re: Another heartbreak, I'm just done with dating...

Send her a link to this thread so she can realize she aint nothing but a hoe.

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This is literally the easiest time in history for you single dudes to get laid and here you are. Tinder, Bumble, all that shite wasn't around when I was dating

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You just hit the nail on the head.

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"Hey, I'm taking you to dinner on Friday. What's your number."

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Most of your post was good except for this which is good and bad at the same time. I am going to nitpick it.

Good - "I am taking you..." always good. Always lead and direct, not ask. Women like a man who takes charge. Never ask a woman if she wants to go out with you, tell her she is going out with you. Asking will give her an easy out to flake or make up an excuse, telling her puts her on the spot and forces her to say no. A lot easier to say no or come up with an excuse when you are asked rather than told.

But I can not stress enough how shitty dinner/restaurant dates are early on in the process. Only makes sense for established plates/relationships. Never do this early on(i.e. first 5 dates). It's just bad. You demonstrate your value to the woman best via actions, not words. By going on a dinner/restaurant date all you can do is talk, and its really really hard to demonstrate you are a man who she will have a good time with that way. My first date is ALWAYS somewhere with a fun activity. Like a shooting range or something. Where you can demonstrate yourself via actions instead of words.

Wherever you take a woman out - never pay for her. Paying for her will set the baseline going forward that you will be an ATM machine for her. You don't want that. If she is truly into you, she will be 100% OK with paying her share or outright paying for you. If she doesn't want to see you again or go out with you again because you didn't pay for her, she was never into you in the first place and was just looking to use you as her own personal piggy bank

I also feel its bad to ask women you are into questions, especially early on. "What's your number" = bad. "Tell me your number" or "Put your number in my phone" = Good. Again, directing a woman and leading is better than asking. Take charge and tell her what to do, not ask her to do something. Asking can be seen as weakness.

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Bumping this so we can all play "Name that Douche" on pg. 17.

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Everyone says my advice is bad but never says why.

You all go ahead and do the opposite of my advice and see how it works. Focus on one woman, profess your love for her, ignore her red flags, and all of that.

Meanwhile I will keep casting a wide net. Approached a girl walking her dog in my apartment complex parking lot this morning before I went to work. Turns out she just moved in across the hall from me. Would have never learned that had I not approached.

Approached the girl who works in the apartment leasing office last Friday. I told her to come over some time. She said she has a boyfriend and I said "I don't want to hear about your problems", ignored it and continued on like she didn't even bring it up. Told her to come over anyway. When a woman tells you she has a boyfriend she means one of four things:

1 - She has a boyfriend and is not interested in you. She is telling you about the boyfriend so you will know she's not interested and leave her alone.

2 - She does not have a boyfriend but is not interested in you. She is telling you she has a boyfriend so you will know she's not interested and leave her alone.

3 - She has a boyfriend, but is interested in you. She is telling you about her boyfriend so you know to be discreet as you escalate, and so that when you end up fricking her, it was all your idea and all your fault because she told you she had a boyfriend.

4 - She doesn't have a boyfriend, and she's interested in you. She is telling you she has a boyfriend partly because it's instinctive anti-slut behavior to try to ward off guys hitting on her and partly to see how you handle it. Telling guys she has a boyfriend is a great way to weed out wieners who shouldn't get to frick her anyway.

The solution in all four situations is exactly the same. Shrug, tell her you aren't interested in hearing about her problems, and continue to escalate. If she's not interested in you, she'll give you a hard no, then you move on. Whether or not she actually has a boyfriend is completely irrelevant.

Ideally the apartment leasing girl fell in bucket #3 or #4. If not at least I approached and just forget about her and move onto the next girl. I could care less either way. That's the mindset you need.

The doctor's diagnosis - insipidness. The antidote - find a regimen and get wealthy.

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I am not sure if this helps, but I know a guy in a wheelchair who can get laid and you can't.

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Ouch. OP will need a new keyboard after the tears he is soaking it with now.

Except she probably can't come over to
Your place because she'll get fired.

Congrats on being the creepy resident who gets talked about in the office every time you leave, though

We've got a few of those here.

Just give it a day or 2 to get over it, and get back on the horse. It's not like you lost your wife to BBC. Some rando on the internet cancelled a date. frickin relax and keep trying.