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re: 10 year old son is a crybaby
Posted on 12/27/21 at 11:01 pm to dplo
Posted on 12/27/21 at 11:01 pm to dplo
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Ok take the drone for example. Next time the kid cries because it can’t fly straight, put your hand on his shoulder, get on his level and look him in the eye:
“I know it’s frustrating when the drone won’t fly like you intend it to. But you can’t quit and cry when you mess up. Otherwise you’ll never be able to fix your mistake and get better at it. You can do it. I believe in you. Now let’s try it again.”
This is useful advice that might make the world a better place. I bet this guy is a good dad or will be. Note how his post doesn't insult the OP or call him a shiity human. Hence, it may be read and taken to heart.
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Posted on 12/27/21 at 11:01 pm to olgoi khorkhoi
Start filling out his A&M application now.
Posted on 12/27/21 at 11:03 pm to olgoi khorkhoi
Be better parents, or he’s touched. We can’t answer that.
Posted on 12/27/21 at 11:08 pm to olgoi khorkhoi
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I didn't realize how baby- shite soft the OT is. Lol at these responses. If you didn't grow up before the year 2000, then you've been raised in this weak arse society that teaches you to always be all up in your emotions. Of course people here think crying over literally everything is acceptable.
Of course people here don’t think crying over literally everything is acceptable and most here grew up well before 2000. We just think you seem like a shitty dad that is more concerned with how tough your son comes off than you are with actually loving him. I assume that you do but it’s hard to tell honestly. He’s a kid dealing with emotions and instead of having a dad that helps him deal with them and maybe teaches him how to cope without crying, he has a dad that thinks he’s a pussy and puts him in wrestling to toughen him up.
I hope this thread is a joke but it wouldn’t surprise me if it’s not.
Posted on 12/27/21 at 11:08 pm to memphis tiger
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What are you gonna do if it continues? Kick him out of the house? Beat the shite out of him?
I'll keep being annoyed by it, drama queen.
Posted on 12/27/21 at 11:09 pm to memphis tiger
quote:Oh just STFU Mr. Holier than thou.
memphis tiger
Posted on 12/27/21 at 11:09 pm to olgoi khorkhoi
Both of my girls read a lot. You could look for some books that reinforce that failing is inevitable to find success. He is crying because he has some need that isn't being met (like self confidence, feeling safe etc). Crying doesn't feel good and he has to know everyone dislikes it. That should be enough negative reinforcement to stop the behavior but its not. Good luck to you. We are all fumbling through it.
Posted on 12/27/21 at 11:10 pm to olgoi khorkhoi
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He cries over every injury and every frustration, from breaking a cheap stocking stuffer toy to not being able to fly his drone just right, to drawing a picture and it doesn't look right, to you fricking name it.
Must be a Democrat.
This post was edited on 12/28/21 at 4:57 am
Posted on 12/27/21 at 11:10 pm to memphis tiger
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I think the best possible thing for your kid is for you to be completely out of his life.
I'm taking him to the orphanage in the morning, what more do you want?
Posted on 12/27/21 at 11:11 pm to olgoi khorkhoi
In all seriousness you need to have a consultation for autism. He could possibly be slightly on the spectrum and need specialized attention.
Posted on 12/27/21 at 11:12 pm to DavidTheGnome
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He’s a kid dealing with emotions and instead of having a dad that helps him deal with them and maybe teaches him how to cope without crying, he has a dad that thinks he’s a pussy and puts him in wrestling to toughen him up.
Read OP’s last post about how he had similar issues, but blew up in private. Blind leading the blind unfortunately.
The broader issue, not just limited to OP, is the large number of maladjusted males running around that think feeling, showing, and communicating emotions is a crime.
Posted on 12/27/21 at 11:15 pm to DavidTheGnome
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I hope this thread is a joke but it wouldn’t surprise me if it’s not.
Lucas P would know if it was a joke.
Posted on 12/27/21 at 11:16 pm to The Pirate King
Its not a crime but you have to teach a child to deal with things in a more constructive manner. Stopping and having an emotional breakdown over minor setbacks is crippling. This isn't about what's acceptable because he is a boy its about what is acceptable because he is a human. Hardships never stop coming. The better equipped you are to handle them the happier you will be.
Edit:RIP Lucus P....and frick you davidthegnome.
Edit:RIP Lucus P....and frick you davidthegnome.
