Mental Health, and degradation

You need to talk to a psychiatrist or at least a doctor. There are so many different medicines out there. Let them help you find something that works.

Just talk to someone.

a permanent solution to a temporary problem

Reach out to a friend

Well first of all, reaching out for help means you want to live. Remember that. YOU WANT TO LIVE. You have to live. Your nephew needs his uncle. Secondly, if you aren’t seeing a therapist, find one. Having a third party you can talk to helps bigly. I also advise finding some sort of hobby that involves being social. Join a gym or bike club or walking club. Whatever gets you moving and talking. I think physical exertion helps with mental anguish. You are not alone, my friend. Keep on keeping on.

Since my mom unexpectedly passed away in 2018 on Christmas Day, I’ve battled bouts of extreme depression. They still come and go even today. I’ve never been to the point if suicide, but I get angry as well and it’s affected my relationship with my gf. What helps me when I get down is simply forcing myself to just go for a run or a walk on a sunny day. Just getting out and exercising helps tremendously. You would be surprised. Also, seek counseling. It helps a lot.

Eta: this isn’t something I talk openly about on this site, but in your case, if it helps, I don’t mind.

Please go see a psychiatrist, not a family practitioner. Then, go find a psychotherapist. If you can get both at the same place, even better. I'm glad you are asking for help.

I don't want to talk down medication altogether as I have no experience with it, but everyone I know has taken a considerable amount of time to find the correct cocktail and dosage, so if you are remotely considering harming yourself, you should expect much faster results with therapy. Find a psychiatrist as soon as possible, use your work's EAP if you need financial assistance.

I can't overstate the positive effects of regular exercise and outside activity. That is scientifically proven, not self-help guru pseudoscience. Avoid drugs and alcohol.

I have battled this for 20 years with varying degrees of success and failure. Find someone, friends family or co-workers, to talk to; let them help you find a new purpose and remind you of all that you mean to them.

Not an expert by any means, but IMO the fact that you’ve been able to identify this and the fact that you are trying to rectify it are huge.

As someone who has been through some of the worst shite a person can go through, I’ve found it’s important to realize that life is more good than bad and things are never as bad as your mind can build them up to be. Fear and despair can be dealt with rationally, and there are more people who love you and who are willing to help than you realize. Be honest with those trying to help and be just as honest with yourself.

Hang in there. Take it day by day, even minute by minute if you have to. The minutes add up to days, the days add up to years and before you know it you will be on the other side of this living the life you want - and you’ll be a stronger person for having gone through it and having conquered your demons.

Wishing you the best.

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my mom unexpectedly passed away in 2018 on Christmas Day, I’ve battled bouts of extreme depression

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My mom passed away unexpectedly a few years ago, and I’ve struggled with extreme depression too. I appreciate you sharing this on here. It’s nice to know I’m not alone.