- My Forums
- Tiger Rant
- LSU Recruiting
- SEC Rant
- Saints Talk
- Pelicans Talk
- More Sports Board
- Fantasy Sports
- Golf Board
- Soccer Board
- O-T Lounge
- Tech Board
- Home/Garden Board
- Outdoor Board
- Health/Fitness Board
- Movie/TV Board
- Book Board
- Music Board
- Political Talk
- Money Talk
- Fark Board
- Gaming Board
- Travel Board
- Food/Drink Board
- Ticket Exchange
- TD Help Board
Customize My Forums- View All Forums
- Show Left Links
- Topic Sort Options
- Trending Topics
- Recent Topics
- Active Topics
Started By
Message
re: Divorced guys, click here
Posted on 8/26/22 at 12:17 pm to RogerTheShrubber
Posted on 8/26/22 at 12:17 pm to RogerTheShrubber
quote:
My first wife was amazing, for 18 years. The last one sucked. Its not totally her fault though.
My 1st marriage felt like it lasted 25 years (it didn't come close). I've been with my current wife only 2 years less and it still feels like we just met. That says everything for me.
1
Posted on 8/26/22 at 12:18 pm to RogerTheShrubber
quote:
If you can link to where I said this, that would be awesome
You're literally making stuff up here.
You've shared all your indiscretions in the past. The internet lives forever. You can't hide from then now that it's inconvenient towards your holier than thou wise man schtick
Posted on 8/26/22 at 12:18 pm to northshorebamaman
It fricking sucks. The Sooner you get yourself to a point where you realize it's a legal process, the better. Getting counseling, for myself, was best thing I did through all of it.
Posted on 8/26/22 at 12:21 pm to redstick13
quote:
My 1st marriage felt like it lasted 25 years (it didn't come close). I've been with my current wife only 2 years less and it still feels like we just met. That says everything for me.
19 first wife, 3 with a quasi interpretation of an S/O and 13 years with this one.
I'm on good terms with all, currently. That wasn't always the case.
Posted on 8/26/22 at 12:22 pm to Pettifogger
quote:
Mingo is a massive striver but he's right that you don't suddenly wake up married to someone who gets in with a bad crowd or starts shooting up by wholesome accident.
In 99% of those scenarios a dude married a girl with high sketch potential, even if not yet fulfilled, and there were multiple people in his life who told him that.
exactly
also 1-divorce....ok could easily be her
2 divorces....yea might want to check the mirror some
3 divorces.....yea mother fricker, its not them, its you.
more than 3 divorces....yea give up please!!
got guys in this thread and others giving advice on marriage that are on their 3rd or 4th marriage.....guys who have bragged about all the cheating they have done, bragged about the partying, and all kinds of deprived shite.....but they gonna give advice on marriage
talk about lack of self perception.
This post was edited on 8/26/22 at 1:20 pm
Posted on 8/26/22 at 12:25 pm to Mingo Was His NameO
quote:
You've shared all your indiscretions in the past.
bullshite, you couldn't handle my indiscretions. Just the drinking thing overloads your little zoomer mind.
that Doesn't stop your drama queen tendencies though
This post was edited on 8/26/22 at 12:26 pm
Posted on 8/26/22 at 12:25 pm to The People
quote:
No wife, happy life. If yours is anything like mine, you will realize soon after she is gone how little value to your life she actually provided.
I'm perfectly happy being married although I'd absolutely rather be single than in a bad marriage.
Posted on 8/26/22 at 12:28 pm to fallguy_1978
quote:
I'd absolutely rather be single than in a bad marriage.
True
Apathy is worse. Its the purgatory of conditions. I can handle a lot, but not apathy.
Posted on 8/26/22 at 1:51 pm to RogerTheShrubber
quote:
quote:Don’t let her off the hook. Nut up, engage the battle, and be relentless in forcing her into treatment.
Sounds like he's past that point, he's looking to disengage. I think he's made the decision.
It’s never too late. It only seems that way.
