CNN: The new slang teens use to insult boys who are 'too nice' to girls...SIMPS

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Tactics for defusing a tense simp-tuation

One way to think of a simp, said Sean Davis, a marriage and family therapist in Sacramento, California, is "simply someone who is ahead of their time."

"Though it hurts in the moment, in the big picture, a boy who is called a 'simp' can wear it as a badge of honor," Davis said.

"Today's boys are being raised in the middle of the biggest redefinition of male gender roles in recent history," Davis said. "Should I be kind and sensitive or distant and aloof when trying to win a partner over?"

As with all bullying, teens and tweens should first tell their parents or a trusted adult who may be able to intervene on their behalf, he said. "Otherwise, simply owning it and refusing to be ashamed can help."

It's important for parents to remember that there have always been new slang terms to navigate for kids and parents alike, Capinas said, and the goal is to "make sure it's being received in a playful manner and used playfully."

"I think we are always looking to stop our kids from being hurt," she said. "We don't like language that's slang and has potential for negative connotation."

One tactic she teaches kids in her therapy sessions, she said, is the "humor tool."
"It's comic relief. You practice not putting down the other person, you put down the situation," she said.

If someone is being called out for always "simping the girls," Capinas said, "he could turn it around and say 'It's tough being the lone soldier simp nice guy, who wants to join me?'"

"You can turn it and make it into comedy," she said.

Davis pointed to a similar approach.

"Telling the bully, 'That's right,' while holding your head up high and walking away can help, as bullies usually give up if they don't succeed in tearing the other person down," he said. "And you can tell yourself that being bullied is simply the price a revolutionary has to pay for standing up for what's right."

Shannon said her son's therapist advised similar tactics, but the boy said he only comes up with the perfect retort three hours later.

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