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Posted on 4/7/15 at 10:14 am to jmh5724
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Chef (lunch and dinner): $240 a week = $12,480 a year.
So he can hire a personal chef for $17.14 per meal?
He needs to take time off from being a SJW to figure out some basic math. Not to mention paying someone $65 per hour to run errands.
Posted on 4/7/15 at 10:15 am to DirtyMikeandtheBoys
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cheaper than an ex-wife
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aren't they one in the same though?
The ROI on an ex-wife is pretty shitty, from what I've heard.
Posted on 4/7/15 at 10:16 am to jmh5724
My wife took off the first year. He's in daycare now.
She likes working and wants to contribute. We also feel that the daycare provides learning and social skills that he couldn't get at home. To each their own.
She likes working and wants to contribute. We also feel that the daycare provides learning and social skills that he couldn't get at home. To each their own.
Posted on 4/7/15 at 10:22 am to Team Vote
We've talked about this, and it's not about the money. I want my future wife to have the stress that goes with adulthood, not just parenthood. I want her to have mental stimulation that goes along with working and being called upon by another individual for responsibilities.
Her mother has stayed at home for the last 32 years for their children and I truly feel sorry for the lady. She understands very little about life outside her walls, her small town and Fox News. She lives to gossip about her neighbors and friends children and call her children, two of which are over 1000 miles away from her (1 being my SO).
I've explained that I don't want that to happen to my wife. i don't want her to be slaving away 60 hours a week when we decide to get married and have kids, but she will be expected to work 20-30 hours a week after the kids are able to go to daycare.
Everyone needs their mind stimulated throughout life, and going to the post office and out to buy capers is not stimulation.
Her mother has stayed at home for the last 32 years for their children and I truly feel sorry for the lady. She understands very little about life outside her walls, her small town and Fox News. She lives to gossip about her neighbors and friends children and call her children, two of which are over 1000 miles away from her (1 being my SO).
I've explained that I don't want that to happen to my wife. i don't want her to be slaving away 60 hours a week when we decide to get married and have kids, but she will be expected to work 20-30 hours a week after the kids are able to go to daycare.
Everyone needs their mind stimulated throughout life, and going to the post office and out to buy capers is not stimulation.
Posted on 4/7/15 at 10:22 am to KG6
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If we have a second child, my wife will most likely end up staying home for good. But kids will go to daycare or one of the "schools" for toddlers in the area. At least a few days a week to get social interaction and get a jump on learning before heading to elementary school. Kids, especially only children, can have a hard time adjusting to school when all they know is their mom
That's what we did. With just one child, it was just one daycare check. And we would alternate on who picked up or dropped off. Depending on where we worked at the time. One year it was better for me to drop off and her pick up. Then we both changed jobs and it was better for her to drop off and me pick up. By the time the second one came along, my girl was starting kindergarten, so it made sense for the baby to go to daycare, at first. Then we realized it was dropping off at school and daycare for my wife, then picking up from after school care and daycare in the afternoon. She was spending 3 hours in the car every day on top of working full time.
At the end of last school year, she decided to stay at home. After a few months, she ended up working at our church's Mothers day out program a couple days a week and taking our son there. I do the school drop off since I am headed right past there on my way to work, and she has another mom in the neighborhood that she splits pickup carpool duty with every other week.
The money we've saved on daycare, plus the ability to actually have our weekends as a family and it not be one event, errand, or whatever else right after each other every saturday is great. No more saturday evenings and sunday afternoons of getting the laundry caught up and the house cleaned. I rarely have to go grocery shopping. She makes a little income from the part time job. And it gets her and the baby out of the house a few days a week. Plus she says going to Publix on a Tuesday afternoon, it is mostly empty. She can be in and out in less than 30-45 minutes and have it back home and all put away before she has to pick up carpool.
She was making a good bit of money, so it wasn't an easy decision to alter our budget that much. But after looking at it for several months, we decided that we could definitely pay the bills and for activities out of my income. We just wouldn't be driving newer cars, or going on expensive vacations. We can get a cheap condo at the beach once each summer for the kids, and take them on weekend trips maybe a couple more times throughout the year.
Posted on 4/7/15 at 10:24 am to jmh5724
My wife is a stay at home mom and we have a maid. FML. 
Posted on 4/7/15 at 10:25 am to jmh5724
That guy is a fricking retard
Posted on 4/7/15 at 10:25 am to TigerHam85
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We've talked about this, and it's not about the money. I want my future wife to have the stress that goes with adulthood, not just parenthood. I want her to have mental stimulation that goes along with working and being called upon by another individual for responsibilities.
