a sex transaction that it won't deter her from leaving and I will be in the clear, itch scratched and I can release the resentment so harbored and be a better member of my family.
An itch isn't scratched by 1 simple time. In fact, the more you scratch, the more you itch. Next thing you know, the itch has spread in other places, which means you have to scratch even more.
You go down this route, you will lose your wife. And it will be nobody's fault but your own.
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My family deserves better.
Posted on 2/21/23 at 11:07 am to WhereIsMyBestLife
You said you didn't want divorce.
Both roads you are walking lead to divorce
Banging this broad once will not fix anything. I feel like you are just looking for an excuse.
A marriage takes Two.
If she cant step up then the admirable thing to do would be to file for divorce before/without sleeping with anyone else.
As your kids get older this will be a teaching moment. Hopefully you can help them be better Spouses
Both roads you are walking lead to divorce
Banging this broad once will not fix anything. I feel like you are just looking for an excuse.
A marriage takes Two.
If she cant step up then the admirable thing to do would be to file for divorce before/without sleeping with anyone else.
As your kids get older this will be a teaching moment. Hopefully you can help them be better Spouses
Posted on 2/21/23 at 11:10 am to WhereIsMyBestLife
I suggest you learn how to play the game, my friend.
She needs romance from you. Women are attracted to different things than us men are.
You see her walk by you in her underwear in the mornings and you're ready to pounce.
She needs you to take her out for dinner and a drink. Write her a sticky note and leave it in her car about how much you appreciate her... something she does for you or your family.
Send her flowers randomly.
And when she gives you a chance to get close to it, you better make it worth her while. So she'll give it to you again.
Don't ever have an affair. Your kids will learn of it and what you discover from that, won't be good.
She needs romance from you. Women are attracted to different things than us men are.
You see her walk by you in her underwear in the mornings and you're ready to pounce.
She needs you to take her out for dinner and a drink. Write her a sticky note and leave it in her car about how much you appreciate her... something she does for you or your family.
Send her flowers randomly.
And when she gives you a chance to get close to it, you better make it worth her while. So she'll give it to you again.
Don't ever have an affair. Your kids will learn of it and what you discover from that, won't be good.
Posted on 2/21/23 at 11:10 am to WhereIsMyBestLife
FRICK! Either pics of your wife or the whore you're gonna bang!
Posted on 2/21/23 at 11:11 am to WhereIsMyBestLife
When you said “in sickness and in health”, you were supposed to mean it.
If your wife isn’t being sexual enough for you, chances are both of y’all are not in a perfect mental state, in other words y’all are “sick”.
The beauty of marriage as an institution and the bedrock of Western Civilization is that it caused people to stay together and work through life’s unavoidable difficulties with a partner. If you abandon her when she’s sick, YOU have failed to do what you said you would do, and you are failing your children and your future self.
If your wife isn’t being sexual enough for you, chances are both of y’all are not in a perfect mental state, in other words y’all are “sick”.
The beauty of marriage as an institution and the bedrock of Western Civilization is that it caused people to stay together and work through life’s unavoidable difficulties with a partner. If you abandon her when she’s sick, YOU have failed to do what you said you would do, and you are failing your children and your future self.
Posted on 2/21/23 at 11:15 am to WhereIsMyBestLife
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I think I need an affair to save my marriage
I don’t think that’s how marriage works.
Posted on 2/21/23 at 11:17 am to WhereIsMyBestLife
I think it's time you address your wife's pr0n addiction. She's rubbing one out to guys with large dongs and muscular physiques. Then she sees your fat arse and it leaves her depressed.
This post was edited on 2/21/23 at 11:19 am
Posted on 2/21/23 at 11:20 am to WhereIsMyBestLife
Time for road less traveled. You made a commitment to your wife and family.
Be open and honest with your wife that this is your plan.
If that goes well, go for it.
If not, time to decide which is more important - you or her/them.
Christmas morning with your family hypocrisy is worse than the open and honest conversation with your wife about your intentions.
Be open and honest with your wife that this is your plan.
If that goes well, go for it.
If not, time to decide which is more important - you or her/them.
Christmas morning with your family hypocrisy is worse than the open and honest conversation with your wife about your intentions.
Posted on 2/21/23 at 11:22 am to Turf Taint
I am thinking you need to hire PI
Bitch is cheating
Bitch is cheating
This post was edited on 2/21/23 at 11:23 am
Posted on 2/21/23 at 11:26 am to BluegrassBelle
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Found the owner of the OP’s alter.
My goodness. I was fighting in another thread, but here to defend Bluegrass!
she is a nice lady!
Posted on 2/21/23 at 11:30 am to plaric
This ain’t a Bro. this is the wife of some poster on here just waiting on him to reply.
Posted on 2/21/23 at 11:48 am to Darth_Vader
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Is she with half?
I sense experience. Tell us, Darth.
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