re: Divoced baws of the OT. How did it go down?

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No. I’m old school.

It's a sign of weakness and possibly a sign that you're a finook.

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Old school for what?

Weakness for?

How do you know it's a sign of weakness?

Maybe you're just scared of it.

You remind me of my feeble minded kid brother, Ercoli.

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You remind me of my feeble minded kid brother, Ercoli.

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Good to know. Still waiting on what you mean by old school.

Nice deflection. You could have just said you are scared of it or that you have never been around a clean one.

How you equate doing that meaning you will do something else is the puzzling part. Do you have first hand knowledge of this? Experience?

Not sure what your brother has to do with the conversation.

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I actually had to kick some skifooza around because she was telling the ladies at the parlor I was going down on her. Disgusting.

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Have you ever done it?

Why is it disgusting?

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possibly a sign that you're a finook.

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You think going down on a woman is the same as being gay?

Maybe you're just lazy. Or you just care about yourself. I've never heard ANYONE think that way

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I sprinted through red flags like they were finishing line tape at a marathon.

I was painfully insecure and felt emasculated both by our finances in law school and just in general.

I lost my assertiveness and confidence and second-guessed myself on everything from paint colors to basic chores to shopping decisions and what to eat for dinner.

I held on to every argument as if each one was a learning opponent for future reference of what NOT to do. This caused me to become a waffler who couldn’t trust his gut and struggled to make decisions because I was paralyzed by analysis.

I was so concerned with avoiding conflict that I became a pushover, which built resentment in me and caused her to lose any respect for me.

I took her for granted and didn’t always do the stupid little things she needed for her insecurities to be assuaged (gifts, flowers, little cute notes, etc)

I had my share of faults, but I never stopped trying to fix them. She had no interest in compromise in any way, shape, or form and had zero desire to do anything about her own issues, let alone work with me to fix our problems. She saw me as 100% the problem, and by then, I was so demoralized and emotionally weakened from gaslighting, law school, and plant life that I believed her.

I could see the writing on the wall before we got married, but I was arrogant enough to believe that I could fix everything, and was foolish enough to trust that she would be just as invested.

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This is some solid introspection man. You just did all of my work for me.

People get married young, or they want instant gratification and it doesn't come in marriage

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Just seems like a modern thing, particularly with women, that if you arent happy 24/7 then something is wrong and drastic changes must be made.

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They see their friends happy 24/7 on social media and wondering why that can't be them.

They don't understand it's all fake.

One thing that the OT has reinforced to me (over the years) is how insanely strong the sexual urge is in both men and women, while at the same time how wrong it is to cheat on your partner.

On the surface, it makes perfect sense to shame people for cheating but an argument could be made that it should be way down on the list of why people get divorced.

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I actually had to kick some skifooza around because she was telling the ladies at the parlor I was going down on her. Disgusting.


Have you ever done it?

Why is it disgusting?

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possibly a sign that you're a finook.
You think going down on a woman is the same as being gay?

Maybe you're just lazy. Or you just care about yourself. I've never heard ANYONE think that way

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He's doing a bit from The Sopranos.

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He's doing a bit from The Sopranos.

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Trolling, Soprano's style. Pretty clever.

It's been so long since I watched it, I don't remember that.