re: Have women bitten off more than they can chew w/(family courts/marriage/divorce)

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I’m married and 29 but probably 2/3 of my close friends are still single. Younger girls are still very easy to get for them. Focus on your career, get in shape, be a decent person, go to church and you’ll find someone easily without settling for the baggage divorcee or baby mama. Men have time to figure it out

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I hope you realize this is adding to the problem.

The 30 year old single man who is having the time of his life banging 24-27 year olds with no intention of marriage is ruining those women and adding to the problem of these used up, single, 30somethings who can't settle down.

Most of them are already single mothers with multiple kids by different fathers before they’re 30.

How do y’all meet people at church? That doesn’t seem like a situation with much opportunity for interaction outside of a quick “peace be with you”

I get what you’re saying but I would say not all guys are just running through women. It’s shallow and honestly gets old.

While there is a large percentage of the culture that is all about hookup culture, there’s also some that aren’t. I see both sides with my friends but that’s way more typical with college aged kids. It’s not hard to find someone decent these days is all I’m saying.

There are PLENTY of girls who won’t even use dating apps because they know the type of guys on them.

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What kind of people are you associating with?

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I live in a mid-sized Southern city. It is what it is.

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Plus, who wants to marry a mid 30s former ho bag that slept her way through life in her 20s?

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So many naive people think that women are “pure” and don’t frick around like most guys want to do while in their 20s.

Me and my wife were both skeezers when we were in our 20s and did our things. I’m supposed to judge her for the same things I did?

I didn’t get married until I was 30 and she was 26/27? Something like that. But I most definitely got all the whoring around out of my system that usually is the case in most divorces between young couples these days.

Gotta get all that young nonsense out of your system like a purge before you settle. Wife and I have been married going on 14 years now.

Depends where you’re looking

I don’t really care if they’ve “f$&ked around”, but I do care about the consequences that tend to arise from that:
Children that aren’t mine
STD’s
Toxic emotional baggage

They don’t want to settle down until they have multiple “anchors” like those from years of letting themselves be used. Forgive me for not wanting to raise the bastards of lesser men.

I’ve tried dating single mothers in the past, and I don’t see myself ever doing that again.

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Most of them are already single mothers with multiple kids by different fathers before they’re 30.

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This. While I'm lucky and bagged my woman early, I have a good friend that's in his mid 30s and the dating pool he describes sounds extremely limited at his age, especially if you don't want to deal with someone else's kid. My brother, who's in his early 20s, is slowly getting to that point in his dating life.

It seems you find you person early or your forced to settle for a little baggage. Honestly, if I was single and in my 30s and never been married before, I'd probably be extremely selective of who I'd settle down with. The wrong selection of a wife could completely destroy me financially and emotionally. Also, I don't think I'd have to patience or desire to raise someone else's kid and have to deal with babydaddy drama and the associated attorney's fees we'd pay because he took us to court because he didn't like that we were together.

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Those same women that spent an extra decade fricking around are now more undesirable than the men they turn their noses up at.

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This 1000%. I truly don't think women believe when men say they don't want women who have a high body count. It's not a huge deal for them when picking a man, so they think it's the same. After looks, it's like #1 quality for guys when looking for a wife. Women just refuse to believe it.