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re: For those of you who lost your father, how old were you when he passed?
Posted on 1/10/22 at 5:35 pm to toosleaux
Posted on 1/10/22 at 5:35 pm to toosleaux
A week before my 20th birthday. He had been sick for several years before passing away and it was only a matter of time, but that doesn't make it any better. That was in 1998 and I still ask myself "I wonder what he would have thought about _________?"
Posted on 1/10/22 at 5:35 pm to NCTigerFan
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I was 28. He was 49.
I turn 49 later this year and am really struggling with his death all over again. I always knew he died young, but I didn't fully appreciate until this time in my life how difficult it must have been to be diagnosed with terminal cancer at 48 and for life to end at 49.
Well said. What I've noticed, at least in my case, the age my parents died became a benchmark in my own life. My mom dying at 49 became the birthday I wanted to reach someday. Now that I've gone beyond that targeted age, I'm currently 51, I think about making it to 64, the age my father was when he passed. Anything after that is just lagniappe to me.
Posted on 1/10/22 at 5:40 pm to toosleaux
55, just 10 months ago. I'm blessed. He was 85 and, while he wasn't a great Dad in my childhood, the last 20 years or so he got better.
Prayers to you guys who lost your fathers when you were so young...
Prayers to you guys who lost your fathers when you were so young...
Posted on 1/10/22 at 5:41 pm to toosleaux
I had just turned 35. 2 1/2 years ago.
Sucked arse. Some days are still hard wanting to call him up and ask for advice or just thinking about how proud he’d be of his grandkids and the things they’re doing. He loved me but damn he loved my kids something fierce.
Sucked arse. Some days are still hard wanting to call him up and ask for advice or just thinking about how proud he’d be of his grandkids and the things they’re doing. He loved me but damn he loved my kids something fierce.
Posted on 1/10/22 at 5:42 pm to toosleaux
I was 68 when he passed at 97.
Posted on 1/10/22 at 5:43 pm to toosleaux
47 when my father passed away.
53 (last year) when my mother passed away.
Both grandfathers passed away 18 years ago but both grandmothers (both in their 90's) are still living.
53 (last year) when my mother passed away.
Both grandfathers passed away 18 years ago but both grandmothers (both in their 90's) are still living.
Posted on 1/10/22 at 5:46 pm to toosleaux
I was 42 when my father passed. He got liver/colon cancer at age 65, and he died two years later at 67. He was my Superman. Realistically. He was a badass MLB in high school football, was scouted by the Indians in high school before the common baseball draft but never signed, and played semi-pro baseball into his early 30's. When I was a teenager I looked just like he did at that age, and when people who grew up with him saw me they knew exactly who I was and asked me if I would knock the piss out of people in football and hit a baseball like my father did. He lifted weights until the day he died even with stage 4 cancer and always looked like a bodybuilder. He was literally the dad who could beat up your dad. All my friends were always in awe of his huge arms and build and were scared of him when they came to my house. Watching him take his last breath suuuuuuucked. Cancer was his kryptonite. Frick cancer.
This post was edited on 1/10/22 at 7:31 pm
Posted on 1/10/22 at 5:46 pm to Rougarou4lsu
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I was 68 when he passed at 97.
Was he in good mind when he passed? I hope so, there is something special about people who live this long and is fully aware while here.
Posted on 1/10/22 at 5:47 pm to toosleaux
34. He passed suddenly and I never got a chance to say goodbye. It sucks.
Posted on 1/10/22 at 6:11 pm to toosleaux
I lost my dad when I was 12, at Christmas, in a plane crash. Very tough time. As others stated, it is a blessing to have extended time with a loving father. I wish my kids could’ve met him and they love hearing about him. He was 33 and far too young. I still remember little things about him and see those things in my children. Gonna hug my kids a little tighter tonight.
