re: Fitness "influencer" Stephanie Buttermore has died suddenly at 36,

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Pureblood checking in…

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People who make not getting the COVID shot part of their personality and part of their identity are as strange as people who drove around with masks in cars, like OP was talking about.

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I know people that are still taking Covid vaccines after 5 years.

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Well, that’s what everyone should be doing, is it not? Make your own healthcare decisions and agree to live with the consequences…

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Pureblood checking in…

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You have the Covid antibodies without taking the jab, so you are not pure blood, sorry.

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Dude will not be deterred. He truly believes he's on a holy mission to prove Covid vaccines are culling devices. I admire his determination.

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Those people are doing the same thing that hospitals and states did during covid — counting anyone who dies as a covid death — except they're using the vaccine instead.

Probably not many professions that will kill you sooner than being a "fitness influencer" right now. They do anything to make it big, take supplements and steroids with devastating consequences, poor dietary practices, fad workout routines, etc. Much worse among those trying to be bodybuilders, enormous levels of steroids to get big as fast as they can, destroying their organs in the process.

Get another booster

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The way I see it is that when you vow to each other to stick by through better or worse part of that vow is working to minimize the amount of worse your wife or husband has to go through.

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That's a great way to look at it. People who think marriage is a 50/50 deal don't quite get it right, IMO.

I had an uncle who told me a long time ago that you should approach marriage expecting to give more than you get, and by doing so, you'll probably find you get more than you expected.

Some of that boils down to how we individually do that math (we all do it, often without realizing it). That's influenced by our experiences and our personalities.

Early in a relationship, we often try to show our appreciation for each other in the way we want to be shown appreciation, but we need to figure out what works for our partner and try to let them know what works for us, so we lift each other up when needed. We've been married for over 34 years now and still occasionally surprise each other

It's sad

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People who think marriage is a 50/50 deal don't quite get it right, IMO.

I had an uncle who told me a long time ago that you should approach marriage expecting to give more than you get, and by doing so, you'll probably find you get more than you expected.

Some of that boils down to how we individually do that math (we all do it, often without realizing it). That's influenced by our experiences and our personalities.

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To me 50/50 isn't an accounting of tasks, services, or tangible things done for the spouse or benefit of the family, rather when I say I treat my spouse as an equal, I mean I hold her to the same level of respect I would like for myself. For example, trying not to condescend, asking questions in an effort to better communicate and understand instead of telling each other to do things, etc.

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To me 50/50 isn't an accounting of tasks, services, or tangible things done for the spouse or benefit of the family, rather when I say I treat my spouse as an equal, I mean I hold her to the same level of respect I would like for myself.

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In that respect, 50/50 makes sense. But that is not how most people look at it.

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For example, trying not to condescend, asking questions in an effort to better communicate and understand instead of telling each other to do things, etc.

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Great advice.