re: How do you baws split expenses with the wife?

The joint account people never seem to grasp in these threads that there is more than one way to handle finances and still have a good marriage.

Like only having a joint account means you have a superior marriage or something That’s always the attitude they portray in here.

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The joint account people never seem to grasp in these threads that there is more than one way to handle finances and still have a good marriage.

Like only having a joint account means you have a superior marriage or something Thats always the attitude they portray in here.

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I only see people getting shite on that seem to be secretive with their money or are obviously bad with their money.

There are of course many ways to skin a cat. Nut some of these people posting are telegraphing that they are in a bad situation. More often than not, its the separate accounts people. I don't think that one decision dooms a marriage or anything.

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How do you baws split expenses with the wife?

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I get whatever I want, she gets whatever she wants.

When it comes to big expenses, we just tell each other what we're getting.


shite's not that hard if you marry the right person.

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I mean, really? That’s thinking straight from the 1950s or something.

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my old lady hands over her paycheck on a platter with a sammich and a PBR, like a good little servant

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You let your wife work?!?

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I insist, don't want her hanging around the house while I'm on TD

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We put our money into a bank account and we pay for all of our shite out of it.

Some of you (or your wives) should have married better

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First marriage was this way.

Second marriage on the horizon, I promise you, things change after a divorce. When the SO has ongoing dependent children, and has trouble with impulse purchases, it's not as easy to just throw all of the money into one big pot.

I'm much more careful this time around. Never thought I would say this, always a believer in joint accounts. But a second marriage is much more complicated. There is an ex that pays child support only when he feels like it. I pay for most of their stuff, but honestly, I want to control what I decide to pay. Hard to explain, but it's not cut and dry.

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Isabelle is

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So one person, but you kept saying people.

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“What? She’s my wife not my roommate”

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I don't see the big deal about it, one way or the other

It wouldn't be TD if we didn't have most posters declaring that their way is the only way and everyone else is an idiot!

Here is what we do. We have two joint checking accounts and two joint savings accounts.

My paycheck gets split between one checking account and one savings account. The savings is mainly rainy day money stuff or if we want to splurge on something. Most of the "bills" come out of that checking account. There isn't a whole lot left over in that checking account, but it's enough to cover my gas and occasional dining out expenses, etc. I keep track of this account (but share the info with the wife).

My wife's paycheck gets split into the other checking and other savings account. That savings account is our "vacation" account. That checking account pays for her car note. Her job covers all of our health insurance, so that comes out of her check, in addition, the contributions to our kids accounts come out of her checking account. Otherwise, her checking account handles the vast majority of the day to day expenses, she she is the one that pays them. So groceries, clothes, stuff for the house, gas for her car, money for the kids school stuff, dining out and entertainment money, etc.

We did it this way because we were having problems using one account. Both of us were using it, and it was causing us to overspend, especially when I was out of town for work and constant communication isn't always easy. So, she has her account to cover all the stuff she pays for. But again, we both have access to all of the accounts, debit cards for both checking accounts, and update each other several times a week on balances and spending.

It works for us. May not work for others.

I criticized the guy who has his separate account so he can withdrawal blackjack money without the wife seeing.

But you're right, that's normal and healthy behavior.