Posted on 1/10/22 at 6:36 pm to toosleaux
My old man passed from meningeal cancer when he was 38. I was 18 and in my first semester of college. Our relationship was not what it should have been, but it was on the mend. I had moved away for college and the separation between us seemed to be exactly what we needed to begin to heal things......then he dies. We had no clue that he was sick. He had a terrible headache one day that he could not bare. He went to to the chiropractor, thinking that he needed an adjustment. The chiro evaluated his symptoms and advised him to go to the ER out of fear that it might be spinal meningitis. Seven days later, he was dying at Methodist Hospital in Houston. I’m 45 years old now and still struggle with wondering what could have been. The old man tried to get it right, God bless him. His dad was pretty heavy handed and kept my dad sustained on a steady diet of arse whippings, so I reckon thats all he knew. What i wouldn’t give to have had a mended relationship with my old man that would have lasted until today, now that I have two amazing sons of my own. I think the old man would be proud.
Cherish what youve had and relish in what ever is left, my man. Theres nothing in the world as awesome as a good dad.
Cherish what youve had and relish in what ever is left, my man. Theres nothing in the world as awesome as a good dad.
Posted on 1/10/22 at 6:59 pm to Mottleduk
I was 58, dad 82 about 18 months ago. It was somewhat unexpected and quick. He was in hospital after surgery but was expected to recover. He had lots of health issues and may have been a blessing. We were fishing 2 weeks before he passed. As i recall he caught the biggest fish that summer. Miss him every day, miss calling and talking to him, getting advice and just bsing. I was lucky to have him as a father.
Posted on 1/10/22 at 7:16 pm to toosleaux
OP: Sorry for your situation, let him know how you feel while he can appreciate it.
Mine was 63 (non-Hodgkin’s Lymphoma, 3rd relapse). I was 28. Not good but at least we all knew what was happening.
He died during a Saints MNF game…
Mine was 63 (non-Hodgkin’s Lymphoma, 3rd relapse). I was 28. Not good but at least we all knew what was happening.
He died during a Saints MNF game…
Posted on 1/10/22 at 7:18 pm to toosleaux
16 and it changed everything for the worse
Posted on 1/10/22 at 7:20 pm to toosleaux
The 22nd will be 3 years. He was 58 and I was 36. He died of ocular melanoma. Same same that Kathleen blanco died from. It was tough and still is at times. I always loved to call my dad and share exciting news if I had some but it’s no longer there.
We relocated for my work shortly after he passed and I had been trying to sell my house for over a year. When we finally accepted an offer, I was so excited and I had my phone in my hand to call my dad and then it hit me. I sat down in my chair and cried at my desk for about 30 minutes.
We relocated for my work shortly after he passed and I had been trying to sell my house for over a year. When we finally accepted an offer, I was so excited and I had my phone in my hand to call my dad and then it hit me. I sat down in my chair and cried at my desk for about 30 minutes.
Posted on 1/10/22 at 7:31 pm to toosleaux
25 lost my mom when I was 12.
Posted on 1/10/22 at 7:34 pm to toosleaux
26 years old
He was 59 (died exactly 1 month before his 60th birthday)
Lung cancer. We knew he had it, but he was undergoing treatment and seemed fine all things considered. He had a late lunch with my mom, took a nap right after, and just didn't wake up. I'll never forget the call from my mom telling me what happened.
It sounds morbid/weird, but if he had to go, I'm glad he went the way he did. I can't imagine having to watch him deteriorate from cancer or something like dementia. Not sure I could have handled it.
He died July 11, 2011.
He was 59 (died exactly 1 month before his 60th birthday)
Lung cancer. We knew he had it, but he was undergoing treatment and seemed fine all things considered. He had a late lunch with my mom, took a nap right after, and just didn't wake up. I'll never forget the call from my mom telling me what happened.
It sounds morbid/weird, but if he had to go, I'm glad he went the way he did. I can't imagine having to watch him deteriorate from cancer or something like dementia. Not sure I could have handled it.
He died July 11, 2011.
This post was edited on 1/10/22 at 7:37 pm
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