re: Any athletic parents with unathletic children?

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My wife

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Her daughter

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El Segundo Guy

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Name checks out.

Just be thankful your son doesn't run track. That's the most godawful sport for parents to endure. Track meets last from sunup to sundown and you're usually stuck in some crappy highschool stadium all day with a lot of "track parents"

I was a baseball player. Dad coached high school baseball and other sports. 11 year old son plays and can hold his own, but it's not super athletic. It's just hanging out with friends to him. And that's okay.

My only frustration is that he wants to play, but has no intention of putting in extra effort and can't stand if his dad tries to coach him on how to do things better. But I'm blunt with him when he talks about moving back to a select team or playing in high school. Never say he can't, but that it's a different level of sports than he's playing right now in little league. He'd have to have put in a lot of work.

It's just different to me as I would have gone to practice or just throw in the back yard 24/7 when I was young. He'd rather play a video game. Hard for me to relate to that.

I agree with this too.

I’m an empty nester as well my son, my oldest, had the desire to play all the sports and got mostly into powerlifting in college. He and his wife both participate in that. I didn’t really support him because that’s just not much of a spectator sport. But I did / do support him and his wife and support them 100%. He has that competitive spirit and played his arse off in baseball as a kid and high school football. He still has that mentality of preparing, focusing and competition. He’s now a successful lawyer and he preps his cases and is always prepared when he goes into a courtroom. I’m proud of him and I didn’t teach him hardly anything useful but I supported him.

My middle daughter was the wild child. She loved sports and is aggressive enough (tomboy) to do anything. She just lacked the focus to prepare. But now she’s found her focus as a wife and a mother and works part-time and is into the activities that her and her husband enjoy. She’ll be out in his shop helping him work on projects and does a lot of his social media stuff. There was a time I didn’t have much hope for her because she floundered at so may endeavors but when she found her “thing” she excelled at it. I’m very proud of her.

My baby girl has all kinds of crazy in her. But she’s brilliant (like her brother) and extremely competitive at self-competitive things. She’s not a team player type. She found her niche in dance and has danced all over the country. She went to college and now is in graduate school. I despised going to ballets and even begrudged all the away football games to watch her on the dance line, but I finally embraced what she embraced and learned to enjoy it too. She moved far away from LSU to attend school and I think she thought I would be upset. However, I’ve embraced this situation and I support her 100%. She’s pursing a career where athletics will play a huge part in her profession but she’ll be on the sidelines and will be able to do things she loves even if she’s not the one competing. For her, she competes against herself.

Your kids are not carbon copies of yourself. If they were, we’d all be like our parents. Just embrace their interests and encourage them and be there. Because when that house gets empty, those Friday nights get boring.

No, my wife (no pics) and I were collegiate athletes. My oldest daughter is a collegiate athlete. My other kids are athletic.

were you actually athletic or were you just at a small school where anyone can play sports, and your son isn't? stuff is a lot more competitive now

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My kids are hideously ugly and Unalthetic.
My daughter looks like Lady Shrek and my Son looks like Shrek.
And fat. I cant understand how she gets guys to date her.
I tried to tell her about the walk of shame, but they are Shameless.

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are they hitting their jaws with hammers?

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Her daughter sucks at sports

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Your wife's boyfriend is proud of their kid though.

Find something else for him to be competitive in. It starts with joy in the thing you do.

Teach him:

Poker
Piano
Chess
Running
Shooting
Robotics
Climbing
Writing
Filmmaking
Visual art

All of these things can be competitive as each of them have tournaments or showcases.

Stop forcing the big 3 or 4 sports and try other things. Hell, mathletes is a thing. And the point isn’t to be an athlete. The point is to learn working together with others, bettering yourself everyday, and coping with struggle and self-sacrifice.

Good luck to you and your boy.