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How long do you stay at a funeral?
Posted on 9/21/18 at 11:24 am
Posted on 9/21/18 at 11:24 am
A friend's dad died and the funeral was this morning. I know if it's my family, I'm there the whole time, including mass and burial. I went this morning, viewing was from 9-11, then mass and burial. I got there at 9:30, talked to my buddy and his wife, stood around, then left. Got in the truck at 9:55. I went to show support and offer condolences. I'm at the age where more friend's parents are starting to die(3 this year), and was just wondering about this. Thanks.
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Posted on 9/21/18 at 11:25 am to HECM62
until you get a couple numbers, then head out
Posted on 9/21/18 at 11:27 am to HECM62
Depends.
I've stayed 5 minutes to show my face and I've stayed for the entire thing and the after party.
I've stayed 5 minutes to show my face and I've stayed for the entire thing and the after party.
Posted on 9/21/18 at 11:27 am to HECM62
In this situation I would say you are good. Even a short appearance on a week day should be appreciated.
Posted on 9/21/18 at 11:28 am to HECM62
I say you’re good if you go to the viewing pay your respects and show support for you friend.
Posted on 9/21/18 at 11:29 am to HECM62
Family or close friend=whole ordeal
Otherwise=long enough to pay respects and offer words of condolences to those you know
Otherwise=long enough to pay respects and offer words of condolences to those you know
Posted on 9/21/18 at 11:31 am to HECM62
Funerals are for those closest to the deceased. It helps them process their loss. The further removed you are from the deceased, in terms of family or friendship, the less you experience the effect. You stayed for the appropriate time.
Posted on 9/21/18 at 11:39 am to HECM62
I wont do the mass thing. I will go to the wake and burial though.
Luckily my parents are either getting cremated or donated to science so I wont have to deal with either of that BS.
Luckily my parents are either getting cremated or donated to science so I wont have to deal with either of that BS.
Posted on 9/21/18 at 11:40 am to Kentucker
Depends on the Relative/Friend. Co-workers, distant relatives, acquaintances, I normally make my how do's to the pertinent gossips then split. The closer they are in relative rank depends on whether I show up at the wake or funeral, or both.
Posted on 9/21/18 at 11:40 am to HECM62
It depends on whether you walked in or was rolled in
Posted on 9/21/18 at 11:44 am to HECM62
quote:
A friend's dad died and the funeral was this morning.
If this is a close friend, you are in for the duration as funerals are more for the survivors than the dead. You are their to support them so not knowing their dad is not the bigger issue.
Posted on 9/21/18 at 11:44 am to HECM62
If I’m dead, longer than you
Posted on 9/21/18 at 11:52 am to HECM62
Just the fact that you showed up for part of it means more than you know. Not sitting through the entire funeral is fine, in my opinion...the wake/visiting is more important. My dad passed about 7 years ago and I remember every single person who came to the wake. It made me feel so good that those people came to show appreciation for him and love for my family. I have no idea who was or wasn't at the funeral. I was in my own little world for that. Good for you for at least showing up for part of it. Your buddy appreciated it.
Posted on 9/21/18 at 11:56 am to HECM62
If I were your friend, I would NOT be offended at all. Show up, say a few words. That's all I would hope for. I never understood the reason for just hanging around for hours. I see this a lot. People end up sitting around with friends conversing and often laughing about unrelated topics and it ends up being a social hour.
Posted on 9/21/18 at 12:20 pm to HECM62
stay long enough to speak and give condolences to all the immediate family present then you have done the required duty in showing respect and its ok to leave any time after that
Posted on 9/21/18 at 12:32 pm to HECM62
Posted on 9/21/18 at 12:33 pm to HECM62
As little as possible if not an immediate family member. Go up to the widow/widower, their kids, parents etc. and offer my condolences. Pay a visit to the coffin if the deceased is not cremated and say my goodbyes, then mix and mingle for a bit followed by out the door. This is usually half hour to an hour long.
Immediate family, for the duration.
Immediate family, for the duration.
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