re: 16 reasons being child-free is awesome

If pecker had kids think of all the tough questions they would ask him

Like “why does mommy have these black guys over every night?”

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Like “why does mommy have these black guys over every night?”

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and "why do we have a Marine Corps helipad in the front yard?"

Having children isn't for everyone and I respect people's decision to be child-free if they wish. But people who are child-free also need to realize that some of the things they list as reasons they like to be child-free, some parents actually enjoy.

I love my child and am thrilled I get the opportunity to be a mother.

I still have time to myself and get to travel. My kid is 14 months and has already been on vacation to Houston, Sarasota, Knoxville and Vegas. This summer he also gets to spend time in South Dakota, Montana and North Dakota.

Yes, I can't go out drinking at the bar until 2 am anymore, but I didn't do that prior to having a child either. Most breweries allow children, so you can still go out and have drink and have fun. Just invite your friends that have children, let the kids play and enjoy a beer or two. You just have to be responsible and not drive drunk, which child-free people shouldn't be doing anyways.

Grandparent love to babysit, at least my inlaws do. My MIL would watch him every single weekend if we let her. So still get plenty of date nights and happy hours in.

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Grandparent love to babysit,

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Flying a couple of mine up for the summer...

Can't wait. Got stuff planned everyday.

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grand babies are what makes life, life.

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So that's the key to all of those existential mysteries.

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Bottom line, if you don't want kids, don't have them

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See...it’s not people not wanting to have kids that is the real issue. There have always been those people. (We called them witches).



It’s the fact that, for a society, the widespread ideal of “don’t have kids, spoil yourself, they’ll only get in the way” is a death sentence long term.

Some people won’t be able to have kids sadly (and often it is those that want them most). Some people have life styles just not conducive to parenting.

I’m not trying to denigrate the individual here, i’m Pointing out that as a societal idea it’s disturbing.

You (using the Royal you here) can choose to expand and enrich your “tribe”, as it were. Or you don’t. And if enough of you don’t, then another tribe that has no issue with breeding profusely will come along, surround you, extract your resources and eventually render your tribe null and void.

It’s happened throughout history.

Be conquerers or be conquered.

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I feel genuinely sorry for people that don't get to (or want to) experience the overwhelming love you feel for your own children

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I mean, I have 2 dogs.

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You (using the Royal you here) can choose to expand and enrich your “tribe”, as it were. Or you don’t. And if enough of you don’t, then another tribe that has no issue with breeding profusely will come along, surround you, extract your resources and eventually render your tribe null and void.

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Yeah I don’t see myself as part of any “tribe”. Again this isn’t 5,000 BC.

Man my heart truly hurts for what you are going through. I know nothing can fill the hole, but hopefully you have other children or will be able to have more in the future to give that love to.

Keep on making it one day at a time and know that if you ever need anything, or just someone to vent to, you can reach out to me.
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And if enough of you don’t, then another tribe that has no issue with breeding profusely will come along, surround you, extract your resources and eventually render your tribe null and void.

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Except I have technology.

Either I die before it happens or we get life extension and I run a crusade on their children