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re: Is it possible for any relationship to stay intact after cheating?
Posted on 1/3/18 at 9:09 am to bayouteche
Posted on 1/3/18 at 9:09 am to bayouteche
Nope.
It just gets worse because they’ve “gotten away with it”
At least in my experience
It just gets worse because they’ve “gotten away with it”
At least in my experience
Posted on 1/3/18 at 9:10 am to bayouteche
Seen it done. Never the same though.
I have a strict no other dick policy and at the moment it seems to be working.
Knocksonwood
I have a strict no other dick policy and at the moment it seems to be working.
Knocksonwood
Posted on 1/3/18 at 9:10 am to bayouteche
By definition, it cannot stay "intact" because damage has been done. And, no matter how hard the cheater tries, that damage cannot be fully repaired...ever. What's done is done, and no amount of forgiveness or reconciliation is going to change that. Yes, some couples can recover from infidelity. But the person who was cheated on will forever have it in the back of their mind. It will constantly permeate their thoughts, particularly during times of intimacy. Things will never be the same, no matter how much it may appear so on the surface. Source: was cheated on by my ex-wife. Trying to forget about what happened is fricking torture.
Posted on 1/3/18 at 9:11 am to TheMailman
quote:
Of course you have to be mature about the situation.
but is it really a question of maturity? the lack of trust would kill it for me. But lack of trust will kill any relationship IMO.
Posted on 1/3/18 at 9:11 am to Aspercel
quote:
my experience
quote:yours is a Lifetime movie staring Valerie Bertinelli as Aspy
Aspercel
Posted on 1/3/18 at 9:11 am to bayouteche
Friend of mine stayed with his wife after she cheated, for the kids' sake. She went on to cheat again and ultimately they are now separated but living in the same house. She openly has a boyfriend and has best of both worlds while he sits on his fat arse in misery.
Posted on 1/3/18 at 9:11 am to bayouteche
Dude I knew found that his wife cheated in a mff threesome. Still together years later. "Drunk" was the excuse. And he was asked last year if he ever got a threesome and he said no....she's not like that anymore.
They seem to be fine but I too immature to not at least get a threesome of my own to balance out.
They seem to be fine but I too immature to not at least get a threesome of my own to balance out.
Posted on 1/3/18 at 9:12 am to bayouteche
I doubt it. Trust is the foundation
Posted on 1/3/18 at 9:12 am to bayouteche
Once a cheater, ____________
I really can’t say i hold out much hope for a future relationship with that person, regardless if it’s you or another.
I really can’t say i hold out much hope for a future relationship with that person, regardless if it’s you or another.
Posted on 1/3/18 at 9:13 am to bayouteche
quote:
Is it possible for any relationship to stay intact after cheating?
Depends upon the actual act and what position she was in.
Missionary, staying together is a possibility.
Reverse cowgirl or doggy style, nope ... won't work out. Because in this instance, the boyfriend/spouse wasn't doing something right.
Posted on 1/3/18 at 9:13 am to bayouteche
Yes. But only if the cheater isn’t caught
Posted on 1/3/18 at 9:14 am to bayouteche
I think we have more instances of the girl cheating on the guy here in the OT.
What if the guy cheats on the girl?
What if it isn’t physical, just improper?
What if the guy cheats on the girl?
What if it isn’t physical, just improper?
Posted on 1/3/18 at 9:14 am to The Mick
I tried to stay w her (for the kids) but ultimately could not get over the anger from her betrayal. We separated a year later.
I've said it on here before and will say it again. It sucked at the moment but ultimately it turned out to be the best thing to ever happen to me.
I've said it on here before and will say it again. It sucked at the moment but ultimately it turned out to be the best thing to ever happen to me.
This post was edited on 1/3/18 at 9:22 am
Posted on 1/3/18 at 9:14 am to Rouge
I tell people often that my life is a lifetime movie
Posted on 1/3/18 at 9:15 am to Mike da Tigah
quote:not true
Once a cheater, ____________
i cheated in one relationship
i got caught
knowing how i hurt so many people, well beyond the woman, left a prominent mark on me
i'm still so far from perfect, but that taught me an important lesson that it is ok to walk away from a relationship. it is not ok to take a coward's way out.
Posted on 1/3/18 at 9:16 am to The Mick
quote:That's what I did. But I was so fricking miserable that I realized the best chance for our son was for his mom & I not to be together anymore. It was a tough choice that I live with every day, because now I only get junior half the time, and he's my world. But I could never go back to faking it. That's an excruciating existence full of resentment and feeling like you're owed something that you'll never get.
Friend of mine stayed with his wife after she cheated, for the kids' sake.
Posted on 1/3/18 at 9:20 am to Grit-Eating Shin
quote:
That's what I did. But I was so fricking miserable that I realized the best chance for our son was for his mom & I not to be together anymore. It was a tough choice that I live with every day, because now I only get junior half the time, and he's my world. But I could never go back to faking it. That's an excruciating existence full of resentment and feeling like you're owed something that you'll never get
Did you sex it up again when trying to make it work? I just don't think I could ever bang my wife again and not be thinking about that
Posted on 1/3/18 at 9:21 am to Grit-Eating Shin
quote:That sucks man... I can understand how that would be tough as hell.
It was a tough choice that I live with every day, because now I only get junior half the time, and he's my world. But I could never go back to faking it.
Posted on 1/3/18 at 9:22 am to bayouteche
Mine wouldn't. Some guys may be willing to work it out but I'm not one of them.
Posted on 1/3/18 at 9:22 am to Rouge
quote:
not true
i cheated in one relationship
i got caught
knowing how i hurt so many people, well beyond the woman, left a prominent mark on me
i'm still so far from perfect, but that taught me an important lesson that it is ok to walk away from a relationship. it is not ok to take a coward's way out.
I think it is true, or let’s say it’s not 100 percent perhaps, but it’s still In the 90 percentile , and so as far as I’m concerned, the odds are just far too much to gamble such a personal investment of self on.
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