re: Does lateness make anyone else irrationally angry?

Is he black?

This is one my biggest peeves. When you have plans with someone and they are late or don’t even call shows the complete lack of respect. As far as me personally if I know I am going to be late it drives me freaking nuts.

Lateness drives me absolutely crazy. I can feel me blood pressure rise and the anxiety start kicking in. And it’s even worse when I’m the one who’s late.

It’s the primary reason I ALWAYS have a book with me. I get where I’m going, park and read. Keeps me nice and calm.

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Tell people dinner for 7, feel free to arrive early for a cocktail, conversation, relax etc. and they show up at 7:30 or later when everything is sitting on the stove cooling off.

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My brother-in-law’s family does this. I stopped waiting for them. If I tell you dinner is at 7:00, I’ll give you five minutes, then if no call, we watch out you.

Then there was the time they showed up over an hour late, we had waited for them, then told us they had already eaten when they got there.

We don’t invite them over anymore. I don’t much associate with them if I can call help it. That was just so incredibly rude, there’s no coming back from it.

Yes, not respecting others time is a passive aggressive kick in the nuts

Most of the people I know that are habitually late are narcissist.

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Your friend is telling you his time is more valuable than your time. Address it with him in that way instead of just giving him a hard time about being late. It is usually eye opening when they are confronted in how selfish being late is.

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Don’t try this method with your wife. It does not work. In fact, no method works on women who are chronically late.

Yes, and I am a Reformed Tard. From 2008 to now, I am always on time for work and absolutely can't stand tardiness by co-workers relieving me. From my my first job in 1987 to 2008, I was habitually 5 to 15 minutes late. Current Me would've hated Tardy Me.

I was totally unaware of the perception by waiting co-workers that I was selfish, disrespectful or uncaring. I never intended to be late and was always profusely apologetic and gave real detailed traffic excuses. I was just a disorganized and planned poorly. If it took 20 mins to get to work on an low traffic day, I would not allow for extra time if traffic was heavier, which it mostly was. My thought was leaving 10 mins early meant possibly arriving 10 mins early which I thought 'why the hell would I do that'. Silent co-workers and bosses ultimately enabled me to be a habitual tard. Bosses only said something if I was extremely late by an hour or two.

Crazy that all it took was working with a good friend in 2008, who was just the opposite of me (who regularly arrived 45 mins early to have coffee/read the paper,etc.) to indirectly put peer pressure on me to at the very least arrive 1 min. before my shift started. Life is soooo less stressful driving to work by leaving earlier and co-workers don't secretly hate me.

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Oh man, I bet they’re gonna be devastated if y’all aren’t there

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Found the one that runs stupidly late.

Being late is a sign of rudeness, IMO. I hate it,