re: 16 reasons being child-free is awesome

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But there is a certain spot in your soul that no amount of vacations can never fill.

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Is there though?

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God's creatures

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My wife and I are more realistic about it than some couples, but being on the same page helps a lot.

I got divorced when I was 31. She was 30 when she divorced. By the time we started dating and got married, I was 35 and she was 34. We haven't made a year yet, but I will be 36 and she will be 35.

The biggest blessing was we did not have children with our previous spouses. It would have been horrible to deal with.

So now my wife and I know the time is running out. We are both healthy, so we are thinking of trying for one, and if it doesn't work out for whatever reason we can decide if we want to foster/adopt or just be content that life didn't work out for us as planned. It's just a reality of being divorced during prime baby making years.

For those who have kids, that's great. For those who are secure to not want kids, that's great as well. I know plenty on both end of the spectrum.

I also know some who hate their parents (for whatever reason) and want nothing to do with them. I'm reading a fear of dying alone. Well some people who do have kids will die alone. I know a man who has 4 kids and none of them want anything to do with him.

For some it's a blessing. For others it's not. But so long as you are secure in what you want out of life, children shouldn't define your existence.

I'm a millennial at 31, go hiking a lot, including the big trips. Going to Paris in September for my wedding anniversary. Not even remotely active on social media.

We get it, man. You love being parent. That's really great, seriously. Unfortunately not everyone latches on to the idea of being the best parent they can be. It doesn't define everyone's happiness. Everyone is wired differently. Kids don't always = happiness. If it did, we'd probably live in a much better, safer world.

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but this deathbed thing is so weird

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Being alone during one of/if not the most vulnerable times in one's life is scary for some.

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unless you have the extraordinary blood that 1 in a million have that can cure cancer, no one gives a shite whether your DNA gets passed or not. in fact, wed be much better off if most of yall didnt pass on your DNA

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Sorry dude, it’s clear you don’t understand genetics, you exist for your DNA, your DNA doesn’t exist for you. DNA is a virus whose sole purpose is to reproduce itself. You should read some Richard Dawkins, the guy who coined the word Meme.

I like that Hellen Mirren can appreciate a Bud Heavy.

I like kids because I get to share things like this with them:



and this:

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I hope to still have some friends when I die. Maybe even ones I met in the nursing home. Or some neighborhood kids and their parents I was friendly to. This is whether I have kids or not. (I want kids)

The idea that no kids = dying alone is absurd. Like damn, get out there and converse with someone besides your family members

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I'll admit it's a bit of an odd reason to give for having kids, but how many dying neighbors' bedside have you been at for their last breath?

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I'll admit it's a bit of an odd reason to give for having kids, but how many dying neighbors' bedside have you been at for their last breath?

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I don't know that I've ever had a neighbor die, honestly

at least when I still lived there

I will say my current neighbor, Mrs. Wendy, is a saint. I'd go see her in the hospital. Doubt she'd want me there for her last breath though. (she has kids )