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re: Do you know any swingers?
Posted on 10/3/18 at 10:21 pm to Masterag
Posted on 10/3/18 at 10:21 pm to Masterag
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trouble is finding someone who is emotionally aware, compatible, thoughtful, and sensual enough to share an experience like this. it's definitely easier said than done.
Most of the interesting things in life are just lightening in a bottle. But you've gotta be receptive to the lightning first.
It's not hard to find someone to go down that road with you, but it's hard to find someone you care about and trust to stay within the guidelines of an already murky landscape. I think most people who go into that lifestyle need to realize the odds of something going wrong are very high
This post was edited on 10/3/18 at 10:25 pm
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Posted on 10/3/18 at 10:25 pm to OKellsBells
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The only ones I know got divorced after about a year of regular swinging, and are both now monogamous with their swinging partner.
Swinging with the same people all the time seems dangerous. One of the reasons we drifted away from it is because it was a hassle always finding new couples.
This post was edited on 10/3/18 at 10:28 pm
Posted on 10/3/18 at 10:26 pm to CelticDog
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Beings as I'm of the polyfidelity school,
biologically, i think this is what we're wired for, but our society and our expectations of what a relationship should be are not equipped to handle this. it would be interesting to do some, ahem, research though.
Posted on 10/3/18 at 10:30 pm to Masterag
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biologically, i think this is what we're wired for, but our society and our expectations of what a relationship should be are not equipped to handle this
The human condition with its full range of emotion and feelings make following our biological urges much more difficult than it should appear. On one hand we want to plant our seed in as many as possible but on the other hand the longing for romance and the feelings of insecurity are very powerful
Posted on 10/3/18 at 10:33 pm to Masterag
Several of my friends are. All have been married a long time.
No divorces yet. It's either for you or it isn't. If you both have that kink, why not explore it?
It sure as hell beats cheating and takes honesty within the relationship to an entirely different level.
Would you trust your wife when she said she would never let it get out of hand?
No divorces yet. It's either for you or it isn't. If you both have that kink, why not explore it?
It sure as hell beats cheating and takes honesty within the relationship to an entirely different level.
Would you trust your wife when she said she would never let it get out of hand?
Posted on 10/3/18 at 10:40 pm to Masterag
I did back in my younger days. Newly moved in a house right off FM1960 near Tomball. Turns out several of the neighbors were into swinging. All of the wives were pretty hot but the guys were gross to me ... I sat on the sidelines and observed ... some ... mostly.
Posted on 10/3/18 at 11:33 pm to Masterag
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Posted on 10/4/18 at 12:18 am to Tester1216
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Intelligence > Beauty Smart is sexy
Say gurl, I graduated magna cum laude
Posted on 10/4/18 at 12:26 am to Masterag
In Austin, the Steiner Ranch area is known as a big swinger community. I have a golf buddy of mine that goes to the steakhouse with his wife all the time and just by slight comments, I’ve always got the sense he was sending out feelers but not outright saying it.
He’s mentioned a few times that me and my SO should meet them up there for a happy hour, and I’ve always declined since we live south.
Then another old friend of mine tried to sell me on the fact that I was not being open minded and very insecure by not allowing my SO to get plowed by someone else. Yea buddy, I’m good. He ended up getting deep into drugs and basically homeless a few years later after his wife left him.
He’s mentioned a few times that me and my SO should meet them up there for a happy hour, and I’ve always declined since we live south.
Then another old friend of mine tried to sell me on the fact that I was not being open minded and very insecure by not allowing my SO to get plowed by someone else. Yea buddy, I’m good. He ended up getting deep into drugs and basically homeless a few years later after his wife left him.
This post was edited on 10/4/18 at 12:42 am
Posted on 10/4/18 at 12:35 am to Masterag
Yes. They throw awesome parties. Be careful and secure if you party in that
world, and know who you are dealing with. Some swingers are better than others. Some are just cool people, and some are overly ambitious in finding new "partners." Avoid those.
world, and know who you are dealing with. Some swingers are better than others. Some are just cool people, and some are overly ambitious in finding new "partners." Avoid those.
Posted on 10/4/18 at 12:42 am to Pesticide
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It's more prevalent than most would think.
Yes.
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If you're married it's not a good thing.
That depends. If you and your spouse are very comfortable with each other and happy, there's nothing wrong with it as long as you're on the same page. BUT, same page is the key.
There are those who get into it to spice things up and that is unhealthy and dangerous. NEVER get into that lifestyle to fix a dull marriage. Your relationship will be done eventually, and you may drag others down with you.
