re: Beef with girlfriend. Curious to hear from both genders about who's right/wrong.

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Dudes not a friend if he asks you to help him move

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100%

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This means that my friend has to move out the same weekend as her sisters party.

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This is not accurate. Your friend does not have to wait until the last minute to move. He could move out sooner.

i'm going to intro this post by saying I read the OP and not single post after that.

OP - you are in the right. i have helped and had help moving many times over the years. hiring movers is expensive and there are many reasons that a friend wouldnt hire or couldnt afford to hire movers. again, i've been there many times.

if it was your friend's birthday and you were bailing on helping your gf's sister move to go to the birthday, that would be one thing. but you are bailing on an objectively more enjoyable event to go help a friend doing something that is objectively NOT enjoyable. not to mention that you gave your gf multiple weeks lead time, it's not like you are bailing the day of. also, is her sister an 8 year old? because birthday parties are for children.

YOU HELP YOUR FRIENDS WHEN THEY NEED HELP.

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If the situation was reversed and you had a girlfriend for, let's say even a few months, and it gets to your birthday, something like that, and she drops this in your lap a day before your birthday, "Um, I'm going out with Cindy tomorrow night. I know it's your birthday but I promised her."

You'd be like WTF. Don't pretend you wouldn't be. Any guy would be. And then you'd react the same way the OP's gf reacted.

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This isn't an apt comparison. Of course any guy would be in the situation you outlined. Dropping committed plans to go out with friends is a 100% chach move. That isn't comparable to dropping plans to help someone out. Disingenuous comparison my man.

However, as outlined in my above post, zero reason why he can't get up and help his boy move heavy stuff until it's time to get cleaned up that evening and attend theparty. Doing both is achievable.

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YOU HELP YOUR FRIENDS WHEN THEY NEED HELP.

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esp at 24 years old. Many, many girls will come and go, but baws will generally be there for you throughout those times

agreed that both is likely achievable, but we all know that moving days are moving DAYS not moving mornings. it almost always takes longer than planned. i agree that an honest-broker attempt at finishing in time and still making it to the party is likely doable. but regardless at this point WHAT he does, he loses in the long run because his gf is unreasonable. she's goign to be pissed if he doesnt go. she's goign to be pissed if he does the move and makes it in time. and if he changes his mind back now to not help the friend and go to the party instead, she might be happy in the short run, but in the long run, she's going to file it away as the time he not only was able to be manipulated away from his convictions, but that he ALSO bailed on a friend who needed his help. she will, in the long run, see it as weakness in him and lose respect.

OP needs to stick to his guns on this.

Nothing wrong with helping a friend, but depending on you to move a full house is a bit much. Should’ve hired a mover and be done with it.

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YOU HELP YOUR FRIENDS WHEN THEY NEED HELP.

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frick that. People take advantage of your kindness regardless of your “friendship”. I just had a “friend” text me about financial help. Last text from him was almost a year ago saying he’d pay back the other money I lended him when he needed it.

I'm kinda shocked you asked the OT and the top answer wasn't bang her sister.

Girlfriend: Replaceable

Life long Baw: Irreplaceable





Also, pics fricker.