re: Another heartbreak, I'm just done with dating...

Late to this thread but...

OP you need to find value in your life. Learn to love yourself first and build a home. Build yourself. Meet new people for fun not for love. You'll eventually find someone in your situation. Do something worthwhile. Stop fricking sulking and acting like you've been wronged.

You sound just as damaged as anarchysupporter.

MGTOW

The kind of person who creates gigantic walls of text to explain something that only required a sentence or two seems far too high maintenance.

Her friend wouldn't have set her up on a date if you guys had a future.

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At this point though I feel nothing, my heart has finally had its last heartbreak

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That is a quitter's mentality.

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I started doing online dating again (about 2 months ago) and so far have had 2 first dates. Both were good but no real connection.

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Well, you only had one date. Why would you expect a connection after one date?

If I would have quit after the first date I took my SO on, I wouldn't be where I'm at now, and, damn, did I embarrass myself on those first dates.

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I honestly thought for the first time in a long time that I had found a woman perfect for me.

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You built her up in your head. You hadn't actually met her.

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We had incredibly long conversations (by e-mail standards) and really were on the same page with a lot of things. We had agreed to a date tomorrow. I noticed though I hadn't heard from her since early yesterday (a long time considering all my other messages she responded to within a hour), long story short, last minute some friend of hers set up a date for her Friday night.

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You waited too long for that date.

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Someone please tell me why I shouldn't just give up on love now. I gave it all I could and it's just done nothing for me. I'm seriously considering just focusing on my interests, doing stuff I enjoy by myself, and shutting women out of my life completely. I feel so rejected, I feel like all it does is give me pain. Someone tell me why I shouldn't do that because my heart just can't take this anymore.

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Damn, that's just quitter talk right there.

I have not read the whole thread but have read it substantially. There are some things you need to stop doing.

Stop using your first few conversations to talk about anything Sheldon Cooper would talk about. Women don't care about the idiosyncrasies of Star Trek vs. Star Wars. It shows a connection to childhood and they are not looking for an immature partner or lover.

Stop being desperate. Show a willingness to let them into your life but not a sense of empty neediness.

Stop talking to them electronically. Personal interaction is preferential so you can gauge their interest. A smile, a hair flip, touching your arm. etc. Are not achievable through email.

Stop being scared of being rejected. It will happen. Move on to another.

Stop trying to make any first contact a lifelong commitment.

Stop telling any woman you are interested in about any other women you are speaking with.

Things to do:

Pay attention to what they say. They say things for a reason. Learn why they are saying whatever it is.

Always be prepared to show that you have value. This is not laying all your cards on the table in the first few sentences or blatantly saying that you make $90k a year.

Pay attention to what they do. If you say How are you to a woman and she coldly says, "I am fine, how are you?" with a tone that would cut cheese, move on. If she smiles and says "good, and you?" be prepared to tell her you noticed her cool boots, Or her sweater, etc.

Talk to them like they are people, not a target. Show a genuine interest in them. Question them about things they like. You may even learn something.

Never be scared to ask them out or make any moves to take it to the next level. They are all thinking the same things you are and will let you know quickly if they are receptive. If you get negative answers, move on. Don't be a dick, just move on.

Ask them out for something specific. "Do you want to do something sometime" is weak and it shows. Everybody likes to eat. A restaurant with good food that she may be unaware of is always good.

There is so much more but I am tired of typing and most of tired with the length of this post.

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Hangit

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Lots of good stuff here

It's more of a guideline than a rule.

Scruffy should have raised his value via the guidance of GN before settling down with his SO. But I guess Scruffy being 5'4" he was always just going to be an oribter that couldn't hold frame and had to pick from the leftovers.