re: Did your old man regularly go out at night when you were a kid?

My old man would occasionally come home during the week.

When I was a kid in the 70s and 80s, my dad would play cards most Friday nights with a group of older men. Never felt he was an absent father, because he coached little league baseball for 25 years and was a boy scout leader. He was and still is very present to me.

Because of that, I never questioned or noticed his Friday routine....until one Friday night he came home early.....why?.....because all of the other card players went home to watch Dallas on that particular night to see who shot J.R.

ETA: the 50+ crowd gets this. No shame. No shame at all. Google is your friend.

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define “go out”. I go to a friend’s house at least once a month to drink and hang out without my wife. Going to a bar with friends is something that only happens a handful of times per year.

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Thinking bar, corner watering hole type thing. Maybe even carousing type thing.

No…never 1 time alone.
He and mom would go out for a late nighter 2-3 times per year.

Before I was born. Yes

No, never. My dad was a blue collar tradesman who worked sun up to sun down and by the time he got home was dead on his feet tired. He almost always went to bed immediately after dinner.

Dad: Never went out to bars, even once. He always had a part time job when i was younger, until he developed his own biz when I was a teenager. Then I worked with him. He'd drink a 6 of Old Milwaukee most nights, mostly at the shop w other mechanics. Sat night was for racing and drinking PBR. Mom stayed at home.

Me: Friday night is date night for my wife and I. We go to a local bar or two for live music, this Friday to a show (Los Lobos and Steve Earle). We always get home by midnight. My wife's a nurse and works weekends sometimes, I'll meet my buddies out for a brew or watch LSU sports. Most Sat nights are at home, maybe invite friends over.

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My wife and I never go out alone.

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Not trying to be rude, but how is this healthy?

Father: yes about 6 nights a week. Was an alcoholic
Me: not anymore as I am an alcoholic as well, probably partially bc of spending lots of time in bars with dad growing up and sometimes picking him up at bars real late on school nights, bailing out of jail, etc. thankfully I got sober before we had our first child

No