Posted on 10/4/18 at 12:49 am to Keys Open Doors
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Most of the women on that show are attractive. I imagine it’s not indicative of the broader scene.
Haven't seen the show, and I'm sure there are plenty of scenes. But, the ones the wifey and I party with are fricking hawt. Plenty of talent. We don't participate with anybody else, but in that setting we are free to do whatever the hell we want with each other. Being constantly on the market tends to be an incentive for keeping the body fit and attractive.
There are definitely less desirable scenes, but this is Scottsdale and trophy swinger wife ground zero
I've met some NFL players(current and retired) lately as well.
Posted on 10/4/18 at 1:00 am to Masterag
Reading through this thread has been interesting.
There is no way I could lead the swinging lifestyle. Absolutely no way. I would be a fricking wreck. I would hate to have the thought of my GF having sex with another man. Or woman for that matter. I wouldn’t be able to get a damn thing done, that thought would fricking eat at me day and night. And I wouldn’t be able to do that to my GF, either. I just couldn’t.
Not judging but I couldn’t do that.
There is no way I could lead the swinging lifestyle. Absolutely no way. I would be a fricking wreck. I would hate to have the thought of my GF having sex with another man. Or woman for that matter. I wouldn’t be able to get a damn thing done, that thought would fricking eat at me day and night. And I wouldn’t be able to do that to my GF, either. I just couldn’t.
Not judging but I couldn’t do that.
Posted on 10/4/18 at 2:18 am to Masterag
Friends with a couple in the Army and they were open about it. It works for them i guess they are still married and have been for 18 years. Personally I could never do it nor my wife ,but different strokes for different folks I guess.
Posted on 10/4/18 at 5:16 am to Masterag
Yes. I know a couple who are swingers. Shockingly, they divorced last year because he was banging a chick on the side without telling her
Posted on 10/4/18 at 5:55 am to Masterag
Yes. My wife would not approve.
Posted on 10/4/18 at 6:38 am to Masterag
A few years back I used to go to a coffee shop every morning after working out and this guy buddied up to me. A pretty intense guy and very obnoxious. He was married with a bunch of kids. He would always ask if I wanted to hang out and then one day out of the blue he asked if I wanted to come to his house to watch his kids open their Christmas presents. I mention it to one of my mine and his friends and the guy says "be careful, he wants you to bang his wife". Turns out he's not very happily-married and I guess he's looking to spice things up.
A few months down the road the marriage unravels further when he catches her cheating. They divorce and she moves on to another guy, I see them often. The guy landed on his feet, he's now married to the ex-wife of a famous rock guitar player and living in Malibu.
A few months down the road the marriage unravels further when he catches her cheating. They divorce and she moves on to another guy, I see them often. The guy landed on his feet, he's now married to the ex-wife of a famous rock guitar player and living in Malibu.
This post was edited on 10/4/18 at 6:39 am
Posted on 10/4/18 at 7:30 am to TigerFanInSouthland
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I would hate to have the thought of my GF having sex with another man.
With you on that one, but she’s my wife
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Or woman for that matter.
You lost me here
Posted on 10/4/18 at 7:33 am to Tester1216
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Intelligence > Beauty
Smart is sexy
Really? You honestly think that? You'd be more sexually attracted to Stephen Hawking over some hollow-skulled male model? I can tell you it has never moved for Ruth Bader-Ginsberg.
Intelligence is sexy, but not only as an addendum.
Posted on 10/4/18 at 7:37 am to Thib-a-doe Tiger
I have a good friend from college that is knee deep in this mess. He outkicked his coverage and his wife spends quite a bit of time in the gym and eats right. She is also a bit bi-curious.
They screen candidates via twitter and have some type of inner circle that swing. For the most part, the wives are bi and I guess the dudes watch or film. There are more rules to this than I care to know or explore.
While it sounds great to watch girl or girl action, I can tell there is a part of my buddy that knows he has gone down a dangerous road. I know that he has participated with other women, I suspect she has participated with other men. Not my cup of tea and I have no idea how this ends well at the end of the day.
They screen candidates via twitter and have some type of inner circle that swing. For the most part, the wives are bi and I guess the dudes watch or film. There are more rules to this than I care to know or explore.
While it sounds great to watch girl or girl action, I can tell there is a part of my buddy that knows he has gone down a dangerous road. I know that he has participated with other women, I suspect she has participated with other men. Not my cup of tea and I have no idea how this ends well at the end of the day.
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