re: Do you and your siblings generally agree on the quality of your childhood?

Don’t know. My siblings and I really don’t reflect too much on the past.

I know my mom and aunt didn’t have great childhoods but they have taken different approaches later in life. My mom just accepted what it was and moved on. She never brings it up or pushes her shite onto her kids. My aunt is in her 50s and still not over it. She’s an alcoholic who has been with god knows how many men. Big surprise: my cousin is a drug addict with HIV

When I was growing up I always thought my dad was a hard-arse, and kind of an a-hole. As I've gotten older(I'm 37) I have grown to appreciate my dad and his stoic nature more and more. He wasn't perfect, no one is, but he cared a whole lot for us kids, made a lot of sacrifices for us, and was always there. He tried his best to raise us to where when we got older we could deal with things easier. I'm speaking specifically of my dad because my mom is a saint and a sweetheart and I never questioned whether or not I liked my mom.

The older you get, the more your perspective changes, and the more you see just how much worse your childhood situation could have been, and it makes you really, really thankful to have 2 parents that really fricking cared and loved.

I am pretty certain that my 2 siblings align with me on this.

I was the last born and my sisters re 15 and 8 years older than me.. I am also the last ditch effort at a boy. I, from a practical standpoint, was raised by different people than they were.
Born when my parents were older, they were just tired. On top of that. My sister was born in 45. My old man had spent several years in the Pacific landing on Islands and that couldn’t have been that enjoyable.
My sisters describe completely different people than the ones I grew up with.
My sisters describe an overbearing hardass jarhead. The guy I grew up with just wanted someone he could throw the ball with and go to games with.
They had the guy who had to figure azimuth’s and how to make a howitzer shell land where it was supposed to.
My double major college grad dad got frustrated trying to teach me addition and subtraction. Forget about long division

All six of us have very fond memories of our childhood. Our parents were very involved with us and we loved them a lot. The only difference is that as my parents aged, they became more and more alcoholic. That meant that, as the youngest, my experience of our home life in high school is very different from my oldest brother's. But still, very good.

My siblings and I had great parents. There were 5 of us siblings and we learned to work hard on ourselves, our brains, and be physically active. I often wonder how they had the energy to manage us. Dad would be 103 and mom 99 now. And us siblings truly love each other.

Total Gen X here. My brother (5 years older) and my sister (11 months younger-no pics) and me agree we had it pretty good. Lived in the country and were on the working class side of life. My mom had a lot of brothers and sisters so we had a ton of cousins. Parents both worked in a factory that moved to Mexico in the 90s. My dad's belief in working was the best thing he could have taught us.

Brother married at 20 (considered old by my family). Sister married at 18. I went to college and my brother and sister followed me. He's a teacher now, she works in HR. We watched a ton of our cousins get into drugs, have kids young and living off the government. We avoided that. Being the middle child I'd say I had it the worse, and they would agree. They'd also agree that I'm the most successful.

Two older brothers, both Boomers. I was born on just the cusp of Gen X. My oldest brother is a good dude for the most part. Finished high school, started trade school and joined a union immediately after. Moved out a year later after working a year or so of union jobs. Probably a conservative but we don't talk much.

Next brother went to college for a BS in Law Enforcement and an MS in Criminal Justice. Retired a Federal LEO a few years back. He says he paid for it all. We talk regularly. Good Dude. The shite he's seen in his 30+ years would curl your ears. He still won't tell me much. We get along great.

Our younger sister is a college professor. Very unlikely the three of us brothers share the same vales as our sister.

Bottom line it is very difficult to know how things turn out. Me and my sister had an advantage. Dad's job was better, we got a few more liberties. Like cars, college tuition. You never really know.

ETA:

I few years back when me and my younger brother reconnected he was surprised I received more support from my parents. The way he tells it my parents kicked him to the curb after HS. My parents paid for tuition but nothing else. No telling what the baby sister got.