re: Do/Did you spank your kids?

Nope.
I approach things the same way I do misbehavior by students.
This is what you did wrong.
This is what you should be doing.
This is the consequence for continued wrong doing.

I have two kids, 14 and 8, and both make straight As, read at a high level, excel in math, and have never had behavior issues in school. Any minor wrongdoings have been quickly addressed.

The last thing you want to do is create girls who believe that violence against them is in some way their fault, and you don't want to create boys who believe that using violence against others is the solution to being wronged.

My daughter, no. My two boys….YES

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Spanking is worthless and it’s only something trashy people do

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So, you don't condone it, and I assume do not use it as a means of discipline, yet you are somehow convinced it is "worthless"?

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only something trashy people do

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Ahhh, the "if you disagree with me you are trash" defense.

My daughter was bringing back bad conduct grades from school. She got warnings, time out, no TV. Nothing worked. I whipped her arse good one time and she has perfect conduct going on 2 years now.

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This is what you did wrong.
This is what you should be doing.
This is the consequence for continued wrong doing.

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And what are those consequences? If it is a time-out or taking a freedom away from them, and that corrects their behavior, obviously that's a win for all involved. What if those consequences don't get the required results?

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create girls who believe that violence against them is in some way their fault

create boys who believe that using violence against others is the solution to being wronged.

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You say your students and your own children are required to comprehend the steps you outlined above, yet you feel these same students/children are unable to comprehend the difference between corporal punishment and violence?

Speaking from the perspective of a guy with children that are now girl (25) and boy (22), We used punishment and corporal punishment in raising our children along with a lot of communication to get them to understand the issue/situation they violated. No negotiations, firm and decisive.

Kids come with all kinds of personalities and parenting is not a 1 size fits all situation. My parents did the same. My wife's parents were a little more lenient, but we grew us with similar family sensibilities.

The spankings were never over the top, and very infrequent. The thing is, once spankings are shown as an option for punishment, the threat of a spanking is usually enough to keep most kids on the straight and narrow. Most young kids have a strong desire for boundaries, structure, love, and want to do good and to please their parents. Spending time and teaching your kids as they grow up is the key. It is a nurturing experience that cannot be mailed in.

If your idea of spend time with your child is keeping them constantly preoccupied with a movie, the iPhone or an Ipad, then you have a lot of catching up to do with your relationship. Parenting is the most important responsibility you have on this earth.

My kids are both gainfully employed and living independently. They have professional jobs and I couldn't be prouder of them both. I also understand that I am 1 phone call away from disaster as a parent. I pray for them and their future every day. I am more proud that they use us as a resource for decisions and things that matter in their lives. The relationship we have as a family is close and tight. We went through hell in the high school years, but it all comes back around as they mature.

I wish you all the luck in the world on this difficult and fulfilling journey.

Yep but not like I got. My daughter was very sensitive so one weak swat and that got the message across. My son was on the autism spectrum so spanking wouldn't do a thing. So telling him why he was in trouble worked better than any whipping could. And the things he would get in trouble for was right out of an old yellow movie

He had a habit for capturing poisonous snakes and putting them in a cooler. Dont know how he didn't get bit. Went by a drive through once and when I went to pay, he pulled out a lizard to show the cashier. She screamed and fell over a rack of buns. So anytime we went out, I would make him show me he didn't have any reptiles anywhere in him.

Then one time on the way back from daycare, him and his sister where fighting and crying in the backseat. I turned around and told them to knock it off. Then noticed the blue lights behind me. Iam like shite, it's not my day. Cop came to my window and asked why I ran the red light. Then he noticed my kids where still going at it. Kids were around six and five years old. Cop looks back at me and smiled. He said have a good day sir and left. Guess he figured I had more in my hands then a ticket. I could go on and on with those two.

But now they are in their late twenties and they have always had each other's back.

Your parents should've spanked you into an oblivion

I grew up in the 60s & 70s. My father was a hardened veteran of the Vietnam war. My brother and I got pounded 24/7 & 365 if we stepped out of line. Don't get me wrong, we deserved most whipping that were doled out. We were not abused. Three or four swats and move on. I don't think it had an effect on me one way or another. I do remember paddling in elementary and junior high school. Oh, the poor souls being paddled by the principal crying their eyes out. Corporal punishment works (at least in my eyes).