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re: Discipline Mistakes Most Parents Make
Posted on 7/31/18 at 10:42 am to Displaced
Posted on 7/31/18 at 10:42 am to Displaced
Teach your children early the meaning of the word NO! Even if it means telling them no for arbitrary reasons, they must learn this one simple thing from infancy.
Life is going to give them NO more than yes, if they can understand it from their parents they can get it in life as adults.
Also teach your kids to solve their own problems. Don’t hover over them.
Life is going to give them NO more than yes, if they can understand it from their parents they can get it in life as adults.
Also teach your kids to solve their own problems. Don’t hover over them.
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Posted on 7/31/18 at 10:42 am to Styxion
Mom stories thread!
My mom threw a cordless phone at me Last of the Mohicans style. Perfect aim - got me right in the back of the head as I was going through the door.
My mom threw a cordless phone at me Last of the Mohicans style. Perfect aim - got me right in the back of the head as I was going through the door.
Posted on 7/31/18 at 10:42 am to Pecker
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Counting to Three.
My parents took this to the extreme. Mom was a teacher and Dad was in the military my entire childhood. We never got to skip school for any reason other than to greet my dad when his ship came in. And I hated those days, mom kept a list of all the bad shite I did when Dad was gone and I got all my arse beatings on that afternoon.
Posted on 7/31/18 at 10:42 am to TH03
I agree with all those mistakes quoted in the OP. And I’ve made most of them. Getting it turned around was the hardest thing.
Number 1 is huge. Why should doing what’s expected like chores and not being a shot be rewarded? In the real world we don’t get a trophy just because we made it to work on time or do our jobs. fricking millenials.
Number 1 is huge. Why should doing what’s expected like chores and not being a shot be rewarded? In the real world we don’t get a trophy just because we made it to work on time or do our jobs. fricking millenials.
Posted on 7/31/18 at 10:42 am to Pecker
Pecker's parents made a single major mistake in rearing the young Pecker.
After bringing the young Pecker home, they should have waited until a chilly night and taken the babe out into a remote National Forest and tied it to a tree and left Pecker there.
Alas, they did not do so, they were at least as unwise as is their "son".
We are left to ponder, like all women (and Owlie), what a Peckerless world would be like.
After bringing the young Pecker home, they should have waited until a chilly night and taken the babe out into a remote National Forest and tied it to a tree and left Pecker there.
Alas, they did not do so, they were at least as unwise as is their "son".
We are left to ponder, like all women (and Owlie), what a Peckerless world would be like.
This post was edited on 7/31/18 at 11:54 am
Posted on 7/31/18 at 10:43 am to Pecker
I disagree with threatening being in the list. Once you've established spanking or loss of certain privileges, those threats are very effective.
Posted on 7/31/18 at 10:44 am to Pecker
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1. Bribing To bribe a child into obeying is to motivate him wrongly. Bribing encourages children in selfishness, as their motive for obeying is personal gain. Bribing sounds like, "If you clean your room you can rent a movie tonight" or "If you don't misbehave in the grocery store, you can pick out candy at the check out counter. We should simply state the standard and follow through with consequences when that standard is violated.
Meh, people of all ages follow instructions for some type of reward. The motivation is always selfishness. Listening to your mom and dad because you're going to get a movie is no different than listening to your mom and dad because you're afraid of the consequences.
As for the rest, they can be summed up pretty simply - be consistent and do what you say you're going to do. Easier said than done, but a good rule to follow nonetheless.
Posted on 7/31/18 at 10:45 am to Pecker
On the counting to three thing, my kids learned quickly that if they weren’t moving by 2, there was no 3.
So in that context, it worked for us.
We always rewarded good behavior in the grocery store with a treat.
You can’t reason with kids. They only understand cause and effect. Even as old as 12.
So in that context, it worked for us.
We always rewarded good behavior in the grocery store with a treat.
You can’t reason with kids. They only understand cause and effect. Even as old as 12.
This post was edited on 7/31/18 at 10:46 am
Posted on 7/31/18 at 10:46 am to Pecker
You don't understand.
Posted on 7/31/18 at 10:47 am to Upperdecker
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If your kids have behavioral problems, it’s your fault. A lot of you are shitty parents
Posted on 7/31/18 at 10:47 am to slackster
quote:Pavlov and shite.
Meh, people of all ages follow instructions for some type of reward.
Posted on 7/31/18 at 10:47 am to 9Fiddy
quote:I say a lot of things that make sense but people don't like to admit it.
I agree with all those mistakes quoted in the OP. And I’ve made most of them. Getting it turned around was the hardest thing.
Posted on 7/31/18 at 10:48 am to Pecker
Not sure why they're hating on you Pecker. I agree with both the article and your assessment.
Posted on 7/31/18 at 10:49 am to Tortious
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Not using the belt.
No problem with using a belt, but what are you going to do for the first 5+ years of their life?
Posted on 7/31/18 at 10:49 am to Pecker
When you have front pockets like this guy has, I bet it's hard for anyone to take him seriously.
Much less his kids.
Posted on 7/31/18 at 10:49 am to Pecker
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3. Threatening
This is one of my biggest struggles in parenting. I'm so tempted to say, "If you don't do this, then these will be the consequences." Moms, this is how we get ourselves in a pickle. If we tell them there will be a consequence then by golly there better be one. Otherwise, we might cause them to question our word. Our children need to have confidence that our word is our word.
Then let there be one?
Posted on 7/31/18 at 10:49 am to BigJake
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Teach your children early the meaning of the word NO! Even if it means telling them no for arbitrary reasons, they must learn this one simple thing from infancy.
Life is going to give them NO more than yes, if they can understand it from their parents they can get it in life as adults.
Also teach your kids to solve their own problems. Don’t hover over them.
Posted on 7/31/18 at 10:51 am to Cotten
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mom kept a list of all the bad shite I did when Dad was gone and I got all my arse beatings on that afternoon.
I'm not so sure that would be so bad. Sack up and take it and then it is over. The workup to the belt was always worse for me than the belt.
Posted on 7/31/18 at 10:52 am to Pecker
WITAF is up with that dudes pants?
Posted on 7/31/18 at 10:53 am to Styxion
I think I was around 13 (early 1970s) when my mom found a playboy underneath my mattress. She beat me with a switch so bad that my stepfather had to come into the room and get her off of me. He kept telling my mom "you gonna kill the boy" when he pulled her off of me. My parents were real religious.
This post was edited on 7/31/18 at 10:56 am
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