re: How do you deal with suicidal depression

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I’ll be fine. Appreciate the kind words from y’all. Taking a break for a while

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Call the national suicide hotline.

I have dealt with this problem for years. My advice when you’re not “in the moment”:

1. Learn what triggers those thoughts. For me, it was when I felt like I had obligations that I couldn’t possibly meet. Like I was hopelessly “insolvent” financially, emotionally, or in my commitments to others and could never catch up, that I was causing more harm than good just by existing.

2. Clean up your environment. A chaotic environment will contribute to a chaotic mind. It will also contribute to that hopeless feeling that I described in number 1. In addition, cleaning will get you active, distract your brain, and give you a sense of accomplishment when you’re done. You don’t have to do much. Set a timer for 10-20 minutes and just clean for that duration. Even that will, over time, make a HUGE difference.

3. Talk about your feelings. Find a support system if you don’t have one. Go to therapy, journal, do anything to vent those feelings out rather than stuff them in. Writing does wonders, it really does.

4. Improve your diet, sleep schedule, and exercise. It’s easy to feel miserable when you’re in bad shape, constipated, and dog tired.

5. Learn to actively combat the thoughts that make you spiral. Your brain is a tool that you can control. Much like blinking or breathing, it will operate on its own, but you can also take direct control over it. When you start having thoughts spiraling in the wrong direction, especially thoughts that aren’t true, combat them actively by telling yourself they’re lies. Get yourself mentally on track so you don’t keep spiraling downward, and get yourself on to thinking about something less bothersome. For me, I’d often use sports. I’d start thinks about conference standings and playoff seedings, but you can really use anything.

6. Whatever you want to use to do the deed, get it out of your house. If you want to shoot yourself, lend your guns to a friend. If you want to use pills, pour them down the drain. If you want to stab yourself, put every sharp knife you own in storage (I did this for a time), etc.

7. Plan for the future, make purchases for yourself that set a time and place to be there like a vacation or a concert with friends. Give yourself a reason to be around as well as an expectation that you will be.

When you’re in the moment:
1. Call someone, ANYONE, IMMEDIATELY

2. Talk about what you’re feeling and why

3. Think about the pain others will feel at your funeral. This is the big one that got me to put down the knife many times. When I realized the harm I would inflict on others by doing so.

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OP posted this over 2 years ago. Hopefully he checked himself into a good hospital.

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He hasn’t posted since November. Hope he’s ok.

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Horrible advice.

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I was expecting to find a post from me here.

I don’t know how many times I thought I wanted to die and if I had more “courage” I probably would have found a way. But thankfully I didn’t and although I still deal with soul crushing depression and anxiety, I’ve found a way to be a productive member of society and actually feel hopeful at times.

Sleeping it off is my coping mechanism. Probably not the healthiest because the problem doesn’t go away but it does give me time to recompose myself.

I feel very lucky to be in this era when people are more understanding. If this were 30 years ago, I’d probably have lost my job that I’ve had for 6 years a long time ago.

Therapy does nothing for me. Stopped for years and thought I’d give it another shot. First therapist I didn’t connect with at all. Next therapist was a recent grad and in our fifth session she recommended an outpatient program and said she couldn’t help me. I’ve done every type of program under the Sun. Only person who can help me is myself. Suicide hotlines are worthless too.

Call 988
Make a safety plan and stick to it.


Get off of this hub of negativity.

All Around You
by Sturgill Simpson


There will be days
The sun won't shine
When it seems like
The whole world is against you

Don't be afraid
Life is unkind
You can let go of the pain
If you choose to

'Cause time slips away
Skies fall apart
Revealing to all
A universal heart
Glowing
Flowing
All around you

There will be nights
That go on forever
Like you're long, lost at sea
Never to be found

Just know in your heart
That we're always together
And long after I'm gone
I'll still be around

'Cause our bond's eternal
So is love
God is inside you
All around you
And up above
Knowing
Showing you the way

Time slips away
Skies fall apart
Revealing to all
A universal heart
Glowing
Flowing
All around you

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Gotta learn to find the beauty in life. There’s a lesson and a blessing in everything that happens in your life whether good or bad. Holding on to negativity is cancerous just let it go. Good luck and Godspeed I know you say you are ok now but I pray you will be long from now. Life kicks everyone’s arse at some point but giving it all up isn’t the answer. Lost too many friends and family members to suicide please don’t do that to yourself or those you love.

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Find things that make you happy and focus on that. What gets me through is my Xbox and my new gf. If not talk to someone

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Absolutely do this...but I would extol you, Nguyener, and others voicing severe depression to seek medical attention for the acute symptoms if they get urgent needs...but for the long term, find something you like and enjoy, then block off a time EVERY evening at the same time, towards bed and partake in the activity. This gives you a safety zone...a place of solace and peace as well as something to anticipate and look forward to each day. Work for that time each night.

For me, when I went through a severe depression at the age of 17, my Mom, at 8pm every night would read to me out of Reader's Digest. Something simple but needed by me. Do something like this. Get a stack of Reader's Digest and read a story or two. Watch a mini-series on TV...an episode or two each night. Give this gift to yourself, I promise it helps in a big way!

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