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re: Empty nesters
Posted on 3/9/24 at 7:35 am to tigerjjs
Posted on 3/9/24 at 7:35 am to tigerjjs
Mrs. Vader and I are on the cusp of being empty nesters. Our youngest will be 16 this summer and already is either at some school or church function most nights, or in her room. Most of the time.
As for adjusting, that’s easy. We are each others best friend and have been for almost 28 years. We love just being together. Doesn’t matter what we’re doing or if we’re doing anything at all. We just enjoy one another’s company. But we do stay active. We like to, as we call it, “gallivant” on weekends. We usually find some small town a day’s drive away that looks interesting to visit. And we each have our own separate hobbies. My wife loves to garden and build puzzles, while I, as most here already know, love to build military scale models. So, while we each have our own separate interests that we both enjoy doing, we also enjoy spending time together. I think it’s a healthy balance.
As for adjusting, that’s easy. We are each others best friend and have been for almost 28 years. We love just being together. Doesn’t matter what we’re doing or if we’re doing anything at all. We just enjoy one another’s company. But we do stay active. We like to, as we call it, “gallivant” on weekends. We usually find some small town a day’s drive away that looks interesting to visit. And we each have our own separate hobbies. My wife loves to garden and build puzzles, while I, as most here already know, love to build military scale models. So, while we each have our own separate interests that we both enjoy doing, we also enjoy spending time together. I think it’s a healthy balance.
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Posted on 3/9/24 at 7:43 am to tigerjjs
You get to the point that you are ready for them to leave after a couple of days when they come to visit.
Posted on 3/9/24 at 7:57 am to tigerjjs
Our youngest just left and is a freshman in collage. We have older kids in Florida and Kentucky. We visit them. We date, almost every Friday night. We have things we enjoy doing together. We have grandkids too, so keeping up with their activities adds to things to do. Honestly, it’s been pretty easy and we slipped right into it without thinking about it too much.
Posted on 3/9/24 at 7:59 am to tigerjjs
It’s awesome. Love my kids, but when it’s time to go, it’s time to go.
Posted on 3/9/24 at 8:06 am to tigerjjs
I've already told my bunch that I'm gonna be moving and shaking when my "responsibilities" toward them end. In other words, when they make their own money I'm gonna spend mine on me.
Posted on 3/9/24 at 8:12 am to Gee Grenouille
Join a gym.
Posted on 3/9/24 at 8:42 am to gumbeaux
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You get to the point that you are ready for them to leave after a couple of days when they come to visit.
This is true. When they go off to college or move out, coming back home is more difficult because your rules are still in effect, but they have become far more independent. It's a power struggle of sorts.
Franklin supposedly said, guests are like fish, after three days they start to stink.
Posted on 3/9/24 at 8:57 am to 0x15E
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PIIHB ETA: I see I’ve thoroughly been beaten with this response, but it remains all the same.
I’m also a new empty nester, and this is the best answer. All the sad stuff and worrying about the kids stuff is just stupid. You’ve done your job raising them, now it’s time to enjoy life and PIIHB
Posted on 3/9/24 at 9:30 am to tigerjjs
Find a hobby that can produce income. I do some wood working stuff and the young couples in our hood pay stupid money for the shitty stuff I build.
We do 2 community yard sales a year (spring/fall) and I build flower pots, end tables, floating shelves...easy items to assemble prior to each yard sale. I do not stain or paint and folks pay $30 per flower pot, $100 per end table and $20 per shelf.
I have also built specialty items (writers desk, coffee tables, dinningroom tables) that were requested by others and those too are not painted or stained.
We also travel when we want. We'll drive or fly and spend a day or 2 in a town and explore.
We do 2 community yard sales a year (spring/fall) and I build flower pots, end tables, floating shelves...easy items to assemble prior to each yard sale. I do not stain or paint and folks pay $30 per flower pot, $100 per end table and $20 per shelf.
I have also built specialty items (writers desk, coffee tables, dinningroom tables) that were requested by others and those too are not painted or stained.
We also travel when we want. We'll drive or fly and spend a day or 2 in a town and explore.
Posted on 3/9/24 at 10:00 am to tigerjjs
My kids left but still have not “left”.
They are home all the time, talk to their mom and I all the time, need help moving and still vacation with us.
I won’t feel like I have an empty nest until all kids are married.
They are home all the time, talk to their mom and I all the time, need help moving and still vacation with us.
I won’t feel like I have an empty nest until all kids are married.
Posted on 3/9/24 at 10:20 am to tigerjjs
I wish I had your problem, buddy.
Posted on 3/9/24 at 2:32 pm to SECdragonmaster
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My kids left but still have not “left”.
They are home all the time, talk to their mom and I all the time, need help moving and still vacation with us.
Mine lives about 2000 miles away I've seen them twice in the past year. Trade ya.
Posted on 3/11/24 at 4:00 pm to tigerjjs
Spend time volunteering. Limit your tv time. Turn it off during the day. Develop some hobbies. Don't be close minded to new things. You can talk yourself out of a lot of things without really giving them a try.
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