This post was edited on 12/27/21 at 11:18 pm
Posted on 12/27/21 at 11:17 pm to VermilionTiger
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My daughter is a little over 2 and absolutely loses her shite every time we put out clothes on her. She’s generally a really well behaved kid. Very friendly, kind, and interacts with kids she’s familiar with.
But the smallest things can flip her switch and she turns into a completely different kid. Uncontrollable at times.
She’ll sit down and pout, then come to us and say “sorry daddy/mommy”
But it’s every damn time. I’m hoping it’s a phase. She does the exact same thing when we wash her hair.
I’m worried that there’s a sensory issue
She’s two.I take it this is your first one? You do realize that a two year old is still a toddler and not a well mannered adult right?
Posted on 12/27/21 at 11:21 pm to olgoi khorkhoi
I completely get where you are coming from. My middle child is like this. He’s 7 and completely melts down over the smallest things. He found out today that he needed to get a shot and spent 20 minutes freaking out about it. Nothing could divert his attention. Even after he got the shot, he wouldn’t admit that it wasn’t that bad. He’s been like this since he was 18 months old.
He’s also very intelligent and lies compulsively because he thinks he can outsmart you. It’s very frustrating. My husband loses his temper and yells at him. I’ve tried reasoning with him. Nothing works. We are considering therapy, but I don’t know where to start.
These people on here criticizing you are either perfect parents (not likely) or they have no idea what it’s like to deal with a difficult child.
He’s also very intelligent and lies compulsively because he thinks he can outsmart you. It’s very frustrating. My husband loses his temper and yells at him. I’ve tried reasoning with him. Nothing works. We are considering therapy, but I don’t know where to start.
These people on here criticizing you are either perfect parents (not likely) or they have no idea what it’s like to deal with a difficult child.
Posted on 12/27/21 at 11:25 pm to olgoi khorkhoi
Have you tried music? My brother had a kid like this and he sent him to music lessons. Dude is now awesome at the piano and I just gave him my electric guitar and amp. Pretty sure this kid who was a whiny attention seeker is going to a rock star or an actor. His older brother is polar opposite and into sports.
I was a little like this at one point in my life but I think it had more to do with me not knowing how to deal with epilepsy. I found things I was good at though. I started playing chess, strategy video games and soccer. I dominated in all of them. Challenge him in intellectual ways. Kid is probably smarter than you and he doesn't know how to deal with it.
I was a little like this at one point in my life but I think it had more to do with me not knowing how to deal with epilepsy. I found things I was good at though. I started playing chess, strategy video games and soccer. I dominated in all of them. Challenge him in intellectual ways. Kid is probably smarter than you and he doesn't know how to deal with it.
This post was edited on 12/27/21 at 11:26 pm
Posted on 12/27/21 at 11:27 pm to olgoi khorkhoi
Every kid is different, but there’s some commonality between people who cry when frustrated and people who curse when frustrated. They seem to be opposite reactions, but the commonality is a lacking the ability to express themselves.
I would work on communication skills that are seemingly unrelated to task-oriented results. Maybe encouraging better communication skills and creative expression could help him stop expressing himself in an immature way… and eventually help him handle pressure.
One other short thing I tell my kids is that humans don’t learn from success. They learn from failure. So don’t be afraid of failing.
I would work on communication skills that are seemingly unrelated to task-oriented results. Maybe encouraging better communication skills and creative expression could help him stop expressing himself in an immature way… and eventually help him handle pressure.
One other short thing I tell my kids is that humans don’t learn from success. They learn from failure. So don’t be afraid of failing.
Posted on 12/27/21 at 11:27 pm to The Pirate King
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The broader issue, not just limited to OP, is the large number of maladjusted males running around that think feeling, showing, and communicating emotions is a crime.
I have no issue with emotion, but there's a time and a place. When you melt down in self-pity at the first hint of adversity, you are not prepared for life which is nothing but adversity. I teach my kids to work through hard things and that failure is a necessary step towards success. Thus the wrestling. It is a hard thing that you have to work hard at and fail repeatedly before you succeed. He's physically gifted and probably the strongest kid at his weight, but isn't excelling because he won't push through when things get hard. That's the biggest indicator of whether someone will be successful in life and it's why most people aren't.
Posted on 12/27/21 at 11:29 pm to olgoi khorkhoi
Does he have any hobbies? Get him some golf lessons.
Posted on 12/27/21 at 11:31 pm to olgoi khorkhoi
Stop letting him watch tv and play video games, make him go outside. Kids today have too much entertainment access and it makes them soft.
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