re: Anyone else struggle with the decision for kids/no kids?

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Fair warning. Having kids at 30 sucks.

Having kids at 35 sucks worse.

I did both. Love my kids but we should have done this mid-20s at the latest. Getting old sucks. Getting old and losing sleep sucks royally. Damn the advice about having kids when older. The human body doesn't work that way. We're fertile in our early teens for a reason.

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I was 22 when my first was born and 25 for my second (and last). It was a little rough at first but I'm pretty happy that I'll only be 43 when my youngest turns 18. Four years to go.


I can't imagine fooling with kids in my 50's. Plus, in my 20's, I didn't really have the resources to do a lot of the things people mention as reasons to delay having kids (travel, etc.). I'm in a much better position now and I'm still young enough to enjoy it.

Nothing I have done in my life has been as rewarding as raising my kids.

I wish we would have had 5.

I'll put a baby in you if you change your mind

Not at all. But it's not for everyone. Personally I feel like if you're still unsure than you probably shouldn't.

You couldn't tell now, the way I treat the little bastards, but I've wanted kids since I was young.

I kids for me. Do what you want not what your parents want.

I'm fine with that

me and the wife got married when we were 24.. we was not ready for kids. just wanted it to be us, enjoy vacations, buying nice vehicles, and going and comming as we please. As time went on i figured that it would always be us. Then as we grew older, we both realized we were missing something more. So last year we decided we would try (after 10years of marriage) and here we are with an 8 month old. And it has been more fun than i ever could imagine, and can not wait to watch him grow, and do things with him. My only regret is that we didnt do it sooner. I really cant even explain the feeling comming home everyday to that happy little boy.

The question I think boils down to this.

Do you want more or less in your life.

If you have kids, you have much more potential for your life. You might miss a trip to Paris, but when you're old who will you share something like that with?

Be a good parent, and you'll be richer than any amount of money could bring you.

Seeing your kid smile will be far better than viewing the Mona Lisa, because you not only get to see it, you can make it happen.

It won't always be easy, but the times it isn't will fade, and the good times won't. As long as you never forget being a good parent is the most important thing you'll ever do.

Then if you're lucky you'll get grandchildren to help your kids with the same lessons.

If you just care about yourself, don't bother. You just don't realize how much you're missing.

Wait a few years if you want but have kids you bum. Gotta get the birth rates up before the Muslims outbreed us

Don't assume those little bastards will actually take care of you when you get old.

I'm on the no kids side of the fence and I've had a solid stance on it. If you are on the fence, you probably want kids. Once I got to my late 20s, my urge for kids dropped probably because I was finally old enough to understand it is ok not to have kids.

You both should agree to have them though. Both of your lives will change dramatically (and you don't have to have kids to know that).