Her mother has stayed at home for the last 32 years for their children and I truly feel sorry for the lady. She understands very little about life outside her walls, her small town and Fox News. She lives to gossip about her neighbors and friends children and call her children, two of which are over 1000 miles away from her (1 being my SO).
I've explained that I don't want that to happen to my wife. i don't want her to be slaving away 60 hours a week when we decide to get married and have kids, but she will be expected to work 20-30 hours a week after the kids are able to go to daycare.
Everyone needs their mind stimulated throughout life, and going to the post office and out to buy capers is not stimulation.
this, it takes a special kind of woman to actually make this work, by and large it does her no good to live the life you described, and more often then not they end up hiring/paying others to do what she's supposed to be staying home for anyhow
Posted on 4/7/15 at 10:28 am to TigerHam85
This is weird logic. When I stayed at home I read every day. Lots of trips to the library with the kids. Intermingling things that were interesting to me with things I taught them. I Joined several volunteer Groups in my community. Active in the church. Etc.
Kids are older now and I'm part time. Back in school too. I'm no tard and I can say I didn't become ignorant those years I didn't work.
I did shop more and go to the gym everyday tho :-)
Posted on 4/7/15 at 10:31 am to Sir Drinksalot
I also see your posts on here and am very confident in saying I hope my SO does not turn into you.
Posted on 4/7/15 at 10:33 am to TigerHam85
Don't blame you. It's a curse to be this awesome.
Posted on 4/7/15 at 10:33 am to Sir Drinksalot
What is your ambition, outside of your kids? That's what I always think about with stay at home moms, is there no life outside of your kids? What will you do when they move out?
Posted on 4/7/15 at 10:34 am to Janky
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My wife is a stay at home mom and we have a maid. FML.
It took 5 years for me to get mine to let to of ours
Posted on 4/7/15 at 10:35 am to jmh5724
My wife stays home with the kids. Most professional families CAN afford it. You just have to be willing to do without some things.
Posted on 4/7/15 at 10:41 am to Epic Cajun
When my kids were small my ambition was to make sure they were well educated and adapted, on all levels. I also never stopped educating myself so I could turn it around and teach them. In all honestly, those first years, they were my number one focus. (House and husband -he works shift work so that factored into the stay at home decision. We needed stability-too). i also felt called to volunteer bc I had the extra time. Give back bc I could (at that time). I did the books for a small business to make a little cash and keep my brain working.
Now my kids are older and I will be full time soon. Back in school bc again, I think people should never stop learning.
When my kids move out, me and mr drinks will hit the road in our RV. Travel for the rest of our lives. Museums, ETC. I'm very excited ab that.
Now my kids are older and I will be full time soon. Back in school bc again, I think people should never stop learning.
When my kids move out, me and mr drinks will hit the road in our RV. Travel for the rest of our lives. Museums, ETC. I'm very excited ab that.
Posted on 4/7/15 at 10:47 am to HeadyMurphey
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I know you have a nanny, but for those that use daycare, I couldn't imagine having to coordinate who is bringing them and who is picking them up. Leaving earlier in the morning to drop them off doesn't sound appealing to me. Then if they get sick, someone has to get them. I would rather not deal with any of that
My wife and I have been playing this game for a month now. It takes some getting used to but we've got a schedule. I work at 6, so she takes our girl every morning. I pick her up Tuesday and Thursday and don't work Friday, mom picks her up Monday and Wednesday. Gives us each two weekdays to go to gym after work or run errands or whatever it is we want/have to. Whoever is home gets dinner started. Working well so far but our baby doesn't even sit up yet
Posted on 4/7/15 at 10:51 am to EveryonesACoach
Our daycare is 3 minutes from my wife's work, so it's pretty easy to schedule. We are lucky in that regard.
Posted on 4/7/15 at 10:55 am to Janky
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My wife is a stay at home mom and we have a maid. FML.
Your wife hitt the lottery when she met you
Posted on 4/7/15 at 10:57 am to Epic Cajun
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What is your ambition, outside of your kids? That's what I always think about with stay at home moms, is there no life outside of your kids? What will you do when they move out?
Built into these questions is the presumption that whatever they would be dong at work is a higher and better calling than whatever they would be doing at home.
Maybe you work at a different kind of place than the 3 businesses I have worked for, but in my experience the vast majority of people in the workforce are where they are almost entirely for the money it gives them.
That doesn't sound like a higher calling to me than running a household as you see fit, raising your kids as you see fit, etc and having the energy to do those things well that comes from making those things your focus.
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