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re: Question about relationships, economic advantage of one party, and chores
Posted on 6/6/18 at 12:53 pm to SlowFlowPro
Posted on 6/6/18 at 12:53 pm to SlowFlowPro
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(just a general concept, the individual chores are irrelevant but the labor split is 50/50).
I don't think that's irrelevant.
If I'm in charge of the lawn and other outside chores, and I take a second job and use some of that money to hire Owlfan to take care of that for me, that's perfectly fair.
If I take a second job and hire a maid to only clean half the house and leave the rest to my wife, that's some bullshite.
Posted on 6/6/18 at 12:53 pm to SlowFlowPro
So someone wants to take on a 2nd job in order to pay someone to do a job, they could do, if they didn't have the 2nd job?
Posted on 6/6/18 at 1:00 pm to SlowFlowPro
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OK here is the scenario. You have a couple with an even split of household chores (just a general concept, the individual chores are irrelevant but the labor split is 50/50). One party wants to engage in a second job and use the income from that job to pay the help to hire someone to do his/her chores, and the couple will still receive excess income above the cost of this help. The other member of the couple is not capable of earning this income (let's assume he/she has restrictions on their job so they can't receive 2nd income).
Is this fair?
I guess it's "fair", but relationships aren't about "fair". This would bring up issues, IMO. It's a slippery slope, are we assuming that both parties make an equal salary in their current jobs? If not, that brings up another issue. If chores are split 50/50, and 50% of the chores are being done by someone else, there is still half of the chores remaining and that should be split between the two parties.
Posted on 6/6/18 at 1:04 pm to SlowFlowPro
This thread seems a little Zucky.
Posted on 6/6/18 at 1:22 pm to SlowFlowPro
Need me to come clean your house?
Posted on 6/6/18 at 1:26 pm to SlowFlowPro
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Is this fair?
Fairness shouldn't enter into the equation. "Equitability"- maybe.
So, the 2 are working 3 jobs and someone is paid to do the cleaning for them. I think that gives the person working the 3rd job some privileges and rights (equitability), but particularly the "fairness" side, leave that at the door if you're just volunteering to do it (which is presumed).
Posted on 6/6/18 at 2:20 pm to SlowFlowPro
If my gf wanted me to do chores I’d dump her
Posted on 6/6/18 at 3:45 pm to SlowFlowPro
Idk if fair is a good word to use in regards to relationships
But I don’t think there’s anything wrong with the one hiring someone to do their chores. Seems fine to me as long as they’re pulling their weight whether it be physically or financially
But I don’t think there’s anything wrong with the one hiring someone to do their chores. Seems fine to me as long as they’re pulling their weight whether it be physically or financially
Posted on 6/6/18 at 3:55 pm to SlowFlowPro
If you are married and the income increases, it increases for both of you. If the chores decrease, they decrease for both of you. Over time things balance out in ways you likely can’t imagine. One day she may be spoon feeding your bed ridden father while you are stuck at the office. Those are the moments throw what’s “fair” out the window. Over time it balances. Bickering over the small, immediate problems and being “right” is a flawed long term strategy.
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