re: Destination weddings are the most selfish thing

My wife and I did a semi-desination wedding, because our families aren't from anywhere close to each other. We had a free beautiful location to do it close to her family, so that's what we chose. One cousin of mine was going to be in the wedding but had to back out, I totally understood. Several other family members and a lot of friends weren't able to attend, again, totally understandable. If we had done it in BR, her family and friends would have faced the same dilemma.

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Posted on 4/29/15

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Damn near the same exact thing is happening to me. Friend is getting married in Punta cana and I am also getting married this year. Only thing that bothers me is my friend bitches about how much shite cost for my wedding ( Suit cost, Bachelor party etc.) when I'm paying $3000 to go to his wedding because he asked me to be his best man.

I had a friend that did this to me about 6 months after I graduated college. He asked me to be in his wedding and, of course, I said yes then he told me it was in Hawaii. So $1,500 and 1 year later I find out that he and his wife actually got married about 5 months before their Hawaii "wedding" in a private ceremony. The really shitty part was he and his family had money and didn't offer to pay for anything for anyone in the wedding party.

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And this board is largely for complaints

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if your name is Paige or Tigerlee

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"Hey, drop a grand to come to Punta Cana for my wedding."

Background:
-Fiancee is in said wedding as bridesmaid, she has to go
-Fiancee and I are also tying the knot this year and we're already spending thousands on that
-Other summer travel plans are already solidified (trip to see parents, conference, bachelor party)
-[Probably] Moving to Europe several months after my own wedding (relocation costs)

People, don't do this to your friends. They will hate you for it.

nB4 :sorryyou'repoor:

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Hey. frick you.

My wedding was in Punta Cana.

We gave everyone 2 YEARS advance notice. We set them up with a travel agent on a payment plan, we got group discounts for the resort and the airline, we made huge gift bags for everyone, we paid for our parties outfits, etc. We paid part of excursions and our reception was on a boat that sailed the carribbean at sunset.

We told everyone that they DID NOT have to come, and we would totally understand. My own brother could not come. If no one came, we would be ok with that. We had 25 people come and everyone had the best damn time. It still gets brought up as "the best wedding ever" 2 years later.

I'm just messing around

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It's not selfish. It's their big day, not yours. If you can't afford it don't go, they'll understand. That was part of the risks of planning a wedding like that.

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All this. Just don't go. No decent friend expects a friend to go put themselves out financially for what is essentially a vanity exhibition (not insulting weddings, but that's exactly what they are).

So your planned and solidified trip for your Bachelor party is not selfish?

And agree with other posters that you do not have to go and neither does your fiancee.