In fact, now is the right time to fight. You have to be willing to risk losing the marriage to properly work on problems in the marriage. Otherwise, you’re still always walking on egg shells, trying not to rock the boat, especially with an emotionally abusive addict.
Perhaps it’s only now that you can really be direct and say, “Honey, we’ve built our lives together and I love you, but your drinking is a problem, and it’s turned you into a raging BITCH. I know I’m not perfect, but we can’t get anywhere until you put the bottle down, for good.
YOU ARE AN ALCOHOLIC. You know it and I know it. It’s time to admit it and get the help you need - the help that BOTH you and I need.”
This post was edited on 8/26/22 at 1:52 pm
Posted on 8/26/22 at 2:22 pm to Havoc
quote:
How did things finally get to the point of separation and divorce? Was there a thing or a moment?
After college she went to work in a high profile job for an oil company. She had to travel a lot and be gone for weeks at a time. When she was in town she'd work until late, sometimes not getting home until after 9:00.
I also was traveling for work some.
At first it was exciting that she was getting to see the world on the company dime and I even got to go on a couple of trips with her.
But as she got more successful she became more married to the job than to me. I think she's just wired to put all of her focus on one thing and can't turn it off.
After 9 years of slowly growing apart we were basically roommates. At the same time, the physical intimacy was also fading. She was always exhausted and not interested.
I kept thinking we could fix it, but she saw that it was past that. She was mature enough to know that she was never going to be able to give me the relationship I wanted and deserved.
It SUCKED to split and I was miserable for a good while. But as others have said, time heals.
Posted on 8/26/22 at 2:58 pm to northshorebamaman
Be prepared to have your entire life reduced to 1s and 0s.
Posted on 8/26/22 at 3:11 pm to northshorebamaman
she wanted out. that was march 2020 when we filed. we have 2 daughters from the marriage. some days are really tough. im in counseling with the goal of being the best version of me in future relationships. it is really really hard. i exercise daily and prioritize self care. im now seeing a woman and we are in the beginning stages of what i hope is a life long relationship. life goes on and it can get much much better.
Posted on 8/26/22 at 4:02 pm to jchamil
quote:
You really must be a miserable person
He projects like a drive-in movie. I've said this before: people as jacked and successful as Mingo claims to be don't act like this.
Posted on 8/26/22 at 4:59 pm to northshorebamaman
quote:
a bitter, mean, alcoholic.
Nancy Pelosi?
Posted on 8/26/22 at 5:55 pm to The Scofflaw
Can’t live with them, can’t live without them.
Posted on 8/26/22 at 6:17 pm to northshorebamaman
Is she actually an alcoholic or does she just drink too much? It’s not the same thing. If she’s a legit alcoholic she may not be able to quit without help? Is she at all willing to accept help? If so, and you love her enough to go through it, it’ll still be a tough, long road, but could work out. If she isn’t willing, then “if you keep on doing what you’ve always done, you’ll always get what you always got.”
This board can be brutal sometimes so I hesitate to say too much, but I do have first hand experience, and if I can help anyone with it, it would be worth taking some heat.
This board can be brutal sometimes so I hesitate to say too much, but I do have first hand experience, and if I can help anyone with it, it would be worth taking some heat.
Posted on 8/26/22 at 7:00 pm to northshorebamaman
quote:Stay up and keep moving forward
northshorebamaman
Posted on 8/26/22 at 7:14 pm to RobNation
quote:
Life's too short to be miserable and your kids are adults now.
Eternity in Hell for a no-fault divorce is pretty long though
Posted on 8/26/22 at 7:35 pm to boxcarbarney
quote:
I've said this before: people as jacked and successful as Mingo claims to be don't act like this.
More lean than jacked
Posted on 8/26/22 at 8:04 pm to Mingo Was His NameO
quote:More elfin than lean.
More lean than jacked
Your hubris dwarfs your wisdom.
This post was edited on 8/26/22 at 8:05 pm
Page 9 of 10
Back to top
Follow TigerDroppings for LSU Football News