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Confession Time (Advice Welcomed) **Updated, pg 15**
Posted on 10/31/18 at 10:20 am
Posted on 10/31/18 at 10:20 am
This is in regards to my S.O. (no pics you pervs.) We have been with each other for a while; it has gotten very serious with us. She's everything I want and we make each other happy.
But, there is a potential problem. My S.O. is a black woman. My parents are from an older generation (they are in their 60s.) While they do not have a problem with black folks they certainly think interracial relationships are very wrong. I've heard my whole life say mixing races is wrong.
I know that when I tell them that their future daughter-in-law is black they are going to shite a brick. It's going to cause a strain in my relationship with them and could also strain my relationship with my girl.
If my folks get to know her they will see how sweet and awesome she is. So, what does the OT advise on how I should approach my parents with this?
But, there is a potential problem. My S.O. is a black woman. My parents are from an older generation (they are in their 60s.) While they do not have a problem with black folks they certainly think interracial relationships are very wrong. I've heard my whole life say mixing races is wrong.
I know that when I tell them that their future daughter-in-law is black they are going to shite a brick. It's going to cause a strain in my relationship with them and could also strain my relationship with my girl.
If my folks get to know her they will see how sweet and awesome she is. So, what does the OT advise on how I should approach my parents with this?
This post was edited on 10/31/18 at 6:55 pm
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Posted on 10/31/18 at 10:21 am to Ted2010
quote:Stopped reading here. Good luck
This is in regards to my S.O. (no pics you pervs.)
Posted on 10/31/18 at 10:21 am to Ted2010
If your parents love you, they’ll love her.
If not, frick em. You’re grown and it’s your life.
If not, frick em. You’re grown and it’s your life.
Posted on 10/31/18 at 10:22 am to Ted2010
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So, what does the OT advise on how I should approach my parents with this?
Tell them it's their best chance for grandkids.
Unless you have siblings.
Unless your siblings are incels.
Posted on 10/31/18 at 10:22 am to Ted2010
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Alabama Fan
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I've heard my whole life say mixing races is wrong.
Checks out
Posted on 10/31/18 at 10:22 am to Ted2010
5 Bans
Posted on 10/31/18 at 10:22 am to Ted2010
Have they not met her yet? If you really believe you can build a life with this woman, then its time to become your own man and build your own family. Your family will eventually come around, or they won't. That should impact your happiness with your own family.
Posted on 10/31/18 at 10:22 am to TechDawg2007
Tell your parents to grow the frick up and we aren’t pervs for wanting to see your SO.
Posted on 10/31/18 at 10:23 am to tlsu15
True. But, I reallt dont want there to be any conflict with this.
Posted on 10/31/18 at 10:23 am to Ted2010
Love who you want. If other people have an issue with it, it’s their problem to get over.
Posted on 10/31/18 at 10:23 am to Ted2010
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We have been with each other for a while; it has gotten very serious with us. She's everything I want and we make each other happy.
But, there is a potential problem. My S.O. is a black woman. My parents are from an older generation (they are in their 60s.) While they do not have a problem with black folks they certainly think interracial relationships are very wrong. I've heard my whole life say mixing races is wrong.
So...it's long-term and serious, yet your parents have no idea you're in an interracial relationship?
Posted on 10/31/18 at 10:24 am to Zanzibaw
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Checks out
Dis you miss the part about my SO being black?
Posted on 10/31/18 at 10:24 am to Ted2010
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So, what does the OT advise on how I should approach my parents with this?
Your dad will get over it assuming she is a sweet, intelligent woman with aspirations beyond section 8 vouchers and having multiple baby-daddys. He probably just deep down wants you to be happy. If he can see that she makes you happy, he'll get over the initial shock relatively quickly, even if not within the first day of meeting her.
Your mom will hate her no matter what because that's what mothers do (especially if you're an only child or the youngest). She could have been Kate Middleton, and your mother still would find a reason to hate her.
I say, definitely don't hold back from telling your parents about her and having them meet her. The sooner you rip off that bandaid, the better for everyone, and the faster they'll all get over the idea that their baby boy is baking with brown sugar.
This post was edited on 10/31/18 at 10:26 am
Posted on 10/31/18 at 10:24 am to Ted2010
Your parents are right.
Posted on 10/31/18 at 10:25 am to Ted2010
Just tell them. If they can't accept, it's 100% on them
Go be happy with your own life
Go be happy with your own life
Posted on 10/31/18 at 10:25 am to boxcarbarney
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Have they not met her yet?
They live in different states and we havent had the chance for all of us to get together.
Posted on 10/31/18 at 10:25 am to Ted2010
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Dis you miss the part about my SO being black?
Did you miss the part where you said the people around you have said your whole life are intolerant?
Posted on 10/31/18 at 10:26 am to Ted2010
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If my folks get to know her they will see how sweet and awesome she is. So, what does the OT advise on how I should approach my parents with this?
Not worth the hassle, just find another girl
Posted on 10/31/18 at 10:26 am to Ted2010
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They live in different states and we havent had the chance for all of us to get together.
But they are aware of her race, correct?
Posted on 10/31/18 at 10:26 am to latech15
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Your parents are right.
Why do you say that?
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