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re: How do you stop beating yourself up over past mistakes?
Posted on 7/8/20 at 10:38 am to lionking69
Posted on 7/8/20 at 10:38 am to lionking69
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Posted on 7/8/20 at 10:38 am to lionking69
I’ve struggled and still struggle with regret at 38 but the best solution I’ve found is try to find positives that have come out of those decisions and never forget those lessons learned. It’s best to leave the past behind, life goes on.....
Posted on 7/8/20 at 10:41 am to lionking69
Posted on 7/8/20 at 10:42 am to lionking69
We are the only "animal" on the planet to punish ourselves over and over for the same mistake.
Most importantly remember that god forgives you so why would you not think its not ok to forgive yourself.
Most importantly remember that god forgives you so why would you not think its not ok to forgive yourself.
Posted on 7/8/20 at 10:43 am to Picayuner
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Blame whitey and move on.
But I *am* whitey.
I'm also Catholic. Confession is good for the soul but I still find it difficult to forgive myself. Catholic guilt seems to add to that. No end to the number of things I can find fault with in myself.
Coping is about the best I can do because true forgiveness is something I don't think I'll ever give to myself.
Just being honest.
Posted on 7/8/20 at 10:45 am to azcatiger
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We are the only "animal" on the planet to punish ourselves over and over for the same mistake.
Good point.
I'm fairly certain my dog does not dwell on dumb decisions from yesterday let alone years ago.
But since they don't speak English, we can't be entirely sure.
Posted on 7/8/20 at 10:46 am to lionking69
I have a good female friend who recently told me she hopes "karma" catches up to an ex-boyfriend of hers who cheated on her and verbally abused her. I explained that there is no such thing as karma- at least in the cosmic sense that some people believe- and that it is simply the result of continually making bad life decisions and them catching up to you. Which they always do.
Years ago I went back to Wisconsin to visit my family and my Mom asked me if I was doing well & if everything was ok with me. I responded to that I would never do anything to embarrass or disappoint her and she was content with that. My Mom died in 2003 but that is still the way I live my life and I have no life regrets. Life ain't that hard if you make smart, logical decisions. And ALWAYS forgive- others but especially forgive yourself.
Years ago I went back to Wisconsin to visit my family and my Mom asked me if I was doing well & if everything was ok with me. I responded to that I would never do anything to embarrass or disappoint her and she was content with that. My Mom died in 2003 but that is still the way I live my life and I have no life regrets. Life ain't that hard if you make smart, logical decisions. And ALWAYS forgive- others but especially forgive yourself.
This post was edited on 7/8/20 at 10:52 am
Posted on 7/8/20 at 10:49 am to lionking69
I learned long ago to develop a wall in my Brain with 0 guilty conscience or emotional feelings. So I don’t feel bad about anything I do or say.
Basically I don’t care about much at all. Makes life easy
Basically I don’t care about much at all. Makes life easy
Posted on 7/8/20 at 10:52 am to deltaland
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don’t care about much at all. Makes life easy
Nah. You lose out on some of the better parts of life.
Posted on 7/8/20 at 10:58 am to eScott
quote:perfectly said.
If not confess to God.
Stop making decisions based on consequences, and start making decisions based on the type of person you want to be. What would the person you want to be do in this situation
Posted on 7/8/20 at 10:59 am to lionking69
ETA: Ahh too much personal info
This post was edited on 7/8/20 at 11:07 am
Posted on 7/8/20 at 11:04 am to lionking69
If your decisions hurt other people, make amends...If you're a christian, ask your higher power for forgiveness... Then move on!
Life is too short to dwell on the past bro.. Get up and get movin.
Life is too short to dwell on the past bro.. Get up and get movin.
Posted on 7/8/20 at 11:09 am to lionking69
Make newer mistakes to wreck your mind, that seems to work well for me.
Posted on 7/8/20 at 11:10 am to lionking69
You can't unless you sell that damn timeshare unit that your wife told you not to buy.
Posted on 7/8/20 at 11:17 am to lionking69
3 divorces and I came to the same conclusion. My mother told me make a careful choice about who has your kids. First wife gave me a beautiful son but She’s in my life until me, her or both expire.
I’ve come to the conclusion that the majority of good looking women are bat shite crazy. Maybe it’s me, dunno.
Anyway, like you said these “mistakes” may have saved you from a much worse fate. I got a strong handsome son from one of mine. Accept it and press on and try to make the best decisions you can. We Are only human.
I’ve come to the conclusion that the majority of good looking women are bat shite crazy. Maybe it’s me, dunno.
Anyway, like you said these “mistakes” may have saved you from a much worse fate. I got a strong handsome son from one of mine. Accept it and press on and try to make the best decisions you can. We Are only human.
Posted on 7/8/20 at 11:22 am to lionking69
If it's something you can't change, let it go. If it's changeable, do it.
Let others do the worrying. Be a doer, not a worrier.
Let others do the worrying. Be a doer, not a worrier.
Posted on 7/8/20 at 11:52 am to lionking69
Realize that everyone makes mistakes and that you can't change what you did in the past but you can change who you are in the future. People will have a bad view of you in the short term but as they see you aren't that man anymore then they will gradually believe in the new you. So focus on creating good habits and they will determine your character. Good Luck!
Posted on 7/8/20 at 11:56 am to lionking69
People who do not learn from their mistakes are bound to repeat them. Take the lesson and move on. Not one of us is perfect.
Posted on 7/8/20 at 11:56 am to lionking69
Blow and alcohol
Posted on 7/8/20 at 12:28 pm to BrerTiger
I would suggest reading scripture to gain wisdom about how to process the thoughts and emotions you’re experiencing.
I picked up the Bible about a year ago, and found it to be an exceptional guide for life.
While others have suggested confession if you’re Catholic, I highly recommend reading actual scripture, as there is no substitute for God’s word.
Many of the other responses are wise as well.
The YouVersion Bible app is free and incredibly easy to navigate. I prefer it over my printed Bible. There are many translations to choose from, so find a version that is easy for you to understand as you’re reading. NLT is the New Living Translation (I think) and helped me absorb the message of the passages.
Hope this helps. If you’re continuing to struggle, it’s also a good idea to connect with a counselor, pastor or priest that can give you guidance. Perspective is so powerful.
I picked up the Bible about a year ago, and found it to be an exceptional guide for life.
While others have suggested confession if you’re Catholic, I highly recommend reading actual scripture, as there is no substitute for God’s word.
Many of the other responses are wise as well.
The YouVersion Bible app is free and incredibly easy to navigate. I prefer it over my printed Bible. There are many translations to choose from, so find a version that is easy for you to understand as you’re reading. NLT is the New Living Translation (I think) and helped me absorb the message of the passages.
Hope this helps. If you’re continuing to struggle, it’s also a good idea to connect with a counselor, pastor or priest that can give you guidance. Perspective is so powerful.
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